| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
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| sexual attraction | 9/6/2008 | Maenad Loyce |
Q: I am a woman and have been having a hard time really defining what sexual attraction is and how it ...
A: I doubt you'll be able to make peace with the subject if you're an obsessive over-thinker, my dear. ...
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| married | 9/5/2008 | Maenad Loyce |
Q: we got married w/o knowing eachother very well. it was a whirlwind and I wanted it as much as she ...
A: You know what you must do, my dear. I know how difficult it is to give up because there's always a ...
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| lesbian? | 9/5/2008 | Michelle |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: I'm not sure I can answer so many questions all in one letter, but I will try to hit the main points ...
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| lesbian? | 9/4/2008 | Michelle |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: I would say that yes, those are fantasies...they are "scenarios" that you play out in your ...
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| sexual attraction | 9/4/2008 | Maenad Loyce |
Q: I am a woman and have been having a hard time really defining what sexual attraction is and how it ...
A: Your questions made perfect sense, Erin. I'll tackle the easy ones first, if I may. Yes, women who ...
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| confused live together | 9/3/2008 | Maenad Loyce |
Q: I've been with my now ex gf for about 2 years. She is my first girlfriend. I went thru so many ...
A: "Even tho i felt my soul was not really in it, i kept blaming my back and forth behavior on the ...
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| lesbian? | 9/3/2008 | Michelle |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: no, I don't think it is all weird, not even a little. I think it is pretty normal and natural, and ...
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| please help | 9/3/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I have a little crisis and wondering if you could please help!! I'm a female and have developped ...
A: I think the best thing you can do is, like I said, ask her to go to dinner again, or to a movie. ...
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| Very lonely and confused | 9/3/2008 | Michelle |
Q: and honestly don't really know where to start. I'm 18 and live in a small town where this whole ...
A: Nana, you are in a very difficult place right now. But there are some ways you can make it better. ...
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| confused live together | 9/2/2008 | Maenad Loyce |
Q: I've been with my now ex gf for about 2 years. She is my first girlfriend. I went thru so many ...
A: Yes, Becky, you've gotten yourself into a mess. This is the kind of mess one gets into when one ...
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| please help | 9/2/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I have a little crisis and wondering if you could please help!! I'm a female and have developped ...
A: sometimes it takes a little time to figure out if we are "bi" "gay" or "lesbian." Personally, I ...
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| A Christian Lesbian -- an Oxymoron? | 9/2/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I want to be a lesbian, but I can't reconcile lesbianism with being a Christian. Doesn't the Bible ...
A: A Christian Lesbian -- an Oxymoron? Nope, I AM a lesbian Christian...or a Christian who happens to ...
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| Dealing with feelings | 9/1/2008 | Michelle |
Q: You seem to be pretty good at remembering people, so I hope you’ll remember me. I’ve written you ...
A: good to hear from you again. Let's start with the friend...yes, it is VERY possible that she was ...
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| is she flirting? | 8/31/2008 | Michelle |
Q: ive known a woman at work for couple years, she's married although im pretty sure its not a happy ...
A: there is nothing wrong with wanting to help her deal with abuse and self esteem issues, but to be ...
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| lesbian? | 8/31/2008 | Michelle |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: I am happy to help try and figure all this out with you. First of all, it will help if you ...
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| coming out | 8/30/2008 | Michelle |
Q: for a 3 years now i have had feelings for women and i am 16 i have been in a relationship with a ...
A: Alice, this is such a huge question with so many factors involved in the decision to come out. So ...
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| homosex | 8/29/2008 | Michelle |
Q: is sex between two males can cause AIDS OR STD
A: Sex between two males can expose both people to AIDS or STD's just like sex between two straight ...
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| idk | 8/29/2008 | Michelle |
Q: hey, Um well I'm Amanda I have writen to you before and you always have the best advice. Here's a ...
A: Yes, it is definitely okay to be scared to change. It is okay to be scared period. Here's the ...
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| idk | 8/28/2008 | Michelle |
Q: hey, Um well I'm Amanda I have writen to you before and you always have the best advice. Here's a ...
A: I remember you very well, and am really happy to hear from you again. I know that it is very hard ...
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| wife....lesbian | 8/27/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I'll try to be brief. My wife asked me to check why the computer is sooo slow and I came across web ...
A: you are very welcome. The fact that the erotica sites were story sites makes a lot of sense, ...
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| is she flirting? | 8/26/2008 | Michelle |
Q: ive known a woman at work for couple years, she's married although im pretty sure its not a happy ...
