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Subject	Date Asked
Confused with my partner	9/16/2011
Q: My girlfriend (30 years old) and me (18 years old) are in a long distance relationship for 4 years, ... A: At 30, if you make a list of what you need from a partner, it is difficult find someone who is 18 ...
Break up, or not?	9/13/2011
Q: . Um.. I'm not really sure how to begin... I've been in a long distance relationship with my ... A: In my experience, cheating doesn't happen because "there are too many cute girls around." It ...
Friends..maybe more?	9/12/2011
Q: I've been friends with a girl for 2 years now. This year we got really close. Now I'm a lesbian and ... A: One thing I recommend that folks do is, create a side-by-side list labeled 'Wants' on one column and ...
What to do?	7/15/2011
Q: I don't want to blabber on with my whole story here, but here is a bit of background. A few years ... A: I have a heterosexual friend who I once questioned about this. I asked: Do women who are primarily ...
Confused and looking for advice	7/9/2011
Q: I am 25 and significantly confused about my sexuality. Although I have only been in relationships ... A: A "phase" -- why stop at that? When it could be anything, from an obsessive-compulsive disorder to a ...
Affair with a lesbian in an "open" relationship	7/4/2011
Q: This is an email I never thought I would be writing. I am a straight single professional man. ... A: There seem to be many appealing qualities about her which may be rare in other women. This, coupled ...
Long term relationship question	7/3/2011
Q: I've been in a relationship with my gf for 4 years. We've had a pretty rocky go of it but we both ... A: Not all relationships turn out to be ideal 'romantic' matches. Though many appear just magical, at ...
Transference	6/29/2011
Q: I am an 18 year old woman freshly out of highschool. For the past year I have been seeing a sexual ... A: Most therapists, are trained in the area of transference. To some degree, they have all experienced ...
Two truths	6/25/2011
Q: It’s a horribly long story, but to begin I will say that I have fallen head over heels in love with ... A: You are wise beyond your years. In reading your letter, I felt certain that you have great instincts ...
is my wife gay	4/28/2011
Q: My wife and I have been separated for 6 months now. The main problem started with a new friend she ... A: Considering what you have been lead to believe as this woman's track-record and/or reputation, it ...
confused and scared	4/2/2011
Q: I am a 36yr old woman who has identified as lesbian for over 10 years now. Came out at 25 to my ... A: Kudos on going with the feeling, despite all the (community) voices in your head leading you ...
Stuck	3/29/2011
Q: hey! i don't really hop on these blogs or anything but my situation has gotten so out of control ... A: You want non-judgmental advice and I will stick to that request by addressing the subject indirectly ...
is she flirting with me?	3/28/2011
Q: I moved to a new city a couple months ago and had to do a job transfer. I am in a lesbian ... A: Back away immediately. Did I read correctly, that you -- have a partner? Where is your partner, in ...
Flirty OR Friendly?	3/8/2011
Q: So, I work in this restaurant in WeHo as a server and every Sunday this one group comes in.. A few ... A: Do you like her? If you don't, she may give you "the look, the vibe, the swag, the smile" and the ...
Lesbian Life	3/2/2011
Q: I was wondering how can i have a relationship with God and still like females and im a female. i ... A: Most of us, at one time or another wonder how, conventional religious teachings and homosexuality; ...
Confusion	2/20/2011
Q: Ok so I actually have a few questions. I'll start off by saying that I'm 19 years old, and I know ... A: It would not be unheard of that if you have been mistreated by men, you might feel mistrusting ...
l think l've fallen in a very short time.	2/17/2011
Q: Ok...Lena here we go... This will be in my first book...Watch for it in book stores.. l was out ... A: She's right. 'No contact' is exactly the path to take here. First, you have each been less than ...
So I guess the secrets out....	12/27/2010
Q: So I think this will read as a confessional more than a question because up until this moment this ... A: The "Secret is Out!" Liberating huh? I view your dilemma as having a side A and side B and each ...
please help me	12/25/2010
Q: It all started when we wanted to move I was hanging out with this girl and yes after awhile we both ... A: All families have secrets that are exclusively reserved for the priviledged few. Some families are ...
I don't think my girlfriend fancies me anymore	12/23/2010
Q: I'm 35 and in my first lesbian relationship. My girlfriend is 33 and has been lesbian all her life; ... A: If I had to guess exactly what is happening here and was only allowed one right answer, I would say ...
not sure about how she feels	12/21/2010
Q: I think im developping a crush on a girl at work, the problem is that to me she seems very straight ... A: Awkwardness at work is one thing, but suppose a relationship develops -- one scenario to consider, ...
Just friends?	12/20/2010
Q: I'm in a lesbian couple and we recently made friends with another female. I am starting to feel ... A: It would be a mistake to assume that a brief, initial attraction like this to another person, would ...
Confused!	12/13/2010
Q: Well here I am at 26 confused about my sexuality. I've never felt completely comfortable with the ... A: You did the right thing! You needed to work-through-it by talking about it and you did. You did so, ...
Confused!	12/12/2010
Q: Well here I am at 26 confused about my sexuality. I've never felt completely comfortable with the ... A: I have said often, that I do not believe in labels. Labels lock you into a box and your perspective ...
my first lesbian love	12/8/2010
Q: Back in college a friend of mine that was openly gay. She confessed that she had feeling for me a ... A: Greater exposure to the lesbian lifestyle. That is my recommendation, for you. As for her, she is ...
I am so in love and confused	12/6/2010
Q: Please help: When I was younger I had a ton of boyfriends, but I always hated the thought of being ... A: I just read an article in the current issue of Psychology Today, which claims: "Anytime there are ...
Why doesn't my girlfriend treat me as well as her ex-girlfriends	11/21/2010
Q: I have been in love with the same woman for almost 2 years. In that time, she has chosen someone ... A: Your"Should I walk away from the relationship or overlook this as a minor thing and try to be at ...
No sure...	10/14/2010
Q: So here is the question....l can't seem to stop failing for married women....All of my ... A: To get at the core of the problem, I will change the question from: "Why can't I stop falling for ...
Sexual Feelings	9/29/2010
Q: I am currently not quite a lesbian because I've only been with two women (one my age 20, and one ... A: Being a lesbian is not only about, "sexual feelings" though these are sometimes part of the picture. ...
