Expert: Alexandra - 3/31/2007

Question
QUESTION: im 16 and so was my boyfriend and about 3 weeks ago he broke up with me because he didnt want a girlfriend anymore and he needed "space". We were together for a year and a half and i was his first real love. In the beginning of the break up he said maybe or maybe not hed come back to me he didnt know though. well i called him and talked about the relationship a lot and he got so mad and said we could NEVER EVER go back out because we had broken up 5 times over stupid little things and he didnt want to do it anymore. he said he wanted to remain friends but now he totally ignores me, doesnt look at me, or anything! i have two classes with him in school and people say he does look at me and stuff and when i was talking to this guy up close the guy said he saw him give him a dirty look. i just understand how he could be so set on the fact that he'll never go back out with me. he said he just really got bored and wasnt happy and felt we got too serious and he was missing out with his friends..but i told him i was trying to get better about those things but he gave up! ive been ignoring him and acting like it doesnt bother me..but he has yet to come to me or talk to me..what should i do to get him to come back to me? i still really like him!
ANSWER: Heyy Kate...
Well that is a hard problem.. but you can't really make him come back to you. Talk to him no matter what if he ignores you, call him don't mention relationships... stay away from that topic. Don't give up just yet some times people need time to deal with their feelings..
Hope this helps if you need more help ask for a follow-up.

Ali

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QUESTION: yeah but tons of guys are telling me to just not talk to him and give him his space and let him come to me if hes going to. hes just really burned out on relationships and i mean he only is 16 and 1 yr and 4 mos is a long time for that age..and i dont wanna call him and push him away even further. guys are telling me that once he sees im fine and ive totally moved on that will bother him and i mean he seems like he gets jealous when im with or talk to other guys. and a lot of guys say im really pretty and stuff..his friend said he was also checking me out when i was at my locker..do u think this advice is right and will work..and do u think he misses me or really does get jealous??

Answer
Heyy
I think he does miss you.. I think he misses the fact of having someone to love && hold && having someone of his own. I think you should wait a bit more && if he comes to you great if not try.. i repeat try approaching him.

Hope this helps, if more help is needed ask for a follow-up.

Ali