AboutVicky Expertise Lesbian: sexual problems, coming out, general questions about being gay:-) i came out when i was 17, and ive helped several ppl not just friends, come to terms and understand what its like to be gay, the kind of lifestyle it leads to or rather can lead to, medical issues, and just how to be happy with your choice of lifestyle.
Question Since coming into who I need to be and have allways known I am,my partner and I have stepped onto a rockier path.I love my girl more than anything on this earth how do I help to keep us together?
Answer Hi Ethan, thanks for coming to me.
Firstly, its awesome that you have realised who you are, and are comfortable with it!! That cant have been easy and i hope all turns out well for you!!
As for your girl. Well,the best thing you can do is make sure you talk to her and find out how she is feeling as well. Keep the communication going, and allow her to be a part of your transformation.
There is a small BUT here though.
Even though you love her, and she probably loves you too, this may not be what she wants?
As hard as that may sound, if she is only into women, this might be a bit hard for her to take. Im a firm believer in the "loving a person for who they are not what they are", but if she only wants a woman, you may need to leave her be and move on if it doesnt work out. The thing is though, you are going to need all the support you can get while you are becoming who you want to be, and even if it doesnt work out with her as a partner, hopefully she will still be a very good friend to you?
OR,
IF she is happy to be with you no matter what, then the best thing you can do, is make sure you listen to her and ask her how she is feeling about this,and perhaps tell her you want her with you down this road?? THat is of course, if you havnt already;)
It may also pay to perhaps go and see a counsellor together? Sometimes airing things in a safe environment with an impartial person listening, can help sort through any fears or concerns for both of you, or to just have someone else sound things out for you both.
I dont know if this has been of any use, if not, please come back ok?
I wish you well and i do hope that everything works out for you:)
