Expert: Latoya - 8/20/2009

Question
met this nice girl a week or so ago, she's in one of my classes, which last two hours, and for the past two common lessons we've had, we've spoken quite a lot. She's almost 21, i've just turned 20.

It's hard to tell if she's interested in me in that way, but she does start conversations, there is eye contact etc... but anyway, that's not really the issue... Anyways, so I sent her a Facebook message a few days ago asking if she'd like to grab a coffee or something on tuesday (today is wednesday), and she said her day was pretty chocablock but she was meeting up with some friends at 3 and it'd be super great if I could come along, (but unfortunately I had a class at 3 so I couldnt), and she also said that we should totally grab a coffee at this particular cafe sometime... anyway I sent her back a message on monday saying okay how about we have that coffee something on wednesday or thursday! And she hasn't replied... I did see her in class yesterday, and there was no awkwardness, there was smiling and good conversation etc, I guess I should've brought it up then, but because we were in class it was difficult to have a private conversation with her and i was kind of a bit too nervous, and she had to leave early to catch her train so I couldn't catch her then either...I only see her every wednesday you see, and its in the afternoon 4-6, so its kinda difficult to organise something face-to-face for the next day or the day after, because its short notice, and also she usually leaves early anyway, so its hard to catch her alone...and I don't have her phone number either!

1) so should I give it another shot - is there at least a chance she likes me back?
2)should I send her another email asking her if she's up for doing something next week, seeing as i dont have her number?
3) and if so, any ideas as to when I should send her it? I don't want to hassle her or scare her away!

THANKS! :)

Answer
Hello Thomas,

Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to answer your question.  There is a possibility that she does like you, but honestly it's too early to tell.  It's possible that she didn't get your message yet from Facebook which is why she hasn't responded.  If she has received it and hasn't replied then I would view it as her just wanting to be friends.  I would wait at least a week or so before asking her out again to give her enough time to respond.  If you ask her again and she says she's busy or never responds than I would not ask her out again, I would let her come to you.  You're definitely doing everything on your part to display that you're wanting to get to know her.  The ball is in her court.

Good Luck!

Latoya