Expert: Hannah - 4/28/2007

Question
Hey,
Im sure you get alot of questions about this, sorry to bug you. But, I'm 16 and im a buhdist, but the guy im dating, for almost a year (age 16) is a Mormon. Will he be frowned upon, I have a feeling that his parents don't trust me but my religion is very strict as well so I'm a good girl. (Good marks, dont drink or smoke). I want whats best for him, I'm just not sure if I'm what is best for him. And what do Mormons think about Buhdists? Thanks!

Answer
On the contrary. This subject is so vast that there are so many different things to be asked.

Well, if he doesn't have a problem with dating you, then there shouldn't be one.  Now, are you a deistic Buddhist or not? (As in, are you an "enlightened individual" or are you the whole kit and caboodle Buddhist).  His parents may just be the type that don't trust people their children are dating. There are some parents in all religions that are like that.  They might not even trust a Mormon girl, so that might not be your fault.

We're encouraged to avoid marrying outside the faith, but even that is not forbidden.

Mormons have nothing against Buddhists. In fact, I've met "Buddhist" Mormons. (Ones who believe in Mormonism theologically, but embrace the Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path). I'm half one myself. If you are the type of Buddhist who believes in devas and such, that's not quite the same theologically as Mormonism. But Mormons generally believe that Buddhists have beautiful things in the way they live that Mormons could learn from.

If you're really worried that his parents have a problem with you, depending on your relationship to them, talk to him or his parents.

It's wonderful that you're thinking of him.

If you need something else, feel free to ask.