AboutMaenad Loyce Expertise I can answer questions on discovering oneself in mid-life, lesbian relationships, where and how to connect to other lesbians, coming out, the whole 'religion' thing and most any other questions about lesbian life.
Experience I discovered I was a lesbian in my late 30's after being married for 8 years and having two children. I have been out ever since. I've been active in or visited many lesbian communities and have a large network of live and cyber contacts.
Education/Credentials There is no such thing as a degree in Lesbian but I've studied Psychology, Sociology and Women's Studies at university level. I believe my personal experience counts more toward at least a Bachelor's education level in Lesbian.
Expert: Maenad Loyce Date: 6/17/2008 Subject: Please can I get the email
Question Okay, I understand you have different policies but will you atleast consider
that you would only be helping 2 girls out by letting them talk to eachother. I
finally found someone who understands me because we are the same person,
we both analyze the same things, I really want to talk to her but I know she
would never come on this site for no reason (unless shes still dealing with
issues) so i mean i can leave my address on this but I really would like it if I
can just email her once please? can you atleast ask her that there is someone
wanting to talk to you would you like her email and if she responds, then you
can give it to her? I know you dont want to get involved but you would
serously be helping me this way. I want to share my thoughts with her, I
really want to know where she is in her life. Its really buggin me. Will you
please email her? she was the "Completely lost and confused" Lex was her
name, 28 year old, it was back in january. This would really help me. Thanks
Answer Let me explain, Jasmine. When I get a question on this site I am not given any information about the asker other than whatever name they choose to use, real or not. It's important for folks to feel safe when they talk about such intimate issues so their registration on this site is secured. I do not KNOW the email address of those who write to me.
Having said that, even if I knew Lex's email address it would be ethically wrong of me to use it in any way for the reasons I mentioned above. I would not contact her or ask her to contact you. If she wants to contact you she must initiate that contact herself outside of this site.
I know how much you would like to talk to someone you think might understand where you're coming from, Jasmine. It's sometimes a revelation when one realizes their thoughts and feelings are not just some personal weirdness and that there's another human being in the world who knows what it means. I am not keeping you from contacting her out of malice or spite, my dear. This just isn't the venue for that sort of connection. Perhaps you should look for some online groups or chat lines that might contain the sort of discussion you're looking for.
