About Lulu Expertise I can answer any questions having to do with dating, relationships, or wanting to know if someone likes you. If you want to know what is going through someone's mind, or why they are acting a certain way, I'm your gal! I'm not particularly good in the field of homosexuality, however.
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Education/Credentials I have taken psychology courses in the past, and have also gained much experience from high school.
OK So I like this girl and its really bugging me if she
likes me back your not. But i've noticed she's drops all
these hints like:
- she couldn't make it to an event i was dj'ing at, so she
says to be a few hours before that she can't make it and
that "if u get bored when ur there, to just call or text
me." So I did, but she was sleeping, as you do at 12am!
- We were talking on the phone about this and that. Then
comes up the idea that i've haven't been out clubbing with
her. So i agreed, I hadn't been out clubbing with her. Then
she asks me, "oh what would you do if random girls came up
to you in a club", i responded by saying nothing, i don't
know them so i wouldn't talk to them like that, not it if it
was anybody i didn't know. she replied by saying "if i was
there with you i'd tell them to back off." Whether she said
that as a joke i won't know, but sounded a bit hmmmm to me.
- she said to be once that she likes talking to me,
especially when she feels bored or upset. cos she calls me
when shes at work and i am too on the weekends. I joked and
said thanks for that! but she said, well its because then i
get happy and i know im gonna be smiling.
- She's going on holiday soon, So i was like when are you
going on holiday? she responded by saying next week with a
sad face and said i don't wanna go on holiday.
i said why? she replied and said cos then i wouldn't get to
talk to you.
OK so thats the story, I've been talking to her for quite a
while now, been since maybe Jan 09, or March 09, i cant
remember when. But we really get on and I know i really make
her laugh alot. Which I know is good.
But the problem comes that she was with her bf when i was
started talking to her, and she recently broke up with him,
i'd say its coming up to about a month now. So i dont wanna
push it too much with her. But i think she's ok now, like
she never talks about her ex and when she broke up with him,
i was on the receiving end where she was crying so much over
the phone that i felt really bad and wanted to cry for her.
and its then that I decided I don't want anything to hurt
her again, cos she felt like she was used when he cheated on
her in front of her face.
But now we've decided to just meet up for the first time!
even though she lives like 5mins away from me, so i don't
know where to take her.
My idea was to take her shopping and
go out to eat. Which shes ok with But where to eat, do I dine her to lunch or
jus something small like a meal in a not really fancy restaurant.
And she said to me yesterday - "i dont care where we go, im
coming to see you, so it doesn't matter"
and the other day we were talking on the phone for like 2hrs, is that normal? cos when we talk on the phone it lasts a minimum of half hour. And well she was getting tired on the phone, i could hear her yawning, so I said go to sleep, shes like no I wanna chat to you. I'll go when i want to.
Does she really just like chatting to me, or is there something there?
- ALSO, another major question i wanna ask is how should I act on the first date. I know to be myself. But I wanna impress her, make her feel all special. How should I like drop hints or should I tell her how I feel, I'm scared that shes not gonna feel the same and its just gonna b awkward between us. Cos I really want this to work, so I don't wanna give away alot of how I feel about her. But I want her to kinda get the hint. And what should I look out for when I'm with her to know if she likes me?
tell me what that means and please help me! i really really
dont wanna lose her!
shes always in my head, and we always talk before we go to bed. and im just mesmorisze about her. shes all i can think about, all i can talk about, even my cousins are like you need to stop talking about her. but i just cant help it
btw shes 19, im 20, (shes 20 in sept), we're both from london, england
ANSWER: Dear Harry,
Don't be afraid of losing her! I think she wants to be more than friends too since you guys talk every night for so long. On the first date, well... first of al, did you mention it was a date? She might be confused about your intentions. She's wondering "Is this just hanging out or am I on a date??" Then she won't know how to act, whether she should be flirty or be casual. Take her to a nice little cafe or something where you can really talk to her, or if it's for dinner, take her to a semi-fancy resteraunt. For example, NOT McDONALDS! haha. You don't want to go to the most expensive place, but still somewhere where you don't come in sweats and your hair pulled back into a ponytail. Tell her that you're having a great time about halfway into dinner. Look right into her eyes when she's talking to you and smile occasionally. Then when you talk, look at her for about 5 seconds then look down, playing with your napkin and smile. You don't have to do that, I'm just giving you an example of showing her signs that you like her without saying it. If you're nervous you'll probably do things like that anyways. Btw, when you take a girl shopping as a date, it's not the best idea, but it could work. Like, she might be trying on things and ask you what you think of them and how she looks. That's when you say she always looks beautiful. OR if thats too cheesy for you, just say, "I really like it" and smile. Plus, if you're at the mall, have some ideas as to which stores you want to go to in case she's the type who always says they don't care where you take them (to avoid awkwardness). Don't be afraid to show her how you feel because I think she likes you, and girls love guys who tell them exactly how they feel. Even if she doesn't like you, she will still be flattered and you can still be friends. Maybe you could say at dinner, "I really like you. If you don't like me, I don't want our friendship to be affected, I'll still be your realy good friend, but I just thought you should know." She will think that's really sweet. Good luck!
-Lulu
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QUESTION: Hii, I thought i'd give u an update. Yeah I met her for the first time face to face yesterday. well basically i took her out yesterday, we went shopping, cos she wanted to get some stuff for her holiday. and she was dropping a few hints here or there about what she likess, what her fav. shops and foods are and she wud ask my opinion on stuff she was picking out. But i also noticed she played and twirled her hair ALOT (i dunno if thats a good sign), she wud touch herself like rub her arm and she would look at me occasionally and look away as soon as she knew i was looking at her too. but she was laughing throughout the day, and YES i did pay lol, i paid for the food, but she insisted on paying for the clothes she got. i was like lets plan something when you come back, shes like yeah we'll go sumwhere when im back from my holiday and she txted me later saying "thanks for today, i enjoyed it". It was a good day, i enjoyed it, but I hope she did too. The thing is we talk nearly everyday, and im afraid if i talk to her too much, she mite get annoyed. Do you think i shud give her some space too? I'm not sure wat to do next..
Answer That's great!!!!!! She definitely likes you. I think you if you're really worried about it, you should wait to txt her or call until she calls you. If she still does every day, then don't worry about it! Use how much she txts you to determine how much you should txt her if that makes sense?
-Lulu