I Don't Think I Enjoy Sex	9/19/2010
Q: I'm 20, female, and I live with my girlfriend. She's an extremely beautiful woman, very sexy, and ... A: Sex is not usually the most important thing in a relationship, until you're not having any and ...
what label ? if any	9/7/2010
Q: Here go's Lena....dated men most of my life..42 years old have had three ways about 4-5 times. With ... A: Here is a great website for you to visit - linger: http://members3.boardhost.com/Ask_Joanne You ...
I'm confused!	8/27/2010
Q: Im so confused! Everybody thinks I'm straight, I have a boyfriend and I love him to death. There is ... A: So you have passed for 'heterosexual' up until this point. Lots of folks do on the way to ...
Gay girl straight girl crush	8/21/2010
Q: So I've recently come out to a select few family members but no one at my high school. Not that ... A: As it happens, you are writing to somebody who doesn't believe in labels. In my view, everyone's ...
Should I proceed??	8/20/2010
Q: I met a particular female on a popular dating website that I'm very interested in. We live ... A: I often caution women about becoming too deeply involved in a long-distance or on-line relationship ...
curious	8/11/2010
Q: I have this situation where over a few months me and this girl been working together, and see each ... A: Straight girls do flirt with other girls. Sometimes this is not conscious. In her case, everything ...
I'm in a lesbian relationship, but I'm very unsure about my sexuality.	8/3/2010
Q: I have been dating this wonderful girl for about a year now, and we are having a great time ... A: In general, I do not believe in labels. They are useful to some extent and for the purpose of ...
Some Advice?	8/2/2010
Q: This is my first time ever asking a question to an expert over the internet, so please don't mind ... A: There is simply no way to tell what she‘s thinking. Even if you know for a fact that she has the ...
married and questioning	7/13/2010
Q: What are my options? How do I handle this? I'm 29 and have been married 5 years. Overall, I've been ... A: On occasion, I have tackled the proverbial: How do you eat an elephant, question. The answer ...
First Real Lesbian Relationship Need Help	7/6/2010
Q: Hey Lena. I'm 26 years old, and I recently meet a girl on a dating site that Ive had a profile on ... A: Particularly because you have both "been through a lot" and because, you "both have trust issues," I ...
Saving a relationship after the long distance	7/2/2010
Q: My girlfriend and I (same sex) are still together for 3 plus years, the past five months have been a ... A: "Is there anything I can do to to improve myself?" This is the most important question of all. In ...
Saving a relationship after the long distance	7/1/2010
Q: My girlfriend and I (same sex) are still together for 3 plus years, the past five months have been a ... A: In what way is she "stringing you along?" Try as I may, I cannot see evidence of that in anything ...
Coming out	6/29/2010
Q: Heya, basically my mum caught me holding my exs hand about a year ago but we never talked about it ... A: Make sure you are well prepared, before you make the big announcement. Arm yourself with as much ...
Habitual Cheating	6/25/2010
Q: I am stuck! My partner of 3 years has cheated on me at least 8 times that I know of, some of those ... A: I think the one, most crucial thing to always keep reminding yourself of and what the psychologist ...
Habitual Cheating	6/22/2010
Q: I am stuck! My partner of 3 years has cheated on me at least 8 times that I know of, some of those ... A: I have often said on this column, that the problem with cheating is more a problem the resulting ...
Am i a lesbian?	6/20/2010
Q: Hey im emma from uk ive been with my husband for 8years married for 2years. ive been with him since ... A: No one can tell you if you're a lesbian or not. The answer lies, not outside of yourself, but ...
Question about daughter	6/16/2010
Q: I feel tha my 18 year old daughter is less interested in guys, in my opinion because she's been ... A: What your daughter is doing, is perfectly natural. Experimentation, is a necessary part of ...
Question	6/15/2010
Q: I am really struggling right now with figuring out my sexual orientation/accepting it. I kind of ... A: I think that what you describe sounds extremely common. You say: "I look very straight." According ...
My wife may be in the closet about being gay.	6/9/2010
Q: I have been married for 10 years. Our sex life was always mutual and full of passion for years. But ... A: Don’t wait around for her to get counseling. If she is not ready, that is OK. Ultimately, you can ...
age difference - would it be an issue?	6/7/2010
Q: first of all i'm so glad i found a place to seek advice on this. my question is, how much age ... A: If I were you, I would not make that big of a deal about trying to prove to her that you are mature. ...
My wife may be in the closet about being gay.	6/1/2010
Q: I have been married for 10 years. Our sex life was always mutual and full of passion for years. But ... A: Kudos to you on being so observant. I find that an analytical nature, is more often a trait found ...
Is she into girls?	5/28/2010
Q: Ok so i'm 16 and a lesbian. I like this girl at school and she gives me such a gay vibe. I've tried ... A: I do not believe in labels. What you describe sounds more to me like, someone who is intent in ...
girls	5/26/2010
Q: Im 18 and Im a lesbian :) Im single right now but im looking. The girl im trying to see is bi ... A: First, congratulations on coming to a great conclusion. Figuring out that you play a part in most of ...
Is this it?	5/21/2010
Q: I'm a middle aged woman who started seeing women just a few years ago after falling in love with a ... A: One brilliant person I know says, “when (seemingly unrelated) topics come up in the same ...
girls	5/15/2010
Q: Im 18 and Im a lesbian :) Im single right now but im looking. The girl im trying to see is bi ... A: Before I respond to your question, I must get something out of the way. This is a point I have made ...
sleeping	5/7/2010
Q: Lena- my partner and i can not come to an agreement about a certain issue. When she goes to bed, she ... A: It is helpful for me to hear what helps and what doesn't. As for her unwillingness to accompany ...
sleeping	5/6/2010
Q: Lena- my partner and i can not come to an agreement about a certain issue. When she goes to bed, she ... A: This is not uncommon. You have to get to the root of the problem. This does not appear to be just ...
COMPLICATED!	5/5/2010
Q: ..I have been with my gf for almost 3 yrs she is my 1st gf...for the 13 months of our relationship ... A: First, realize that you have no control over your girlfriend's actions and no control over who she ...
COMPLICATED!	5/4/2010
Q: ..I have been with my gf for almost 3 yrs she is my 1st gf...for the 13 months of our relationship ... A: The problem between you is not her ex or the other people you have each brought into the triangle. ...
Spark	5/3/2010
Q: My girlfriend and I have had cheating issues on her part. I feel it is almost coming to an end and ... A: You have "forgiven her" and you have decided to stick around. I'd say you've done your part. The ...
interested?	4/27/2010
Q: I've known this girl for a while, but have never really spoken to her before. She's my best friends ... A: Don't let her actions dictate what you become involved in or not. Her behavior aside, ask yourself ...