A: It sounds like there is a definite possibility there that she is flirting...usually our gut has a ...
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| wife....lesbian | 8/26/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I'll try to be brief. My wife asked me to check why the computer is sooo slow and I came across web ...
A: I think that it is really good that the two of you are going to go in for counseling, that is a ...
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| Crush on colleague | 8/26/2008 | Terese |
Q: i work in a school and have a crush on a teacher. The thing is i cant figure out if shes down or ...
A: Curious, Well, in situations like these your best bet is to trust your gut. God didn't give us ...
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| Not sure what to think | 8/26/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I feel quite nervous asking all this, so sorry, in advance, if I end up waffling. I'm 23. I met this ...
A: I often say that 95% of what I do here is act as a sounding board. I think it is less about any ...
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| help please | 8/26/2008 | Terese |
Q: ok soo i met this really amazing girl. and i wasnt lesbian, but she admitted to having a crush on me ...
A: Hey Barbra, Listen, I'm going to be totally real with you even though you might not want to hear ...
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| Help! | 8/25/2008 | Michelle |
Q: ..I have been in a 4 year relationship (pretty much long distance the whole time) and recently ...
A: ..I am so sorry. So sorry. I am forever amazed at how there are people out there who will use ...
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| My transitional love | 8/25/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I'm not sure if you remember me. Just to jog your memory, I am as much in awe of Rilke as you are, I ...
A: yes, I do remember you very well. I've wondered how it was going for you, and it sounds like you ...
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| Jealousy | 8/25/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. She feels that she is not as beautiful as she sees ...
A: This is a tough one...insecurities like these don't go away easily. And no, dating someone who is ...
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| Worried myself sick | 8/23/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I have never been attracted to a women I can honestly say that and I like the feeling I get with a ...
A: I think I can reassure you. I don't think you are a lesbian, and NO, watching, enjoying, being ...
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| My First Lesbian Relationship:My Girl Does't Think My Feelings For Her Are Real | 8/23/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I've always known that I was attracted to women, but I wasn't real with myself about my sexuality ...
A: .. The best (and riskiest) way to flirt with someone, the best (and riskiest) way to show them ...
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| first time out | 8/22/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I was reading your answer to lacy the 25 year old, and thought of a question of my own. I to am 25 ...
A: Let's start with the "If you are not super model pretty do you have to fall into the stud category?" ...
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| She says she's straight | 8/21/2008 | Lena Torres |
Q: I feel quite nervous asking all this, so sorry, in advance, if I end up waffling. I'm 23. I met this ...
A: The feeling of a heart, breaking just aches all over doesn’t it? I can hear the desperation in your ...
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| Don't understand this relationship | 8/21/2008 | Lena Torres |
Q: I started online dating a girl this past January. We live several states apart. She was getting out ...
A: Sadly, the world is full of this kind of deception and it is so easy for a trusting, sensitive ...
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| Talking to a bicurious female for the first time | 8/21/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I am 26. I have been an active lesbian for the last 3 years. I am not out or anything like that ...
A: It sounds like there must be some interest there, or she wouldn't have said she was going to talk to ...
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| Selfish ways | 8/20/2008 | Lena Torres |
Q: When I met my girlfriend, she was the most kind, considerate, caring person I had ever known. It's ...
A: What you and your girlfriend need most is to communicate. If your relationship is salvageable and ...
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| am i so insecure? | 8/20/2008 | Michelle |
Q: ..so i have been in my relationshi[ for over a year. My girlfriend is trustworthy and I have grown ...
A: You are already doing the best thing you can do...you are taking an honest look at yourself and ...
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| how to tell her | 8/20/2008 | Michelle |
Q: I have been crushing on this girl for a while now. We hung out all of last semester almost ...
A: I think one of the best ways is to first see if you can create the right opportunity. You could try ...
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| Interfearing house mate | 8/19/2008 | Lena Torres |
Q: We were three friends. But then two of us started dating. my GF and out mutual friend/problem flat ...
A: What stands out to me, is that you say "you have a house." You also said that (at one point) the ...
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| Painful breakup | 8/18/2008 | Lena Torres |
Q: Not sure that I should write this, but then again - I'm not sure of much at the moment. My ...
A: The first thing I want to say is 'you are not pathetic." I believe words have power and once you use ...
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| Don't understand this relationship | 8/18/2008 | Lena Torres |
Q: I started online dating a girl this past January. We live several states apart. She was getting out ...
A: Bi-Polar or Borderline Personality Disorder can be possible explanations for very similar behavior ...
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