Expert: Nikki - 7/10/2007

Question
hi i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 19 and we have been going out with eachother for over the past 10 months and we have had so many arguemnts, fallern out alot then get back together. Recently he has found a job working full-time and i never get to see him hardly only at weekends but sometimes i feel he doesnt want to meet up with me. We only talk on phone and when i do meet him he is out with mates and he always stares at other girls a constant looking stare in front of me face and i tell him to stop looking but he says he isnt. I worry then he doesnt like me and he have been acting strange he use 2 hug and kiss me alot now he never does he use to say i love you emma and now he never does. I worry he likes or loves someone else but he says he doesnt. Am i being so paranoid i dunno i get upset alot that i never see him and i tell him and he doesnt seem to understand how much i love and miss him.

Answer
Hi Emma! Wow, sometimes you just have to be straightforward with these things. Just ask him, if he's losing interest, or say something like "how come we don't hug and kiss like we use to?" or "do you really love me?" See what he says, and what happens. Maybe he's just really stressed out, but you need to talk to him quickly. Or because of this new job, he maybe feels that he doesn't really wanna be tied down right now. I can't really tell you what's gonna happen. What I can say is that you really need to talk to him, and try and get the truth out of him. If he gets really upset when you're asking about this, he may have something to hide. But try it anyways because it's better to find out now, then to keep worrying what's gonna happen later. Good Luck! Let me know how it turns out, and/or if I can assist you further!!