Wanting to approach a person....but....	4/21/2010
Q: Ok, so here's the deal with me. I am lesbian but only select people know. I work in a school system ... A: Wouldn’t most of us feel silly if it were suddenly discovered that all people are interested in both ...
Is she Into me ? or What ?	4/19/2010
Q: I know a girl from almost a year now, we are friends. I was in a relationship to another girl when ... A: This girl seems like a really good candidate for a relationship. But when and with whom, is ...
Very Confussed need some advice	4/3/2010
Q: Im 25yrs old, and I am having hard time figuring out if Im bisexual or not. I find myself looking at ... A: The fact that she keeps her thoughts about relationships to her self, leads me to believe there is ...
Very Confussed need some advice	4/2/2010
Q: Im 25yrs old, and I am having hard time figuring out if Im bisexual or not. I find myself looking at ... A: I would bring the subject up again. You put it out there that you were interested in her. Now, you ...
What just happened........	3/29/2010
Q: So my ex and I have been broken up for about a month now, but we still live together. Last night we ... A: No one but her could possibly know for certain, if she does some of the things she does, "just to ...
What just happened........	3/25/2010
Q: So my ex and I have been broken up for about a month now, but we still live together. Last night we ... A: When we are in a relationship, rarely is one individual or the other, to blame for everything that ...
Very VERY confused, please help me.	3/22/2010
Q: Please don't stop reading after the first few lines, please :(. I'm 19 years old, and engaged to the ... A: What you describe, is similar in a lot of ways, to the first stages of the 'questioning' phase. Your ...
what to do about my ex girlfriend?	3/21/2010
Q: wel let me start by giving you some back round info.. i met my ex on an online dating site we hit it ... A: In this case, I’m going to pay the most attention to the event or series of events that took place ...
troubless	3/20/2010
Q: I was going out with my ex girlfriend for around 9/10 months and it was great, we just clicked from ... A: The reason why you continue to want to see her or to allow her to see you, has nothing to do with ...
what to do about my ex girlfriend?	3/19/2010
Q: wel let me start by giving you some back round info.. i met my ex on an online dating site we hit it ... A: You say, "I love her far too much to let her just walk out of my life without a fight." What exactly ...
5 year relationship	3/15/2010
Q: I have been in a committed relationship with a woman who is 54. I am 45. I have two children ... A: Part of how an abuser works his/her craft, is by whittling away at the victim's self-worth and sense ...
confused about my sexual orientation	3/11/2010
Q: "Im 17 and ive alwyas been sure about my sexual orientation but now something is different, i dont ... A: Usually, when we are attracted to one gender or another, it is not the entire population of that ...
Hard relationship	3/8/2010
Q: me and my girlfriend just broke up after 6 years. She is openly gay and I am not. We both work ... A: Communication is key. Don't just look at what is on the surface. Ask for and be willing to hear, her ...
Confess or Not to Confess?	3/6/2010
Q: I'm a high school student already 18 though and so is my best friend. Simply put I have the cliche ... A: You and your friend seem close. Telling her the truth about how you feel will be the real 'litmus ...
Is it over?	2/17/2010
Q: My gf & I have been together a little over 1 & 1/2 years with her moving in to my place right away. ... A: When a significant other, has behaved in a certain way for a long time and then abruptly changes, it ...
help	2/15/2010
Q: hey I'm corsandra, I was in a relationship with this wonderful girl for almost a year. we broke up a ... A: There is only one way to get a person back in your life and that is, for her to actually want to be ...
Unsure how to read date	2/11/2010
Q: I began exchanging emails with woman online about one week ago. We had only exchanged a few emails ... A: You seem like a perfectly reasonable person. You are allowing things to blossom naturally, assuming ...
Bad and very sudden breakup	2/1/2010
Q: I was in a wonderful relationship that lasted only two months. She wanted us to have a child ... A: There is such a thing as a bad ‘first date’ or even a bad ‘second date’ But once we figure out we ...
i love her! what do i do?	1/30/2010
Q: I was dating a girl for about 8 months who i absolutely fell in love with i never told her how i ... A: Of all the studies on the subject of rejection, I recall one in particular about our most common ...
Woman are confusing	1/27/2010
Q: I'm 19 and I work at a local gay bar bartending and wherein I met this girl that is 25 and hosts wet ... A: I like your last question, it's funny. Sometimes I wish I were psychic and could foresee the future, ...
too many white lies	1/25/2010
Q: Hey Lena, I made too many small mistakes, said too many white lies and I don't know why I did that ... A: Have you ever had anyone pursue you by whom you did not want to be pursued? Left to her own devices, ...
Im Confused	1/13/2010
Q: I am 15 and attend a all girl high school.I resently came out to my friends and my best friend is ... A: I really think it's wonderful that at 15, you already have such clarity about your sexuality. The ...
Confused teammate	1/11/2010
Q: So iv'e been playing on this basketball team for two years. Iv'e always thought my one teammate was ... A: Considering that, um, you're straight, why does it matter what her signals mean? If you are now ...
Angry all the time	1/6/2010
Q: Greetings, I have been living with my girlfriend for about 5 months-prior to this we had been seeing ... A: Some of us are rescuers. I include myself in this category. I once believed I could show another ...
ex lover	1/3/2010
Q: My ex lover for 4 1/2 years has found a new love. We have been apart for 1 1/2 years but she has ... A: In the community that surrounds me, I see ex-couples who are perfectly content now being friends. I ...
ex	12/30/2009
Q: My ex just broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. She cheated on me and said that i made her do it ... A: You refer to this person as your "ex" and I find that interesting. Perhaps a part of you does ...
My First Time Girlfriend	12/28/2009
Q: Torres, I'm hoping you can help me because i just don't know what to do. I have been with my ... A: We know that, for Kay, "sex is something dirty. You say, she isn’t extremely religious, nor is she ...
Love triangle	12/27/2009
Q: I recently figured out I'm in love with my best friend. I went and told her that I liked her, and ... A: I wish I could tell you it is simple or that people do this every day. But the fact is, that walking ...
confused..	12/14/2009
Q: I am a 25 year old female who has always been in relationships with men but always appreciated ... A: What are you "confused" about? Why do you like this girl? Why such strong feelings for her? Is it ...
