AboutDavid Gross Expertise If you are truly seeking answers or information I will do my best to answer questions related to any aspect of the LDS Church.
Experience I have been a member of the church for 27+ years after being raised as a not very active Reform Jew.
Question I was wondering--
My whole family (including me) is Byzantine Catholic, and I have been dating a Mormon guy for around 15 months now.
He really wants to be married in the temple, and wants me to convert to Mormonism.
Hypothetically, if we were to be married is there any way my parents could see me get married? I am their oldest daughter, and I really don't want to cause any rift between us, which I know this would.
I thought I heard from somewhere that if you got permission, then you were able to....but I'm not sure on that.
Would they be able to see me get married at all?
Answer The simple answer is no. That said, however, I would like to explain the most basic reason why and make some general comments.
To enter the temple to be married or to observe a temple marriage you must first be a member for a minimum of one year.
Our Church makes some rather bold claims e.g. the Joseph Smith story of the first vision and the origin of the Book of Mormon. If you come to believe that they are true then it somewhat changes your perspective on what is important. An example is temple marriage. If what we believe is true then what your parents think about not being able to see you get married is a rather minor issue in the eternal perspective.
I suggest that you and your parents listen to the missionaries and what they have to teach. After that, you and your parents will be better able to make a decision. Maybe you will all join the LDS Church and then they can be sealed together as well as see you and your husband get married.
I was once in your position. I was raised in the Jewish faith. A scripture that has a lot of meaning for me is Alma 32:27 in the Book of Mormon.
"But behold, if ye will awake and arouse your faculties, even to an experiment upon my words, and exercise a particle of faith, yea, even if ye can no more than a desire to believe, let this desire work in you, even until ye believe in a manner that ye can give place for a portion of my words."
I started with no faith in God or any religion but eventually I began to have a desire to believe.
Please write again if you have any further questions or comments.
