Expert: Karla Little - 10/14/2009

Question
So, I am 16 years young and I've known I've been into girls since 5th grade. I became bisexual when I was about 14 years old, freshmen year of high school. Just in the past 6 months when I had 'come out' I had realized some doubts I had.
Since coming out I haven't been in a long standing or a strong relationship. Just a lot of crushing and wishing. When I look at some of my good guy friends I start to trail off in thoughts of him and I being in a relationship.
I don't know if it's just because the last two female relationships I was in were very mentally abusive or what but I am extremly confused.
Please, If you can give me advice from an outsider looking in, that would be great.

Thank you, Cat

Answer
Cat, at 16 years old you have ever right to be confused. I would not try to be in a relationship at your age. Give yourself some time to explore your sexuality further before deciding which side of the fence you want to be on or sitting on it looking both ways. Slow down, enjoy being carefree enough to not make that huge decision until you feel comfortable with making it. Take care, Karla