Looking for an answer!	12/2/2009
Q: We are not friends, and we barely speak. I have meet her in a bank. a small bank near my house. I ... A: Keeping with the fact that we can only change ourselves or have influence over our actions and since ...
Breakup	11/27/2009
Q: .ok me and my ex were dating for about 5 months when we brokeup due to the fact she wanted me to ... A: Trust your instincts! You called it correctly, when you said she is: "very immature at times" and ...
living with my ex girlfriend	11/24/2009
Q: My ex and I have been best friends for five years before we started dating, We recently broke up in ... A: Every once in a while I hear someone's story about continuing to live with an ex after the romantic ...
crush	11/17/2009
Q: Hey lena, my name is Amy, and my question is how do i ask my crush out, or what would be the correct ... A: Your friend is right when she suggests that you may be coming-on too strong. Not just when ...
Keke	11/13/2009
Q: There is this girl that I really do like. I've known her for over a year now and we've been best ... A: Recognizing that she really wants to “be there” for you, but that she cannot give you “100 percent” ...
Flirting	11/10/2009
Q: I recently started training to be a rape crisis counselor, and have been hanging out with one of the ... A: Just because she's flirtatious, high energy, warm, whimsical, and very outspoken with everyone else, ...
What to do next?	11/2/2009
Q: A girl and I have been friends for a few years and we have always had a flirty relationship. We have ... A: She has spoken, when she said: "she can't do this anymore.. I (you) haven't done anything wrong but ...
I don't understand myself.	10/27/2009
Q: Really, I'm in need of help. I can't do it alone, I'm out of control. It just happened, and I wasn't ... A: You may have a touch of internalized homophobia -- It's possible. A condition that is sure to ...
Needing to vent	10/25/2009
Q: Well I'm 18 and my best friend of almost a year now has moved back down to where I live. Before she ... A: Your statement about yourself: "I use to but I let it go because I didnt know how she felt," stands ...
Do you think I'm bi?	10/23/2009
Q: Ok, I literally can't believe I'm doing this. Like that I'm online even considering this but it's ... A: No, I don't think you're crazy for thinking something could happen between you just based on the ...
Lost	10/5/2009
Q: Ok Im 17 and the girl i like has a grilfriend. We have been talking for almost 4 months and she ... A: Yes, I can help you. But first, in order to receive "help" you must believe that the person giving ...
secret love with bff and now...it's gone	9/30/2009
Q: i really don't know where to start...i've known her through her boyfriend that past away about 8 ... A: It is so difficult to feel torn between something we love and the need to do what is right for ...
secret love with bff and now...it's gone	9/29/2009
Q: i really don't know where to start...i've known her through her boyfriend that past away about 8 ... A: I think that moving away for a while may very well be a good thing to do, but it is not the most ...
What am I?	9/23/2009
Q: I've spent my life as a heterosexual while I and others laughed and questioned why. My problem is ... A: You are not alone! Sexuality is not as one-sided, as some might assume it to be. You may well fall ...
Accused of cheating.	9/22/2009
Q: For the past three months, my girlfriend has had dreams where I was cheating on her. Last month, we ... A: Having had a dream about infidelity or having been told by a psychic, are not legitimate reasons to ...
Being rejected	9/17/2009
Q: I am in a tough situation and have been crying all day. In a nutshell- a girl whom I had been ... A: Feelings (positive or negative) toward the people in our lives, are seldom constant. They are ...
Lesbian friend and her mom	9/16/2009
Q: I am a 20 years old female of Indian origin living in UK for past 10 uears. I am having a committed ... A: What a shameful thing for a mother to do to her daughter! Unfortunately, you are now caught in the ...
Just reeeallly close friends?	9/15/2009
Q: I have this HUUUUGE thing for one of my closest friends (lesbian) and I have NO idea what to do... ... A: The first question that enters my mind is: Why is it up to her, to make the first move and all that ...
Is she or isn't she interested?	9/10/2009
Q: I'm into a girl that I've been friends with for a few years. She's aware of my feelings and is okay ... A: Sounds like your friend might be confused. She may be feeling attracted to you at times and ...
RE: Living together - First time relationship	9/7/2009
Q: Ok I need some guidance seriously. The facts of my situation are like this - she was involved with ... A: but the truth is, it is a real pleasure to read through something when the answers come so clearly. ...
Confused	8/26/2009
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for six years and it's basically gotten to the point where she's called ... A: Bickering is sometimes more common in lesbian relationships, because of how emotionally-charged ...
troubled love	8/21/2009
Q: I feel my relationship is on its way out the door. I love my girlfriend very much and know she is a ... A: I'm sorry you are so sad. It sounds like your girlfriend is reacting to what she has perceived as ...
not sure	8/20/2009
Q: Lena. I'm in a situation that I'm very confused about! There's this girl that I met about two months ... A: In life, as I see it, each one of us is given our fair share of puzzles to solve. The measure of ...
still questioning being gay	8/16/2009
Q: i have came out and i identify myself as a lesbian. i know i have always liked women. it's not even ... A: You definitely are in the 'questioning' stage and this is a good place to be. It can however be ...
In love with a lesbian	8/9/2009
Q: (REPOSTED) Hello. I am a 40 yr old married straight woman who has fallen in love with a lesbian. I ... A: Yes, absolutely, I see myriad red flags all over the place. Space restrictions may prevent me from ...
I dont know what to do	8/8/2009
Q: I am a 20 year old female. i was raised in a fundamental christian family, who drilled into me all ... A: In his research, the Reverend Mel White has included basic explanations, comparing common ...
Confused	8/4/2009
Q: Ive been attracted to this one girl for 5 yrs now well i never would tell her how i felt until just ... A: There are about as many different types of 'involvement' between individuals as there are ...
i need help about a girl...	8/2/2009
Q: around 4 years ago i met a girl (let's call her Janice) but i never really developed a friendship ... A: You do not say if this would be your first committed relationship. If it is, these things require a ...
my arabic root is killing me	8/1/2009
Q: I am 36 year's old women, who I consider myself bi, have been into several realations in the past, ... A: You have been through a lot. Coming from a part of the world where horrible harm can come to you ...
is she lesbian?	7/28/2009
Q: My gf and i have been together for 3 years. when i met her she was dating a man but she told me it ... A: For anyone who's reading this, who has 'ever' heard (or used) the excuse for an affair: "I did it ...
my confused girlfriend	7/26/2009
Q: I am currently dating this girl who I adore but am skeptical about her past and if she will cheat on ... A: This link might help: http://www.straightspouse.org/home.php. I know you are not married, nor can ...
