Expert: Maenad Loyce - 1/5/2008

Question
I met my girlfriend in feb right from the start I knew she was the love of my life...she is married is planning on leaving her husband however there is a business she would lose half of so she is trying to do things slowly. However today she asked me to move in with them. I cant stand him he is abusive...and I am very protective of her.  She wants to build an inlaw suite..I am totally against it...makes me wonder what her true intentions are....am I wrong for felling this way

Answer
You're not wrong for feeling the way you do, Debbie. There are no right or wrong feelings, only right or wrong actions.

I'm suspicious of her intentions as well. What exactly does she think is going to come out of this, that you three can live all together in harmony and she won't have to deal with the result of her choices?

I don't know what your relationship is like with this woman but I suggest you look at the dynamic a little closer. I know you said she is the love of your life but sometimes that can blind you to the realities, my dear.

Ultimately it will be your choice to pursue a vague possibility or refuse to settle for less than what you want. I can't make that choice for you. All I can do is tell you that you need to be careful with your heart.

Good luck and feel free to write again any time.