| Subject | Date Asked |
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| crush | 11/17/2009 |
Q: Hey lena, my name is Amy, and my question is how do i ask my crush out, or what would be the correct ...
A: Your friend is right when she suggests that you may be coming-on too strong. Not just when ...
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| Keke | 11/13/2009 |
Q: There is this girl that I really do like. I've known her for over a year now and we've been best ...
A: Recognizing that she really wants to “be there” for you, but that she cannot give you “100 percent” ...
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| Flirting | 11/10/2009 |
Q: I recently started training to be a rape crisis counselor, and have been hanging out with one of the ...
A: Just because she's flirtatious, high energy, warm, whimsical, and very outspoken with everyone else, ...
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| What to do next? | 11/2/2009 |
Q: A girl and I have been friends for a few years and we have always had a flirty relationship. We have ...
A: She has spoken, when she said: "she can't do this anymore.. I (you) haven't done anything wrong but ...
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| I don't understand myself. | 10/27/2009 |
Q: Really, I'm in need of help. I can't do it alone, I'm out of control. It just happened, and I wasn't ...
A: You may have a touch of internalized homophobia -- It's possible. A condition that is sure to ...
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| Needing to vent | 10/25/2009 |
Q: Well I'm 18 and my best friend of almost a year now has moved back down to where I live. Before she ...
A: Your statement about yourself: "I use to but I let it go because I didnt know how she felt," stands ...
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| Do you think I'm bi? | 10/23/2009 |
Q: Ok, I literally can't believe I'm doing this. Like that I'm online even considering this but it's ...
A: No, I don't think you're crazy for thinking something could happen between you just based on the ...
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| Lost | 10/5/2009 |
Q: Ok Im 17 and the girl i like has a grilfriend. We have been talking for almost 4 months and she ...
A: Yes, I can help you. But first, in order to receive "help" you must believe that the person giving ...
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| secret love with bff and now...it's gone | 9/30/2009 |
Q: i really don't know where to start...i've known her through her boyfriend that past away about 8 ...
A: It is so difficult to feel torn between something we love and the need to do what is right for ...
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| secret love with bff and now...it's gone | 9/29/2009 |
Q: i really don't know where to start...i've known her through her boyfriend that past away about 8 ...
A: I think that moving away for a while may very well be a good thing to do, but it is not the most ...
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| What am I? | 9/23/2009 |
Q: I've spent my life as a heterosexual while I and others laughed and questioned why. My problem is ...
A: You are not alone! Sexuality is not as one-sided, as some might assume it to be. You may well fall ...
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| Accused of cheating. | 9/22/2009 |
Q: For the past three months, my girlfriend has had dreams where I was cheating on her. Last month, we ...
A: Having had a dream about infidelity or having been told by a psychic, are not legitimate reasons to ...
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| Being rejected | 9/17/2009 |
Q: I am in a tough situation and have been crying all day. In a nutshell- a girl whom I had been ...
A: Feelings (positive or negative) toward the people in our lives, are seldom constant. They are ...
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| Lesbian friend and her mom | 9/16/2009 |
Q: I am a 20 years old female of Indian origin living in UK for past 10 uears. I am having a committed ...
A: What a shameful thing for a mother to do to her daughter! Unfortunately, you are now caught in the ...
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| Just reeeallly close friends? | 9/15/2009 |
Q: I have this HUUUUGE thing for one of my closest friends (lesbian) and I have NO idea what to do... ...
A: The first question that enters my mind is: Why is it up to her, to make the first move and all that ...
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| Is she or isn't she interested? | 9/10/2009 |
Q: I'm into a girl that I've been friends with for a few years. She's aware of my feelings and is okay ...
A: Sounds like your friend might be confused. She may be feeling attracted to you at times and ...
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| RE: Living together - First time relationship | 9/7/2009 |
Q: Ok I need some guidance seriously. The facts of my situation are like this - she was involved with ...
A: but the truth is, it is a real pleasure to read through something when the answers come so clearly. ...
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| Confused | 8/26/2009 |
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for six years and it's basically gotten to the point where she's called ...
A: Bickering is sometimes more common in lesbian relationships, because of how emotionally-charged ...
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| troubled love | 8/21/2009 |
Q: I feel my relationship is on its way out the door. I love my girlfriend very much and know she is a ...
A: I'm sorry you are so sad. It sounds like your girlfriend is reacting to what she has perceived as ...
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| not sure | 8/20/2009 |
Q: Lena. I'm in a situation that I'm very confused about! There's this girl that I met about two months ...
A: In life, as I see it, each one of us is given our fair share of puzzles to solve. The measure of ...
