AboutMaenad Loyce Expertise I can answer questions on discovering oneself in mid-life, lesbian relationships, where and how to connect to other lesbians, coming out, the whole 'religion' thing and most any other questions about lesbian life.
Experience I discovered I was a lesbian in my late 30's after being married for 8 years and having two children. I have been out ever since. I've been active in or visited many lesbian communities and have a large network of live and cyber contacts.
Education/Credentials There is no such thing as a degree in Lesbian but I've studied Psychology, Sociology and Women's Studies at university level. I believe my personal experience counts more toward at least a Bachelor's education level in Lesbian.
Expert: Maenad Loyce Date: 6/23/2008 Subject: What about age difference...
Question Hi,
Well, i've always known I was lesbian since my early teens and I have embraced it since, I had never been in a serious relationship until I met this woman early this year. I fell in love with her quite quickly but the feelings have been reciprocated. My concern is that she is 25 and I'm 19. She wants marriage in two years and I would gladly be her wife, but now 4 months into our relationship, she has cheated but won't let me go, now she is asking for a break and some time apart, because breaking up is not an option. The way I see it, it's either we are together or not. But i'm torn between my hearts desire and common sense. Could age be a factor as to why we are on different ends of the spectrum?
Answer I know that the six year difference seems like a lot to you right now, Vanessa, but it is not the issue here at all. She says she wants marriage in two years but her behavior doesn't support that. Instead she is playing a game I like to call Pushme-Pullyou. She doesn't want you but she can't stand to let you go. Get out now, my dear, or you'll be dangling on her hook for a long time until she suddenly lets you drop.