How can I tell if my wife is gay?	7/21/2009
Q: Long question. I am married 30 years and have 2 children with my wife. About 3 years ago, a friend ... A: Lots of women talk for 400 minutes per month to their friends. It is how some women process things. ...
I think my girlfriend is hiding something from me.	7/20/2009
Q: MY girlfriend and I started dating back in November. Things started off great when we first started ... A: Trust your instincts! Your instincts are the best guide you have, when something suspicious is ...
Lesbian Flirting	7/17/2009
Q: I've just accepted that I'm a bi-sexual woman. I've been going to a doctors office and the ... A: If she's asking for people's phone numbers and then deciding not to call, I'm not one bit surprised ...
Unsure	7/9/2009
Q: There is this woman I met, she is 56 will be 57 this year, I am 47. I remember our first touch, she ... A: Wait? For what? As I understand from your letter, it was not implied in any way that she would ...
Confused...	7/8/2009
Q: I'm a 19 year old college student. I realized I was gay about half way through high school but I've ... A: I have to say that I kept wanting to fill in whatever was missing from some parts of your letter. ...
My first same-sex relationship	7/4/2009
Q: I'm 22 years old and have been heterosexual my whole life. I've dated a lot of guys, but it's been a ... A: OK, I'll help you, but only on one condition -- that you try and seek on-going guidance from others ...
stay or go..	7/3/2009
Q: This is the 2nd year of our relationship. She is my best friend TRULY, I haven't had a close friend ... A: Before examining whether you "stay or go" or who you want to be in a relationship with for the rest ...
Leaving Husband for Lesbian Lover	6/25/2009
Q: I recently left my husband and so did my lesbian lover. We just don't know how long to keep our ... A: The most important thing as you have so wisely gathered, is telling the children. The question of ...
having a hard time getting over ex	6/15/2009
Q: my ex and i have been broken up for over a year.she has a girlfriend,the same girl she says she ... A: Life is a beautiful thing. Don't miss a single moment of it waiting or wondering if someone loves ...
just flirty or more?	6/14/2009
Q: ok so my best friend is bi and i cant tell whether or not she is in to me or if shes just extremely ... A: I get this type of question a lot. Signs to look for are: ~ Is she just as flirtatious with other ...
coaching or therapy	6/11/2009
Q: My girlfriend and I will celebrate our second anniversary together in early July, but since last ... A: It is just the most wonderful news, that you are seeking counseling! You have elected to embark on ...
co-worker problem	6/6/2009
Q: I need advice. I just recently came out of a secret, 6 year sexual relationship with my best friend ... A: Secret relationships are always problematic in many ways. Some people subscribe to the idea that if ...
confusion	6/3/2009
Q: We had a soccer dinner the other night and we ended up kissing and talking about seeing how things ... A: She may be reacting to your own uncertainty. No one wants to get seriously involved with someone who ...
My wife is probably gay	5/31/2009
Q: My wife and I have been married for nearly 25 years, we have 4 wonderful children and I believe that ... A: You sound like a wonderful, loving, caring man. Any woman would be lucky to have you for a partner. ...
She Knew All Along	5/30/2009
Q: I have been communicating with this female for about a year. I have bought her gifts and we spend a ... A: Of course she knows you like her, it is staring her right in the face with every action you take. ...
She Knew All Along	5/22/2009
Q: I have been communicating with this female for about a year. I have bought her gifts and we spend a ... A: Well, here’s the thing -- Because other people besides you and me read this column. And because some ...
Lesbian friend wants to keep me in the closet.	5/21/2009
Q: I'm getting out of a six year relationship including a brief marriage to a man and I am now in my ... A: It sounds like you’ve had a lot going on and all within the recent past. Showing care and respect ...
confused	5/19/2009
Q: We became friends and on a drunken night out we got together etc and continued from there...we have ... A: No need to put undue pressure on yourself. When the time is right, you'll know. You'll also ...
My gf cheated!!	5/18/2009
Q: My gf is in the Army, she has been deployed to Afghanistan for over 6 months now, we have been ... A: Recovering from infidelity is painful and it takes time. What you cannot do is allow her ...
Is a woman at work interested in me?	5/14/2009
Q: I'm 34 years old and out. I began working at a new job about 9 months ago. The first moment I laid ... A: I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before the two of you are talking up a storm. Jokingly, a ...
Desperate for help.	5/13/2009
Q: I'm 24 years old,I've been straight all my life,up until a year ago,when i met a woman(30 years ... A: You tell me the problem is, "not about you labeling yourself." Labeling or not, it most certainly ...
Does my mother suspect I'm hiding something with my girlfriend?	5/12/2009
Q: I'm in a relationship right now, so far everything seems fine between us from what I see. Although ... A: While you sit, wondering if your mother suspects; gather as much information as possible in the ...
coaching or therapy	5/11/2009
Q: My girlfriend and I will celebrate our second anniversary together in early July, but since last ... A: We can't help who we're drawn to or who we fall in love with, we can however, make a conscious ...
confused/stay or go?	5/9/2009
Q: I recently came out(about a year ago). I was totally in love with someone who was my friend and ... A: My question to you is: Do you love the person you are with? If not, why stay? You have to deal with ...
My lesbian relationship	5/8/2009
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for two years now and this has been a difficult two years for our ... A: Few people are capable of achieving relationship bliss by jumping into a new relationship, while ...
Confused	5/2/2009
Q: I've read many of the questions and answers about the "am I a lesbian?" theme and I think I fall ... A: Having read previous responses, you seem to have become aware that no two cases are alike. Also, ...
how do I tell my deeply religious kids that I'm gay?	4/30/2009
Q: I have been losing sleep over my predicament--I was hoping you could help. I am 38, was married for ... A: The intersection between religion and homosexuality presents a dilemma that is becoming increasingly ...
Online dating... Does the girl like me?	4/22/2009
Q: I'm 21 years old and met a girl online she is also 21 and on our 1st date we really seemed to hit ... A: The first question I want to address is: “How often should I call her without coming off as too ...
no idea	4/10/2009
Q: I have met a straight women for a year now, she has been divorce twice and right now she has a ... A: This woman must really be something. She’s got her mom, sister, kid; tiptoeing around her to try and ...
questioning	4/8/2009
Q: So, I have always considered myself to be straight, but this year i went to college and ended up on ... A: In my humble opinion, people spend entirely too much time and energy worrying about the what ifs and ...
