Expert: Lulu - 8/6/2009

Question
I've recently met a Marine online. I'm not too sure what to think. We've been talking for a month, getting to know each other. Something tells me to stick around and that I could be in for a fun relationship. He's really sexual though. We've had the conversation about not building a relationship only on a sexual level. There is so much that we agree on, it's freaky. Like why date somebody, if they couldn't be your best friend too? I've never told anyone a few private things, except for him. I don't feel as secretive with my personal information when I tell him certain things about myself. We were planning on hanging out with he comes home on leave. I don't want to rush things, when we started speaking to each other, I wasn't looking for any kind of relationship. I just wanted to get my life on track to be able to stand on my own two feet. Now, I am thinking way different. I've had a problem with trust in past relationships. With him, I feel definitely different. Anyway, I really like him, but sometimes I'm afraid of failure. I don't like to waste time on relationships I know won't work out. I'd like to know where this kind of relationship is going. Thank you!

Answer
Dear Katie,

Just talking about sexual things isn't a solid base for a relationship. You have to relate on a friendship level and have substance. If you went out with him, it sounds like all he would want to do is have sex. In which case, would be a waste of a relationship.
-Lulu