AboutKay Experience I am 26-yrs. old with a B.A. in psychology. But more importantly, I know what it's like to grow up not understanding why you feel the way that you do. I slept with men in the past simply because I believed it was "the right thing to do". I would like to reach out to others like me - to help them accept themselves, and feel comfortable around their family and friends if they decide to come out of the closet.
Question My girlfriend and I just recently moved in with each other and it's as though things have gone down hill, they were starting to before we moved in together, but she has this way of making me feel secure and making everything seem amazing, after she makes me feel horrible. My girlfriend, after making everything seem perfect, will, start saying things like you really want a man, you don't want to be with a woman. I have been with men before and I know what I want and that is not a man. I tell her this, I try to sit down with her and talk to her that doesn't work it just causes an even bigger fight. On top of the man thing, she has started to suspect that I'm cheating on her having people over at night while shes a work. I don't know how to make her trust me or feel secure in this relationship. When I tell her I love her she won't look at me, she'll mumble it back or say it in this cute voice she does but its like she can never look at me and say it to me and mean it. I feel like giving up on this relationship. I really love her so much. My last relationships I've never had a problem leaving (i know that sounds awful) with this one I do. Should I try and see if time will help her to trust me or should I just move on and have her move out.
Answer Hi Stevie,
It appearst that your gf has major TRUST issues and no matter how much you convince her, she will think the same. Unfortunately there is not much you can do. She is going to have to learn how to trust you. Why is she suspecting you of cheating? She needs to atleast give you contact when she tells you that she loves you. How else are you to take her serious? Communication and trust is very important in any relationship. How long have you two been together? She you give her time? Well this all depends on how long you two been dating. Trust is developed over time and she should already be there especially since you guys live together. You should definitely communicate with your partner and ask her to participate in the conversation. If she is not trusting you and accusing you over cheating and other things that you are not doing, she should be able to atleast give an explanation. Maybe the both of you can come to some resolution.