I'm in love with my straight friend	4/5/2009
Q: I live in Honduras, people here have a very close mind..so they do not look at gay relationships. ... A: Progress - not perfection - is what its about. I realize you may be impatient and that your picture ...
dating a mom & coming out to my mom	3/28/2009
Q: I just got out of a serious relationship/affair with a partnered woman that lasted about 9 ... A: As I stated in my previous response: "It is unfair to get involved with another person till you have ...
how do I talk to a girl I when I'm shy	3/26/2009
Q: I like this girl at my school but I am too shy to talk to her, like I can't even go up to her to ... A: Immature or not, is a matter of opinion. What defines immature is up to the person doing the ...
I'm in love with my straight friend	3/23/2009
Q: I live in Honduras, people here have a very close mind..so they do not look at gay relationships. ... A: Tell her! Go ahead and tell her you like her as more than a friend. Seriously. She sounds like she’s ...
friends not accepting new relationship	3/14/2009
Q: Awhile back I just recently moved from Minnesota all the way to New York to be with a woman I met ... A: Whenever the topic of limits involving friends comes up, I often share with people, that for those ...
Potential Date	3/12/2009
Q: Ok so this is my first time asking this question on one of these things so please if I'm doing this ... A: The only person who would know if she is a lesbian or not, is she, herself. So you have to take her ...
Falling For The Straight Friend	3/10/2009
Q: Okay, so I've been down this road, and I'm sure almost every lesbian has at least once...falling for ... A: In this age of disposable cyber-friends and blind dates, we tend to meet more people, more often and ...
Coming out	3/3/2009
Q: I am not sure how to start this email but I will give it try and hope it makes sense. Iam 30 ... A: Occasionally, I read articles like Newsweek’s, ‘Gay Families Coming Out’ and I hear stories about ...
Help..i love this girl but shes too far away	3/1/2009
Q: well...ive been into girls for a long time, a different girl turned me into a bi...or lesbian im not ... A: To your first remark - nobody "turns" you gay or bi or anything you are not and don't want to be. In ...
will she come back to me	2/25/2009
Q: we broke up about two weeks ago there has been no contact since but i contacted her to get together ... A: If I could see into the future, I might be able to let you know whether your girlfriend will be ...
how do I fix this?	2/23/2009
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. At the beginning we were great, we were intimate, ... A: "Backing off a little," sounds like an excellent idea. Communication is key, in any relationship. ...
I have a crush on my friend and she doesnt know	2/20/2009
Q: I'm 19 and I move from Boston, Ma, to Honduras (central america). People here are very close minded, ... A: A new-found crush can be so titillating. Yet if any of us knew what awaits us in its wake, ...
Is it time to let go of my relationshp?	2/19/2009
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for 2yrs & 8mo, and have live together for all except 6mo of that ... A: Why are you leaving it up to her to make all the decisions? I'll pause here... and allow you a few ...
just broke up with my first girlfriend and i want her back!!!	2/11/2009
Q: My first girlfriend of four months just broke up with me stating that she felt there was something ... A: Though it is natural to want to stop the pain of a breakup by convincing the other person to take us ...
Am I a lesbian or am I asexual?	2/10/2009
Q: I know this sounds like a weird thing to ask, but I have been a bit confused about my sexual ... A: No one can answer for you the question of whether you are a lesbian or not. You must answer this for ...
I told my straight friend I loved her	2/9/2009
Q: I have been best friends with this girl for the past three years. We worked closely together, lived ... A: This is one of those instances where once the toothpaste is out of the container, there's no forcing ...
girlfriend and Marijuana	2/8/2009
Q: My partner Isabella and I have been together for 3 years. We have talked about having a future ... A: One therapist I know refuses to see patients who are active in their addictions. She says they ...
Just how much time heals all wounds?	2/7/2009
Q: I've been dating a married woman for 2 years. Her husband knows. I've met him. I'm her first. She ... A: Initiate a plan for no contact under any circumstances, immediately -period! Do whatever it takes. ...
Keep going or end realtionship?	1/31/2009
Q: My partner and I have been together 2 and half years. This spring we will ce;celebrate our 3rd ... A: Try and stay in touch with 'yourself' throughout this process. You're putting all your energy into ...
Should I speak up?	1/30/2009
Q: Apologies for the length of this before I start. I'm in a LDR and have been for approx 5 years, I do ... A: Your relationship with your girlfriend and with this other woman have to be placed in separate ...
Broken Heart!	1/29/2009
Q: .. I do have a question but I think it's important to give a quick background. I am 21 and my ex is ... A: You may be exactly correct when you say she is just "scared and confused." It certainly sounds like ...
Do I tell her?	1/28/2009
Q: hey, I was just wondering about something. First I'd like to let you know that I'm a teenager. ... A: You don't refer to any specific examples of how (for instance) "she flirts back" so I will have to ...
moving on..	1/27/2009
Q: I could really use some advice. Here is my problem. My now ex gf and I have known each other for 6 ... A: As painful as it seems, "moving on" is precisely what you must do at this time. Supportive friends ...
how to make it work?	1/18/2009
Q: alright, well i got out of a relationship awhile ago. it was the hardest one i've ever been in and ... A: When we have been through difficult circumstances, part of us hesitates upon embarking on another ...
Hard choice	1/17/2009
Q: Torres, I have a bit of a situation that I would be grateful for your insight and input in. I have ... A: Absolutely, telling them 'both' what your intentions are, would be best. If you have nothing to ...
Can't tell how my bff feels?	1/14/2009
Q: I have been best friends with a girl for over two years. We seem to have an unusually close bond ... A: Your friend's behavior sounds like that of dozens of women I've heard from. Women simultaneously ...
i fell for a straight girl...i think	1/8/2009
Q: This past summer I realized that I had feelings for someone that has been in my life for about 12 ... A: As I read your story, I'm reminded of another letter from someone who's foundation for always being ...
an ex that wont let go	1/6/2009
Q: About two months ago I got out of this relationship that lasted for four years. When we broke up it ... A: Clearly, your ex is not respecting your boundaries. I suggest you let her know immediately that if ...
I'm in love with my straight best friend- what can I do??	1/2/2009
Q: Here is the situation: I am in love with a girl that has been my best friend for the last 1 and a ... A: I would be cautious and remain focused on the fact that she has cheated twice on someone she was in ...
