AboutBlue Sleighty Expertise I will do my best to answer any legitimate question. If I can NOT answer it- I will be happy to provide references to someone that I believe can help.
Experience I have been a lesbian all of my life. I have had an active and adventurous sex life. I am published and widely known writer of lesbian erotica.
Education/Credentials I have an AA from Texas Academy of Art. I write professionally and am respected and loved in the genre of lesbian erotica.
Expert: Blue Sleighty Date: 7/17/2007 Subject: What can I do to...
Question Well me and my girlfriend just started to get really sexual and every time I finger her or something, she says she cant feel it. How can I make her feel it if she's not up to toys?
Answer Shakkai-
Women require a lot of clitoral stimulation, and a lot of foreplay usually, before penetration feels good to them.
The use of lubrication on the clitoris heightens stimulation. Using your fingers to stimulate her for 15 to 30 minutes while you kiss her and caress her should make her much more receptive to penetration. She will let you know when she is ready.
Some women feel anxious about sex, and whether or not they are "performing" well. Your attitude about this needs to remain positive, loving and encouraging.
I will be happy to provide you with links to websites that I think can make your sex life with your girlfriend a very gratifying one.
Just let me know if you think that would be helpful.
