Lesbian Life/How to meet/become friends with other lesbians
I first "came out" when I was 22. I knew I was gay since I was really young....7 to be exact! But I come from a very strict household whereby my mum controlled my every move man and my life was pretty much set in stone (she bought me my first medical set when I was 6 and now I'm a doctor!) So it wasn't until my early 20s that I really got tired of conforming and just did what felt right to me! Only problem is that I find it really hard to meet other like minded lesbians to be strictly friends with!
I'm 24 now so most people have their friendship groups. Being a doctor I don't have copious amounts of time to be out in gay clubs/bars and, considering my closets friends are straight, it's difficult to pluck up the courage to go by myself to these sorta of places!
I am also a femme and so everyone assumes I am straight! Femme invisibility is a huge problem for me! Even when I do find time to go to gay clubs, nobody ever approaches me because they think I am just another straight girl who wants to experience the gay scene.
I just want a group of like minded lesbian friends that I can go out to gay clubs/bars with, pride events etc. I really don't know the best way to go about it from my issues stated above! I live in London so I know you won't know of any exact places to go but a general idea of what to do would be great! I suppose this is to be expected when you explore your sexuality at such a late stage in life!
Thank you for the question:)
Because social media has taken off in such an explosive manner, I thought I would suggest having a look on Facebook for any groups you could possibly join? Perhaps using Google as a start point. A lot of pages, if they are public, would come up in a search using Google. I did a wee search on google.co.uk just using lesbian femme groups and it came up with this article:
It suggests a group for like-minded women that you may perhaps find useful :)
Looks to be a site where groups list when they meet etc.
This one may be a little easier if you are based in London.
I hope some of these suggestions are of some use :))))
I wish you all the best, and I hope you meet some new friends/lovers and that you start enjoying yourself! Remember to stay safe, and yes I realise you are a doctor, but it still pays to be safe in all aspects of your life;)
Take care, and if there is anything else i can do, you know where to find me:)