My Lesbian/Bi Wife	12/23/2008
Q: first off thank god for this site...I have sent so many emails to sites only to find that they ... A: Your wife is very lucky. You are a very understanding guy. For me, kissing another person (of any ...
My Lesbian/Bi Wife	12/22/2008
Q: first off thank god for this site...I have sent so many emails to sites only to find that they ... A: I'm sorry that you had to find out about her possible lesbianism in such an abrupt way. She might be ...
how can i be more confident?	12/21/2008
Q: I'm a 14 years old girl. I like girls, I've like them since i was really young. I'm boyish i dress ... A: It would be great if we could all waive a magic wand that would instantly render us more confident. ...
i need help...	12/11/2008
Q: Ok... I have an issue. Well I'm a lesbian and I'm newly single... and now I've developed a crush... ... A: Given the fact that you say, if (you) ever... made her uncomfortable around you, "it would kill ...
married for 15 years and now decides she is a lesbian	12/8/2008
Q: My friend has been married over 15 yars and has 5 children with the same husband. A month ago she ... A: No one just suddenly “decides” she is a lesbian. Now that your friend is making a difficult life ...
I don't want to lose her.	12/2/2008
Q: Sorry but this is going to be a long post. Three days ago I posted this message on a forum, just to ... A: One cannot bring to a relationship what one does not have for oneself. It is imperative that a ...
Dating a woman with a 6 yr old boy	12/1/2008
Q: I have been dating this woman for about 7 months now and I can say with certainty that it is a ... A: Seven months is very early in a relationship. You did not say if you are living together or not. You ...
ex gf issues	11/30/2008
Q: I am writing to you because I'm in a weird situation. I'm sorry for the length of it! I'm 16 and in ... A: There is no easy way to decipher a person's true intentions, when truth fluctuates from day to day. ...
am I gay	11/26/2008
Q: So, I have been married to a man for 12 years and we have three children together. Our relationship ... A: The first thing to consider here is do you want to stay in your marriage? That decision should be ...
How can I tell if she is a Lesbian? How can I tell her I like her?	11/25/2008
Q: Okay so there is this girl that I really like. And the thing is that I actually like her for her ... A: I mostly got the idea that you are special to her too, from the exchange you had the day when you ...
How can I tell if she is a Lesbian? How can I tell her I like her?	11/25/2008
Q: Okay so there is this girl that I really like. And the thing is that I actually like her for her ... A: It is rare that I hear someone express that they like/love someone for what comes across as, all the ...
lisbian and gay	11/24/2008
Q: For last 3 hours I am trying to find out what causes one being lesbian or gay but failed as it seems ... A: The only legitimate response I can give to this question is that the answer depends on two factors. ...
Feelings	11/23/2008
Q: Since high school I have felt that I am attracted to girls, and this past year my best friend ... A: You asked her and she answered. She "does not feel the same way." It is great that she is supportive ...
Is it wrong..	10/19/2008
Q: Do you think it is wrong for me to want to tell my friends I'm a lesbian though I have never had any ... A: How does a person come to decide that they would want to take part in a lesbian sexual encounter? I ...
getting over her	10/16/2008
Q: I have been spening time with this girl but she is confused and is playing a little game of push and ... A: Pay attention to the fact that she has said she is “confused” because that is key. You also have to ...
Open Relationship	10/15/2008
Q: I'm 19, in college, and have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. I am very much in love with her ... A: You are making the mature choice by making college a priority at this time. It is also commendable ...
Is my wife a lesbian after 14 years of marriage?	10/1/2008
Q: My wife and I have been married for 14 years. She has never been passionate about sex between us. ... A: Telling you: "it was the best sex she ever had" is unacceptable in any context - but even more so, ...
Caring for someone I cant have	9/30/2008
Q: Well, I just got of a three year relationship four months ago and i have developed very strong ... A: Give it time. Both of you are healing from your respective past relationships. When you're ...
New girlfriend... am I being too needy?	9/29/2008
Q: I'm a 19 year old lesbian college student and I've been dating another 19 year old girl who lives ... A: I don't think it is a sign of dominance in a relationship, to initiate activities. One thing I ...
Are my lesbian fantasies going to ruin our relationship?	9/28/2008
Q: I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We were close friends for 6 years before ... A: Your question might be re-framed to read: Is my hope of being in a straight relationship, going to ...
married with child	9/24/2008
Q: Okay, I don't even know what order to tell this in, so I'm just going to blurt things out. I'm ... A: First, I hope you have taken a serious look at the weblink in my previous reply. I say that ...
confused about relationship	9/24/2008
Q: I was wondering if u cud help me. i have just started college and have never been in a relationship ... A: Finding someone that you have a real connection with and experiencing all those feelings can be ...
how do i move on when i'm still in love with her	9/22/2008
Q: i was recently in a very serious relationship with my g/f who i had been with for over 7 months. we ... A: One of the most difficult responsibilities we have as adults, is that we are obligated to take the ...
married with child	9/22/2008
Q: Okay, I don't even know what order to tell this in, so I'm just going to blurt things out. I'm ... A: First let me just say that there are tons of women (literally tons) out there in your exact shoes. ...
Sexual attraction from straight women	9/20/2008
Q: Ok...now there is place that i usually go to & have a few drinks with friends here & there..it's ... A: She is not available. That is the one thing you have to know about her. Period. The more important ...
questioning	9/20/2008
Q: hey lena i've been questioning my sexuality for two months and i've also had mild HOCD for the past ... A: Looking up to someone is normal. We all have an inferiority complex to some degree. Don't beat ...
Sexual attraction from straight women	9/19/2008
Q: Ok...now there is place that i usually go to & have a few drinks with friends here & there..it's ... A: Before I say anything else, I feel the need to express my deep disapproval about the use of the word ...
Great gf vs not so good ex?	9/16/2008
Q: It has been offically about year and a half ( but about a year with no contact). I am currently in a ... A: Some people seem to trigger an attachment that others do not. This has a lot to do with what is ...
questioning	9/15/2008
Q: hey lena i've been questioning my sexuality for two months and i've also had mild HOCD for the past ... A: Since you mention the HOCD, I'll cater my response taking this into consideration. Hence, I'll ...
lesbian	9/13/2008
Q: im a lesbian i kno this. i been with my girlfriend for 6 months. should i feel guilt and upset for ... A: How you feel is, how you feel. You are entitled to your reality. Nonetheless, in relationships, we ...
