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Question All right here's the deal. There's this girl I've known for a long time. More than a year. She's about 19, and I myself recently turned 20. Bout a year ago we went out on a craptacular date much to her cause, (consistenly answering txts from other guys). Plus she seemed superficial. Anyway,she tells me to call her b4 i go off to college, i don't. she texts me throughout the year (even drunk called me a couple times). Well, a few month's ago, and she's went through at least one boyfriend that i know of, she gives me a long-sought out apology for her behavior and wants me to get the know the "real" her. I take it sincerely, and it seemed genuine enough. Well for the last couple month's I've texting and called her trying to get in touch, and possibly date. Though originally i just wanted to hang-out she implied she wanted to "go" out. The day after that, i ask and she's apparently going somewhere for friends, (calls me drunk,4:00am, i don't answer)Later i couldn't help but let her know how pissed off that made me, not the drunk calling but the fact she didn't tell me.I tried at every opportunity, she even goes on to tell me she got ditched by a guy, (nature of situation unknown), and keeps fishing for complements by ALWAYS bitching about her body. A couple weeks ago, i asked her out once again, she agrees. The day im supposed to go over to her place, i text-ask her what time she wants me to come over. I receive no reply what so ever till nearly a week later, she's says shes sorry, she had a lot of "stuff" happen and wants to know my plans any day till a sunday, i got this on thursday. I haven't texted or called her back, and it is now wednesday. I made it clear b4 i didn't want to be a friend, and she acknowledged it with no signs of weirdness. Thing is, she uses the word "sorry" like toilet paper, and whatever stuff happened, she could of taken 30 seconds to let me know. Her excuse isn't worth spit. I honestly don't think she has any interest in me, (though her mom hinted she had a crush on me, that was a long time ago though). I am debating whether to just wait to see if she texts me or calls me back, or should try to get in touch.Note i am leaning heavily on just waiting, and truth be told, I think i have no more desire to even have any contact with her, i don't know. I just want to know what you think of this, and what the hell exactly is going through her head. To me, all this points that she is not ready for a real relationship, and she just wants to get drunk and go thru one-night-stands. I'm worried she just wants me to want her, just to boost her self-confidence, even if it hurts me in the process. Please help, she told me she thinks im a "nice guy", and that for any guy is a signal something is foul, regardless of what girls say. I don't want to be taken advantage of, and come off as soft.
Answer Hi Eric! First off, I would like to say that this girl is not worth your time. You pretty much got it right when you said "she is not ready for a real relationship, and she just wants to get drunk and go through one-night stands." It would be better if you just went and found a girl who's ready for a relationship and one where you're both interested in each other. If she contacts you, I would just reply "I'm sorry but I don't think this will work out. Bye" - short, sweet, and to the point. Hope this helps. Feel free to ask me a follow-up. Good luck!
