AboutBlue Sleighty Expertise I will do my best to answer any legitimate question. If I can NOT answer it- I will be happy to provide references to someone that I believe can help.
Experience I have been a lesbian all of my life. I have had an active and adventurous sex life. I am published and widely known writer of lesbian erotica.
Education/Credentials I have an AA from Texas Academy of Art. I write professionally and am respected and loved in the genre of lesbian erotica.
Expert: Blue Sleighty Date: 7/27/2007 Subject: "my woman a freak but how do i make here only want my wood"
Question My name is coriontaye cortinez and i am writing today cause my girl loves to have sex since i'm not able to see her on a regular she tell me that since she has male friends she can fuck and do what she want how do i get her to understand that its not healthy having multiple partners August 14 is our 3 year anniversary and i wanna do sumthin special but how do i know how to please if she already done everything. She told me she had sex with 2 cousins in the rap studio she said she like it what must i do to keep her?
Answer The hardest part about being in love is learning to trust someone.
And, it is up to the two people involved in the relationship to negotiate the boundaries of their relationship.
Sometimes, it is easier to make decisions about a love relationship, if you step back and look at your arrangement like a "business" negotiation.
Then you can ask yourself the hard questions without the emotions of love and the passions of sex clouding your judgement.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. What do I want from this relationship?
2. What do I expect of my partner?
3. What am I willing to tolerate?
4. What am I NOT willing to tolerate?
You can not control another person. You can only control yourself. If your partner is not acting within the boundaries of what you, as a couple, agreed to- then your partner has broken the deal. There is nothing you can do about that but move on. Because, unfortunately- you can talk until you have no oxygen left, and it will make absolutely no difference. Your partner has to be WILLING to control themselves and act according to the boundaries of your agreement.
Your statement tells me that you KNOW, that aside from the fact that your feelings are getting hurt- your partner's lack of self control and judgement are endangering both you and your partner.
Therefore, you may need to find someone that knows how to commit themselves and behave fairly and with self control and respect the boundaries of your agreement.