I have no idea what I'm doing.	9/13/2008
Q: I really don't know what my question is. I feel like I'm just stuck in my life. I feel like I don't ... A: Those who do not live in or near a large metropolitan area, find it helpful to join on-line groups ...
28 yr age span	9/12/2008
Q: My girlfriend and I are 28 years apart. Her being 23 and me being the older one. We feel so ... A: Enjoy every minute you spend together. No need to worry about any other time but the present. What ...
I have no idea what I'm doing.	9/12/2008
Q: I really don't know what my question is. I feel like I'm just stuck in my life. I feel like I don't ... A: Coming to terms with being a lesbian does not require having personal relationships with other ...
In love with a married woman.	9/11/2008
Q: I am a 39 year old lesbian, who thought l was in a happy relationship, that was until one evening ... A: The best success story I have ever heard, under these circumstances, was one where the gay partner ...
She says she's straight	8/21/2008
Q: I feel quite nervous asking all this, so sorry, in advance, if I end up waffling. I'm 23. I met this ... A: The feeling of a heart, breaking just aches all over doesn’t it? I can hear the desperation in your ...
Don't understand this relationship	8/21/2008
Q: I started online dating a girl this past January. We live several states apart. She was getting out ... A: Sadly, the world is full of this kind of deception and it is so easy for a trusting, sensitive ...
Selfish ways	8/20/2008
Q: When I met my girlfriend, she was the most kind, considerate, caring person I had ever known. It's ... A: What you and your girlfriend need most is to communicate. If your relationship is salvageable and ...
Interfearing house mate	8/19/2008
Q: We were three friends. But then two of us started dating. my GF and out mutual friend/problem flat ... A: What stands out to me, is that you say "you have a house." You also said that (at one point) the ...
Painful breakup	8/18/2008
Q: Not sure that I should write this, but then again - I'm not sure of much at the moment. My ... A: The first thing I want to say is 'you are not pathetic." I believe words have power and once you use ...
Don't understand this relationship	8/18/2008
Q: I started online dating a girl this past January. We live several states apart. She was getting out ... A: Bi-Polar or Borderline Personality Disorder can be possible explanations for very similar behavior ...
wat do i do?	8/17/2008
Q: all right hi im 15 i just became a freshman. and i like this junior,and shes bi...i just found that ... A: OK, so there’s a sure-shot way that you can get her to "notice you" like, right now! But she will ...
wat do i do?	8/16/2008
Q: all right hi im 15 i just became a freshman. and i like this junior,and shes bi...i just found that ... A: I think it is great that you like her and you have all the information you need to take the leap of ...
My girlfriend wants space and I can't handle all this	8/16/2008
Q: My name's Isabelle and so.. I have been in a relationship with my now ex gf Tonilee for 5 months and ... A: There are two people in this relationship and you each get a choice. Regardless of how things were ...
Relationship Question	8/12/2008
Q: at the age of 46, I fell for a married friend. Both of us in long-term, abusive relationships. ... A: When it comes to the question of time, everyone seems to approach the process differently. Some ...
Relationship Question	8/9/2008
Q: at the age of 46, I fell for a married friend. Both of us in long-term, abusive relationships. ... A: First, thank you for allowing me the opportunity to address the of subject GBLT domestic violence. ...
How to react?	8/7/2008
Q: I am very educated and pro equality. For that reason I do not differentiate between men and women ... A: Men and women (or gay and straight, for that matter), are not that different from one another. ...
I've fallen for someone's partner.	8/7/2008
Q: Lena.I have something in my heart that is going to explore.I've fallen for a gay woman who is 9 ... A: Look - no matter how you slice it, the key component here that cannot be ignored is - She is in a ...
Lesbian girlfriend	8/6/2008
Q: I met an incrediable women almost an year and a half ago. I can tell you the very moment I knew I ... A: Here you are - waiting - for a year and a half no less. I realize that you say she is "amazing" and ...
I have a very unsupportive family and don't know what to do.	8/4/2008
Q: I’m in a bit of a jam. I don’t know what I am. I’m either Bi, or a Lesbian. I know my mother hates ... A: I hope you realize, that you do have options. Your sister is - no doubt, an annoyance - but telling ...
My Baby	8/2/2008
Q: My daughter is a lesbian and all I want for her is happiness. I want be who she is. The problem I ... A: You seem to keep trying to answer the question of: "How did this happen?" As if it were some sort of ...
i need her back	7/31/2008
Q: hey how you doing i need help..me and my girl was perfect last week i mean we was so happy nothing ... A: What happened? She has to answer that question herself. You cannot draw your own conclusions on ...
I've fallen for someone's partner.	7/30/2008
Q: Lena.I have something in my heart that is going to explore.I've fallen for a gay woman who is 9 ... A: You've made it very clear, both to me and to "Kay" that you are attracted to her. You have invited ...
In DEEP love with a girl	7/29/2008
Q: I'm 17 years old and met a girl that i play football with and I knew that it was something about ... A: Suicide is a - "permanent solution, to a temporary problem" - It is NEVER, the answer. I know of one ...
Jenny's back at it...	7/27/2008
Q: l posted a couple of question on this site and Michele was very helpful.And lam sure you will be ... A: So, I read your first couple of sentences and stopped and thought - no matter what else this letter ...
confused in Dating	7/27/2008
Q: I met a girl online and we had our 1st date at her home even though I wanted to take her out. We ... A: You say that you spent the first date at her home even though, you "wanted to go out." It sounds as ...
im confused	7/27/2008
Q: My name is laura iv just turned 19, iv always wanted to become a man, loose my breasts but keep my ... A: Yours is a difficult predicament to be in. While your partner understands your preference for women ...

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Can Answer Questions about Lesbian Life: Dating, Relationships, Breakups, Cheating and Every day life. Prefer not to Respond to: Intricate Psychological Disorder questions (though I can refer readers to other resources i.e. websites/counceling for information and help on these issues). No questions with sexual content, especially from under-age readers.

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Worked within the domestic violence field, assisting victims to get their lives back on track; through facilitating support-groups, workshops and individual counceling. Continue to be an active member of the lesbian community, providing referals and support to fellow lesbians through church and other groups.

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FVS (domestic violence group in Florida) and various church groups.

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B.A. in Journalism, with heavy research concentration in Social Psychology and Human Relations. Working toward Masters.

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Received commendation award for public relations work and teamwork/unity and team-leadership awards within a corporate setting.

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