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About Lena Torres
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Expertise
Can Answer Questions about Lesbian Life: Dating, Relationships, Breakups, Cheating and Every day Co-habitation. Prefer not to Respond to: Intricate Psychological Disorder questions (though I can refer to other resources i.e. websites/counceling for information and help)

Experience
Worked for 5 years within the domestic violence field, assisting victims to get their lives back on track; through facilitating support-groups, workshops and individual counceling. Continue to be an active member of the lesbian community, providing referals and support to fellow lesbians through church and other groups.

Organizations
FVS (domestic violence group in Florida) and various church groups.

Education/Credentials
B.A. in Journalism, with heavy research concentration in Social Psychology and Human Relations. Working toward Masters.

Awards and Honors
Received commendation award for public relations work and teamwork/unity and team-leadership awards within a corporate setting.

   

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stone?11/3/2008Terese
  Q: My girlfriend refuses to let me go down on her and rarely lets me touch her below the belt, she ...
  A: Hey J, So, here's the thing...different things get different people off. Simple as that. Like you, ...
Is it wrong..10/19/2008Lena Torres
  Q: Do you think it is wrong for me to want to tell my friends I'm a lesbian though I have never had any ...
  A: How does a person come to decide that they would want to take part in a lesbian sexual encounter? I ...
Am I a lesbian or am I not?10/19/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I just turned 13 in the middle of September.I live in the east.I'm in the 8th ...
  A: It sounds to me like you're just really confused, Corrina. At your age your hormones can do bizarre ...
How should I let her know how I feel?10/17/2008Terese
  Q: Terese, Thanks for answerng my previous question.I've been attracted to women since I was younger. ...
  A: Well, since you're clear on what you want, and you don't seem to be phased by the fact that you guys ...
getting over her10/16/2008Lena Torres
  Q: I have been spening time with this girl but she is confused and is playing a little game of push and ...
  A: Pay attention to the fact that she has said she is “confused” because that is key. You also have to ...
hey10/16/2008Terese
  Q: hey. i'm 16 and i've been talking to michelle and other volunteers but i would like to talk to about ...
  A: Hey Z, Sounds like you're looking for a way to explain your attractions and feelings. Thing is, ...
Open Relationship10/15/2008Lena Torres
  Q: I'm 19, in college, and have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. I am very much in love with her ...
  A: You are making the mature choice by making college a priority at this time. It is also commendable ...
Does she want me?10/15/2008Terese
  Q: I really like my co-worker. I am sexually attracted to her. I am considered hetrosexual. I've ...
  A: Hey Karen, This is what you have to decide before you can move on with this: Do you want to be ...
hey10/15/2008Terese
  Q: hey. i'm 16 and i've been talking to michelle and other volunteers but i would like to talk to about ...
  A: Hey Zoe, Well, let me just put this out there...I don't necessarily think that it's a good idea ...
In love confusion.10/15/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: im 19 years old and im having a hard time finding out "who i am". I've been in a realationship ...
  A: In my experience telling someone you're interested in that you're attracted to them can have two ...
should i suspect something?10/14/2008Terese
  Q: this is going tobe kind of long... ok im 18 and im dating this 22 woman and we live about an hour ...
  A: Look, I'm going to give it to you straight: it sounds like your girlfriend is cheating. And ...
My life after 40 and falling for a woman10/13/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: I hope that you can possibly help me understand and sort through some feelings and this experience I ...
  A: Don't be sorry for me, my dear, because I had ten years with the woman I loved. Yes, Angel, by all ...
My life after 40 and falling for a woman10/12/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: I hope that you can possibly help me understand and sort through some feelings and this experience I ...
  A: Reading what you've written is painful for me, Angel. I've been through a similar situation myself ...
hey again10/10/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: hey again. 1.um...sumtimes when i masturbate my best friend (a girl)comes into my mind out of ...
  A: Yes, Zoe, the "fantasies rarely reflect reality" statement still applies. I suggest that the ...
HOCD10/5/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: so r u saying it is possible that i actually do not have HOCD even if i do show all the symptoms? ...
  A: Making a diagnosis of any disorder is more than just matching symptoms, Zoe. Otherwise we'd have no ...
hey again10/4/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: soory i didn't mean to offend u or anything. i don't even know if u are offended. but i forgot to ...
  A: You were the one who said it was painful for you to think homosexual thoughts. I was asking for ...
hey again10/3/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: soory i didn't mean to offend u or anything. i don't even know if u are offended. but i forgot to ...
  A: Have you ever thought of going to a doctor for a certain diagnosis either of the HOCD or the OCD? ...
hey again10/2/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: soory i didn't mean to offend u or anything. i don't even know if u are offended. but i forgot to ...
  A: I'm not at all offended, my dear. I'm curious, though, how you were diagnosed as having HOCD and how ...
