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Dear Blue,

Hello, it's me again. So, my girl friend ( the beautiful I met in the library) and I are going very strong. We have a great relationship, and I'm very happy.

My question: okay, so the other night she and I were being intimate when she asked me to fist her. It kinda shocked me, not because I'm against it or anything, just never anything I thought about doing or knew she would ever want. Anyway, that request basically haulted the entire intimate entanglement. I told her I wasn't comfortable doing it because I didn't know how and was scared to hurt her. She couldn't instruct me only how to properly do it either. I mean when I asked her how her only instructions were "slowly start pushing your hand it".

I wouldn't. I know it can be dangerous to her. I don't want to cause her any internal damage. However, I know it is something she really wants and I would love to bring her the pleasure she desires. How do I go about it? What is it I need to know, she needs to know so that this goes smoothly? How can I be sure to not hurt her? Anything suggestions or advice would be appreciated.


I will find some references for you on this subject and follow up with them. Normally I would simply answer the question, but unfortunately I have someone writing to me and masquerading as several different people seeking advice. Until I can get to the bottom of what their motive is- I will be referring people to other really good and professional resources.

I am about to take a vacation from this for a few weeks due to this fact.

I will send you links to some expert articles on the subject tomorrow.

Thank you for you inquiry and I am sorry I can't answer you personally at this time. I hope you understand.


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BLUE SLEIGHTY HAS BEEN AN EXPERT FOR OVER 5 YEARS! I will do my best to answer any legitimate question. If I can NOT answer it- I will be happy to provide references to someone that I believe can help you.


I have been a lesbian all of my life, and realized that there was something different going on with me by the time I was 6 years old. I have faced the same issues and have made many of the same mistakes that other lesbians have. Part of my journey as a woman and a lesbian has included educating myself, and exploring my sexuality and my body. I have had a wealth of experiences and while marching down my path seeking a better understanding of myself and others, I have gathered information along the way from studying publications of the best sex experts of our time, like Susie Bright, Annie Sprinkle (who is a lesbian, now!), Xaviera Hollander (who is doing some great work on YouTube these days!), and many others. I have been fortunate to benefit from the wisdom, experience and research of these brilliant and brave women as well as my own. I have had an active and adventurous sex life and I am a healthy and happy woman. I am published and a widely known writer of lesbian erotica.

MySecretObsession.com, AuthorsDen.com, AuthorZone.com, CafeBoudoir.com, many others. Author of 25 short stories, and 3 novellas which can be found at Amazon.com, and Lulu.com , as well as many other on line book sellers. You can also find me on Facebook and Twitter.

Along with the privledge of having an oddly interesting and far from boring life which has afforded me a rather unique perspective, I have an AA from the Texas Academy of Art. I am a midwife and worked with a team of midwives at a birthing center where I performed well woman exams, managed prenatal care, and delivered babies as well as managing home births for 3 years, which gives me plenty of hands on experience with the female body. I have the equivalent of a MA in life experiences and personal independent study as measured by UH life credit testing, and I constantly read college psychology textbooks, Psychology/Psychiatry News in the AMAJ, Psychology Today, and other educational journals. I write professionally and am respected and loved in the genre of lesbian erotica. I am a lesbian mother of a now adult, well-adjusted, degreed, happily married for 5 years, heterosexual daughter. I'm 40.

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Every time someone thanks me for helping them is an award and an honor for me. Also, I was just thanked by the author, 'the mysterious Jade', in the acknowledgements of her new, page turning lesbian erotic thriller, "Secretly Bound", for being her mentor and for inspiration, advice and friendship. I have business associations with some of the best artists and writers of our time.

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