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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| coming out | 1/8/2012 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I'm 14 and I've been dating my girlfriend for about 9 months now. Neither of us have told our family ... A: I wouldn't tell your mom's at the same time in the same room. That could be dangerous. You see ... | ||
| I cant talk to girls | 1/7/2012 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I personally believe that im quite confident, and relatively attractive - im quite secure in myself ... A: The only thing I know of that helps get over that is letting go of worry. You have to allow the idea ... | ||
| I think I'm Lesbian. | 1/3/2012 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I think I might be lesbian. I watch lesbian almost all night and I'm only 13. I don't think I'm ... A: All I can tell you is that you should just try and be friends and figure life out. I understand that ... | ||
| What did I do wrong? | 12/30/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: My name is Ely and I', 24 year-old college student. I’ve moved from Vietnam to the U.S. since 2008. ... A: This is a complicated question to answer. Your friend, Chelsea is one of the few people I know of to ... | ||
| how to tell my kids im lesbian? | 12/30/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: Long story short I have 2 children both daughters 4 and 6 years old. I've been in a relationship ... A: I'm not necessarily the best person to help you with this but I do know that the younger a kid is ... | ||
| does arousal mean i'am a lesbian? | 12/16/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I'am a girl and I have ocd so I tend to worry alot about things and it has latched onto my sexual ... A: Just because you are excited by women does not make you a lesbian, however, you are probably ... | ||
| Married and confused | 12/13/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I am writing to you because I am confused about my feelings for women. I am married and have been ... A: You should think of your personal happiness. You should look to going for what you want and although ... | ||
| I'll do anything to save this relationship | 12/12/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: Little background.. In March I moved to the state my gf is in. to-date weve been together 15 ... A: Honestly it sounds like your in a currently unhealthy relationship. Now, that isn't entirely ... | ||
| How do I tell my parents? | 12/8/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: Ok, so, I'm 12 years old, almost 13 in a month, & I've known I was a lesbian for about a year now. I ... A: Well, maybe you should consider not telling them for a while. Parents aren't likely to believe you ... | ||
| confusing relationship | 12/8/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I'm a fifteen year old girl. I have a boyfriend who I really like, but when I was twelve I had a ... A: I know a lot of girls who are bisexual but are very picky about one gender or the other. Two of my ... | ||
| How to get her attention. | 12/4/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: My question straight out is how do I flirt with a girl or get her to like me? I'm so attracted to a ... A: Flirting doesn't have a straightforward answer. You might not know how to flirt but just being ... | ||
| Confusion | 12/3/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: It's the first time i'm asking a question and it's cause i'm really confused.It's been a long time ... A: Clearly you love her. However, you should probably keep these feelings to yourself while you are in ... | ||
| How do I tell my parents? | 11/25/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: Ok, so, I'm 12 years old, almost 13 in a month, & I've known I was a lesbian for about a year now. I ... A: Well, you probably just need to find a way to tell them that works with your parents. My brother has ... | ||
| trying to understand my girlfriend | 11/24/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I have been in my first ever lesbian relationship for 3 months, everything was perfect apart from ... A: Well, personally I would never consider that cheating. I think you should apologize and make sure ... | ||
| 8 year age difference? | 11/24/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I'm 18, and a freshman at University. I met a woman who is 26. She's gay, and I'm enamored by her. ... A: Well personally I have always found the saying 'age is just a number' to be pretty true. You may ... | ||
| How do I tell my parents? | 11/23/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: Ok, so, I'm 12 years old, almost 13 in a month, & I've known I was a lesbian for about a year now. I ... A: I understand completely the feeling of uncertainty. I told my dad when I was 11 or 12. He didn't ... | ||
| Lesbian or Bisexual? | 11/22/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: Recently I have came out to my family that I am gay and at first they were upset but said they would ... A: If you aren't attracted to men then you just aren't. Convincing yourself that you are bisexual will ... | ||
| Help | 11/21/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: I'm 19 years old and have recently been considering my sexuality. This has come about because I fell ... A: I'm 18 years old, as I'm sure you know from my profile, and I grew up in a mennonite family. ... | ||
| Questioning | 10/29/2011 | Kelsey Isaak |
| Q: one of my closest friends recently came out to me that she is bisexual. For a while I have ... A: Honestly, don't wonder what you are constantly. The easiest way to figure out who you are is to ... | ||
| Girl I might | 10/17/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: Well you see theres this girl I think I like, but then again I'm not sure if him straight or gay. ... A: well, reader, you sound like your bi curious. your not a lesbian because your attracted to both sex. ... | ||
| Coming out ..A Lesbian | 10/16/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: I watch lots of lesbian movies and enjoys it. Also I reveries about females kissing all the time. ... A: Brooke, if we worry about what people thinks about us, or what society believe or think that we ... | ||