Is my wife a lesbian after 14 years of marriage?10/1/2008Lena Torres
  Q: My wife and I have been married for 14 years. She has never been passionate about sex between us. ...
  A: Telling you: "it was the best sex she ever had" is unacceptable in any context - but even more so, ...
more questions10/1/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: Um....i don’t THINK i been sexually excited by looking at pics before no. I’m not completely sure ...
  A: What exactly is it that makes you paranoid about being a lesbian, Zoe? Lesbians are people just like ...
more questions9/30/2008Michelle
  Q: I’ve numbered my questions to make it easier for u to answer them in order 1.So what I feel about ...
  A: 1. no, Zoe, it just sounds like there are things you either admire or notice about them. 2. No, I ...
Caring for someone I cant have9/30/2008Lena Torres
  Q: Well, I just got of a three year relationship four months ago and i have developed very strong ...
  A: Give it time. Both of you are healing from your respective past relationships. When you're ...
hey9/30/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: hey i'm 16, my name is zoe i'm talking to michelle and lena on this site at the moment but i would ...
  A: It's hard to describe sexual excitement, my dear, but generally speaking if the feelings you have ...
New girlfriend... am I being too needy?9/29/2008Lena Torres
  Q: I'm a 19 year old lesbian college student and I've been dating another 19 year old girl who lives ...
  A: I don't think it is a sign of dominance in a relationship, to initiate activities. One thing I ...
hey9/28/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: hey i'm 16, my name is zoe i'm talking to michelle and lena on this site at the moment but i would ...
  A: Well, Zoe, I don't think what you've described is anything to worry about. At your age there are all ...
Are my lesbian fantasies going to ruin our relationship?9/28/2008Lena Torres
  Q: I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We were close friends for 6 years before ...
  A: Your question might be re-framed to read: Is my hope of being in a straight relationship, going to ...
Teacher and student relationship ?9/26/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: Maenad, My question is, Whether or not my teacher has a fancy with me, or is she just being ...
  A: Many students develop crushes on their teachers, Lilly, but that's as far as you should ever go with ...
hey again9/26/2008Michelle
  Q: hey its me zoe again. i believe u were on vacation for a while so i asked Lena a few questions. ...
  A: I think what Lena meant by her explanation of the fear of intimacy was that it is just normal to be ...
hey again9/25/2008Michelle
  Q: hey its me zoe again. i believe u were on vacation for a while so i asked Lena a few questions. ...
  A: I would say she is absolutely right on in all of her answers, and that you should take a lot of it ...
married with child9/24/2008Lena Torres
  Q: Okay, I don't even know what order to tell this in, so I'm just going to blurt things out. I'm ...
  A: First, I hope you have taken a serious look at the weblink in my previous reply. I say that ...
Sex with a girl9/24/2008Michelle
  Q: Okay so me and my gf want to have sex but the thing is I have never had sex with a girl. She has and ...
  A: it is good that you are planning to be careful if you decide to have sex. I must admit it sounds to ...
confused about relationship9/24/2008Lena Torres
  Q: I was wondering if u cud help me. i have just started college and have never been in a relationship ...
  A: Finding someone that you have a real connection with and experiencing all those feelings can be ...
Why do men feel attracted to lesbians? Or are they just messing with us for the fun of it?9/23/2008Maenad Loyce
  Q: What I don’t get is why? I am lesbian. I never give guys any impressions because I can’t. Lesbians ...
  A: I can't profess to understand the male mind, Gabriela, and I have had similar experiences myself. It ...
how do i move on when i'm still in love with her9/22/2008Lena Torres
  Q: i was recently in a very serious relationship with my g/f who i had been with for over 7 months. we ...
  A: One of the most difficult responsibilities we have as adults, is that we are obligated to take the ...
married with child9/22/2008Lena Torres
  Q: Okay, I don't even know what order to tell this in, so I'm just going to blurt things out. I'm ...
  A: First let me just say that there are tons of women (literally tons) out there in your exact shoes. ...
Sexual attraction from straight women9/20/2008Lena Torres
  Q: Ok...now there is place that i usually go to & have a few drinks with friends here & there..it's ...
  A: She is not available. That is the one thing you have to know about her. Period. The more important ...
questioning9/20/2008Lena Torres
  Q: hey lena i've been questioning my sexuality for two months and i've also had mild HOCD for the past ...
  A: Looking up to someone is normal. We all have an inferiority complex to some degree. Don't beat ...
Sexual attraction from straight women9/19/2008Lena Torres
  Q: Ok...now there is place that i usually go to & have a few drinks with friends here & there..it's ...
  A: Before I say anything else, I feel the need to express my deep disapproval about the use of the word ...
Is it possible?9/19/2008Michelle
  Q: I am a lesbian teen who feels unhappy being deviated from the mainstream. Is there any way of which ...
  A: I can only tell you that if there was, I never found it. I looked. I tried. I prayed. I married ...
Should I?9/18/2008Michelle
  Q: I am a 16 years old lesbian, who has fallen in love with a girl for almost 4 years. We used to be ...
  A: I have several friendships that I cut off abruptly, and yes, coldly, when I realized my feelings had ...

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