AboutKarla Little Expertise I feel like I have knowledge in coming out in a rural town, relationships, two mom families, emotion ties to strict disapproving parents, self improvement, and knowledge of self.
Experience I have been out since I was 14, have two almost teenage sons, many ups and downs, lived through strict parents, and living in rural Alabama as a lesbian.
Question Hi. My name is Bianca. I'm 19 and a sophomore at ASU. I just recently discovered that I'm bisexual. I joined some forums for help because my parents aren't exactly embracing the idea. I think they'd prefer it if I was either straight or a lesbian, but I'm not sure. But it's ok, I can skirt around the issue a little bit until they're comfortable. I want to be part of a community. There are so many activist groups on campus for lesbians and bisexual women, but they're seminars and large, public gatherings. I want to meet small amounts of people, make friends, and just hang out. Here's the part that I didn't want to put on one of the forums because I didn't want to offend anyone. I'd really like to meet a girl, or at least get a chance to. I know that there must be feminine girls on campus that like women, but I don't know how...I have no idea how to meet them. I can't tell whose straight and whose not. And I'm nervous about meeting someone whose coming out too, as far as relationships go, because what if they change their mind? Or what if they're just being experimental? I know I'm not going to, but I don't know about them. I've tried searching clubs and groups, but i don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. Do you have any advice you could give me for getting into and used to the community, where common places are on campus, how I can meet people as a college girl without going to online dating sites (scary, and if my parents found out I met someone online, they would murder me), how I should continue to get used to and into this whole scene with my parents and my life, and just generally what I should do from here? Sorry about this. Thank you.
Bianca
Answer This is a tough subject for me, I have never been bisexual. The only advise I can give you is my personal opinion. All I can say about meeting people online is that it worked for me. I meet allot of friends in my area and the love of my life. I don't think the internet is a bad thing, I think abusing it is. Since you are still getting your feet wet so to speak, I think that would be your best venue. There are great sites out there that are just for friends to discuss the things you are confused about. When you gain more confidence about your sexual identity, then I would venture out to test a radar more. Hope this helps some what. Karla
