AboutKay Experience I am 26-yrs. old with a B.A. in psychology. But more importantly, I know what it's like to grow up not understanding why you feel the way that you do. I slept with men in the past simply because I believed it was "the right thing to do". I would like to reach out to others like me - to help them accept themselves, and feel comfortable around their family and friends if they decide to come out of the closet.
Question Kay, recently I had posted a question regard my being gay and being in love with my roommate who is apparently straight. Although she has in the past been very affectionate, asked me to sleep in her bed with her, and told me once that she liked me alot, was having alot of emotions and very confused....well basically i grabbed a hold of that i havent let go..iam trying. i told her how i felt and well she basically told me, she is NOT attracted to men or me in that way. my question is, she does have BDD, yes which is a disorder where she is very complusive about her body weight, yet she is gorgeous and looks great but she doesnt she what everyone else does. Iam curious if iam not just losing my mind, that perhaps she may have feelings but unable to acknowledge them in her own mind, etc. Thank you again. Take care.
Answer Hi Kim,
This is not something that I can answer because there is not enough information here. Importantly, this is not something I don't think anyone can answer. Her BDD shouldn't have anything to do with her ability to like you. She already told you that she wasn't attracted to you in that way. YES she can be confused but its hard to predict a confused person. You will find there will always be alot of back and fourth, yes and no. So BDD or not, the confusion will always be there. I would just continue being a friend. I wouldn't force the issue.
