Expert: Karla Little - 10/27/2009

Question
So i just recently discovered i was bisexual.  It all started with this girl.  We hooked up and talked for quite some time. However, the whole time she was in a shady relationship with this girl she had been seeing for a couple years.  I knew about the relationship, so it's not like she lied to me.  But i also knew the relationship was coming to an end.  But they lived together so there was so much that had to be worked out before it could just end.
then about a month ago, the girl told me that she couldn't see me anymore and that things were getting to complicated. (for reasons that i understand but can't disclose).  However, we still see each other on a regular basis.  I feel like she is sending me mixed signals and i don't know what to do about it.  Like she is always still flirting with me, but then sometimes it's strictly a friend-zone.  Ya know?  I'm really into this girl, but i need to know if she's into me too and is just laying low because of the undisclosed reasons.  But i feel like i can't ask her because what if she says that she doesn't? then i feel like it will just be akward and we won't chill anymore.  I don't want that because no matter what in the past, nothing between us has been akward. and i would hate to jeopardize that over my own feelings, but i need to know.  What do i do?

Answer
Find a way to resolve the feelings you too have going on without jeopardizing your friendship. If there is a spark you both can't deny, let her get off of her situation and give it a try. Connections are so hard to come by, acknowledge it together, then go forward. Karla