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I love my sister very much we have been best friends always. But she started dating my sons grandma and they live together it's only been a few weeks and they say they are in love. I feel my sister is pushing me away because of her new girlfriend which is a little weird for us me and my son. I've always been very proud of my sister for who she is and she has been really mean to me and my son so it really hurts how do I handle this?
Hello Jodi,
Well this is definitely going to be a touchy situation to approach. While one could argue that it was probably the least favorable position for your sister to get in (dating your son's grandma) and that she still had the choice of not getting in that situation, one could also argue for her happiness. That being said, when you approach your sister, which you will, try not to get too offensive and putting down her or her situation, because that will only push her further away. From what I understand, your aim here is to reestablish a good relationship with your sister and one with her and your son. I suggest you have a talk with her. Sit her down and tell her that you are not there to judge her or to tell her what to do. Tell her how her recent actions/words towards you and your son, and give her some recent examples, have hurt you and your son very much. Explain to her how you felt as though the two of you used to be best friends and how you miss that. Tell her you just want to have the same relationship you had with her before and that you love her and care for her very much. Also let her know that you are proud of her for who she is, because hearing that will mean a lot to her. Good luck in this Jodi, I hope this helps you at least some! Take care!
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I feel with great confidence that I would be able to answer any questions related lesbian relationships. In addition I feel that I would be able to address further questions related to the emotional/mental conflicts many lesbians face with the "coming-out" process and with accepting their sexuality. Questions in general that ask for advice circling lesbianism are questions that I feel prepared to answer and assist with in any way possible. Questions that require medical diagnosis, legal advice, or absolute professional counseling I would not be able to answer as I am not a licensed professional in those areas.
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I myself am a lesbian who has gone through numerous amounts of life experiences pertaining to the lesbian life. I have dealt with a troubled "coming-out" process, I have held online debates about lesbianism and rights, and I have mentored friends and other lesbians through online message boards. Granted I am not a licensed professional in any related field, I feel as though my personal experiences as a lesbian and through small mentorships does provide me with adequate ability to potentially help other lesbians like myself. As far as writing in concerned, for purposes of this site, it has always been a passion of mine.
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I belong to NCLR (National Center for Lesbian Rights). I am also an honorary member for Kiwanis International, which is an unrelated organization but focus on helping to support our communities and youth.
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Up until this point, there are no publication where my writing can be viewed. I am taking this first step with AllExperts in hopes that it will be a good start and even greater experience for me.
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I am currently working towards a bachelors degree in an unrelated field-Business Administration with an emphasis on small business management and entrepreneurship. However, in my first years of college I studied psychology, in general, with great emphasis and curiousity. I studied human sexuality and focused on theories of homosexuality and same-sex rights. I steered away from psychology however when I relocated and began focusing on business with plans to open my own business someday. Psychology and human sexuality still remain a focus for me, but as more of a hobby now.
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From Kiwanis International in Torrance, CA I was made an honorary member and awarded a scholarship "for being such an inspiration." My first years in college I was on the Dean's list and welcomed into the Honor Society. In addition I love to write, particularly poetry, and was once nominated for Poet of the Year.
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