Expert: Blue Sleighty - 9/5/2009

Question
Hiii miss Blue

                         I am a lesbian girl , My girl friend & I intend to try anal sex
but, we are very afraid of stds or any other disease will be created from contacting each others anuses , so we have some inquires
1- what is the hygienic procedures to be done before lesbo anal sex ?
2- Do we shit ( defecate ) normally after that ? if the opening is widen ?
3- Should we empty our rectum before doing it ?
4- Could she kiss me deeply in mouth after analingus?
5- I have long nails does they affect my sweetie rectum or harm the hole ?
6- what is the side effects ?
7- Could we do it vaginally after anally ?

                              Please Help
                                    Caroline & Natallia  

Answer
Caroline & Natallia,

Thank you for your questions! If done correctly anal sex can be mind blowing.

It is best to be as clean as possible when having anal sex. Having a bowel movement and then a shower before is good if possible. (assuming that the extent of your sexual experience will not go to the extreme)

Special care should be taken to make sure that sex toys and fingers that have been in contact with the anus or inside the rectum do not come into contact with the vaginal area during stimulation or get inserted into the vagina via penetration. The anus and rectum has bacteria that can cause infections should the bacteria come into contact with the vaginal area or is introduced inside the vagina. The bacteria can also be spread from kissing after analingus or performing cunnilingus after analingus.

Using condoms and exam gloves can make anal sex much easier. Dental dams are also recommended for analingus. After anal penetration you can remove or change the condom (or glove) and you are ready for vaginal penetration without the distraction of having to get up and go wash up.

Long fingernails can injure the tissue inside the rectum, as well as make it difficult to wash away the harmful bacteria. It is better to have short nails for vaginal penetration as well as anal penetration.

Occasional carefully administered anal sex will probably not cause any changes. Frequent anal sex administered in a rough way can cause a number of problems, including hemorrhoids, anal fissure or even colonic perforation.

Discuss with your partner about the need for the inserter to go very slowly and gently. If you say stop, she must stop. Use plenty of lube (like KY liquid). If fingers are going penetrate  your anus, they need to be short, smooth, and clean.
Before engaging in anal sex there should be plenty of foreplay and clitoral stimulation. Some people like to begin with digital penetration introduced very slowly (clitoral stimulation should continue). Be sure to pay attention to what your lover is saying).
If you use a dildo, make sure it's soft and flexible, not stiff. This will help protect you against colonic perforations.

Be sure to understand and follow safer sex guidelines to avoid getting or giving infections, including HIV. Condoms need to be used for sexual activities where body fluids may be involved (including anal sex).

Have fun!

Regards,
Blue Sleighty