| confused 19yr old girl | 10/11/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: Basically, I'm 19 and have been confused about my sexuality since I was at least 16, if not a little ... A: hey dp, definitely you are confused, because you sound confusing to me, but i managed to read and ... | ||
| How do I know if my friend likes me? | 10/9/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: Well, basically I've known her for quite some time now since high school and we only got really ... A: There's no sure way to tell what your friend's intentions are except to ask. So what I suggest you ... | ||
| co-worker.... too much? | 10/5/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: I'm very flirty, random, and i mess around with people at work because it can get boring. i would ... A: I think you know the answer to that, yes you did go a little to far. I think that this is a work ... | ||
| Girl Crush | 10/3/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: Hey there, Im not particularly sure how to go about this, but its been on my mind so much lately ... A: hey there confused, your name says it all, you are surely confused. Hold it down, You sound like ... | ||
| our first time together | 10/1/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: my girlfriend and I have been together for a able and she brought up the subject of us having sex.. ... A: Hey Amanda, Well if it's going to be her first time, and you do not want to use your fingers and ... | ||
| My girlfriend was gay | 9/30/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I have been with an amazing girl for the last six months. Here's my problem: prior to being with me, ... A: Much of my advice regarding your girlfriend remains the same as she needs to fully identify and ... | ||
| A little issue.. | 9/30/2011 | Kerdija Charles |
| Q: I have sort of an embarrassing problem. I'm bisexual and I have been dating my girlfriend for about ... A: Alexis having problems reaching an orgasm, is really frustrating in most lesbian relationship. In ... | ||
| How to tell my lesbian friend that I'm bi and I like her | 9/28/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I am a 19 year old female who identifies as bisexual. The story is a bit long, but I’ll try to keep ... A: I believe that sexuality is fluid and it is about the person in your life at that time so I dont put ... | ||
| My girlfriend was gay | 9/26/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I have been with an amazing girl for the last six months. Here's my problem: prior to being with me, ... A: I absolutely think she is repressing herself. Lack of parental support/homophobia is the main clue ... | ||
| How to tell my lesbian friend that I'm bi and I like her | 9/26/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I am a 19 year old female who identifies as bisexual. The story is a bit long, but I’ll try to keep ... A: Firstly, I am glad to see that, in the first light, it appears you are very clear about your own ... | ||
| Confused with my partner | 9/16/2011 | Lena Torres |
| Q: My girlfriend (30 years old) and me (18 years old) are in a long distance relationship for 4 years, ... A: At 30, if you make a list of what you need from a partner, it is difficult find someone who is 18 ... | ||
| Coming out | 9/15/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and I live in Colombia (South America) however all my family's from Spain. You can ... A: Many thanks for your email. Firstly let me assure you, you are not alone in this and that many young ... | ||
| Break up, or not? | 9/13/2011 | Lena Torres |
| Q: . Um.. I'm not really sure how to begin... I've been in a long distance relationship with my ... A: In my experience, cheating doesn't happen because "there are too many cute girls around." It ... | ||
| another one :)) | 9/12/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: how do i know if im bi/lesbian? you see im from an all girls school..and all the people that i get ... A: Much of this covered in my other email but I will say, it is not your choice if you are gay. So yes ... | ||
| friendly or flirty?:(( | 9/12/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: )) i would just like to ask.. how would you know if someone is just being friendly with you?flirty ... A: It sounds like you are all very confused. Some people flirt with both sexes because they like the ... | ||
| Friends..maybe more? | 9/12/2011 | Lena Torres |
| Q: I've been friends with a girl for 2 years now. This year we got really close. Now I'm a lesbian and ... A: One thing I recommend that folks do is, create a side-by-side list labeled 'Wants' on one column and ... | ||
| Ref: question | 9/11/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: Good day Can you tell me what are the main psychological reasons (conditioning) that causes some ... A: Many thanks for your email. I receive this question a great deal from spouses who are struggling to ... | ||
| WHAT TO DO | 8/24/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 3 years now. My parents don't like her and I have tried to fix that ... A: Is there are good reason why they do not like her? They may feel they are trying to protect you, ... | ||
| The lesbian world | 8/20/2011 | Joanne Clarke-Under The Blossom Tree |
| Q: I left my husband for a woman four years ago. I am still with the same woman ,and generally ... A: I get lots of emails regarding this type of subject. This is not a situation exclusive to the ... | ||
Lesbian Life
Answers by Expert:
Kelsey Isaak
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer almost any question regarding being a lesbian, coming out, etc.
Experience
I am a lesbian and have been out of the closet for 7 years now. I have lived through 6th grade-college as an out and proud lesbian. I have dated several times and have come out to my family. I have friends of all sexualities, some of whom I have helped come to terms with their own sexuality. I founded and was president of my high school Gay Straight Alliance.
Organizations
Gay Straight Alliance, Queer Student Union, Gay Fresno.
Education/Credentials
I am a college student at the University of Nevada, Reno.
Awards and Honors
I have earned many awards for competing in Mock Trial and History Day in high school. In Mock Trial I earned 3 achievement awards, a medal for county champions, and for second place. In History Day, my performance group has won 1st in county, 1st in state, and 8th/5th in the Nation two years in a row.
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