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| still questioning being gay | 8/16/2009 |
Q: i have came out and i identify myself as a lesbian. i know i have always liked women. it's not even ...
A: You definitely are in the 'questioning' stage and this is a good place to be. It can however be ...
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| In love with a lesbian | 8/9/2009 |
Q: (REPOSTED) Hello. I am a 40 yr old married straight woman who has fallen in love with a lesbian. I ...
A: Yes, absolutely, I see myriad red flags all over the place. Space restrictions may prevent me from ...
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| I dont know what to do | 8/8/2009 |
Q: I am a 20 year old female. i was raised in a fundamental christian family, who drilled into me all ...
A: In his research, the Reverend Mel White has included basic explanations, comparing common ...
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| Confused | 8/4/2009 |
Q: Ive been attracted to this one girl for 5 yrs now well i never would tell her how i felt until just ...
A: There are about as many different types of 'involvement' between individuals as there are ...
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| i need help about a girl... | 8/2/2009 |
Q: around 4 years ago i met a girl (let's call her Janice) but i never really developed a friendship ...
A: You do not say if this would be your first committed relationship. If it is, these things require a ...
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| my arabic root is killing me | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I am 36 year's old women, who I consider myself bi, have been into several realations in the past, ...
A: You have been through a lot. Coming from a part of the world where horrible harm can come to you ...
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| is she lesbian? | 7/28/2009 |
Q: My gf and i have been together for 3 years. when i met her she was dating a man but she told me it ...
A: For anyone who's reading this, who has 'ever' heard (or used) the excuse for an affair: "I did it ...
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| my confused girlfriend | 7/26/2009 |
Q: I am currently dating this girl who I adore but am skeptical about her past and if she will cheat on ...
A: This link might help: http://www.straightspouse.org/home.php. I know you are not married, nor can ...
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| How can I tell if my wife is gay? | 7/21/2009 |
Q: Long question. I am married 30 years and have 2 children with my wife. About 3 years ago, a friend ...
A: Lots of women talk for 400 minutes per month to their friends. It is how some women process things. ...
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| I think my girlfriend is hiding something from me. | 7/20/2009 |
Q: MY girlfriend and I started dating back in November. Things started off great when we first started ...
A: Trust your instincts! Your instincts are the best guide you have, when something suspicious is ...
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| Lesbian Flirting | 7/17/2009 |
Q: I've just accepted that I'm a bi-sexual woman. I've been going to a doctors office and the ...
A: If she's asking for people's phone numbers and then deciding not to call, I'm not one bit surprised ...
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| Unsure | 7/9/2009 |
Q: There is this woman I met, she is 56 will be 57 this year, I am 47. I remember our first touch, she ...
A: Wait? For what? As I understand from your letter, it was not implied in any way that she would ...
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| Confused... | 7/8/2009 |
Q: I'm a 19 year old college student. I realized I was gay about half way through high school but I've ...
A: I have to say that I kept wanting to fill in whatever was missing from some parts of your letter. ...
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| My first same-sex relationship | 7/4/2009 |
Q: I'm 22 years old and have been heterosexual my whole life. I've dated a lot of guys, but it's been a ...
A: OK, I'll help you, but only on one condition -- that you try and seek on-going guidance from others ...
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| stay or go.. | 7/3/2009 |
Q: This is the 2nd year of our relationship. She is my best friend TRULY, I haven't had a close friend ...
A: Before examining whether you "stay or go" or who you want to be in a relationship with for the rest ...
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| Leaving Husband for Lesbian Lover | 6/25/2009 |
Q: I recently left my husband and so did my lesbian lover. We just don't know how long to keep our ...
A: The most important thing as you have so wisely gathered, is telling the children. The question of ...
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| having a hard time getting over ex | 6/15/2009 |
Q: my ex and i have been broken up for over a year.she has a girlfriend,the same girl she says she ...
A: Life is a beautiful thing. Don't miss a single moment of it waiting or wondering if someone loves ...
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| just flirty or more? | 6/14/2009 |
Q: ok so my best friend is bi and i cant tell whether or not she is in to me or if shes just extremely ...
A: I get this type of question a lot. Signs to look for are: ~ Is she just as flirtatious with other ...
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| coaching or therapy | 6/11/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend and I will celebrate our second anniversary together in early July, but since last ...
A: It is just the most wonderful news, that you are seeking counseling! You have elected to embark on ...
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| co-worker problem | 6/6/2009 |
Q: I need advice. I just recently came out of a secret, 6 year sexual relationship with my best friend ...
A: Secret relationships are always problematic in many ways. Some people subscribe to the idea that if ...
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| confusion | 6/3/2009 |
Q: We had a soccer dinner the other night and we ended up kissing and talking about seeing how things ...
A: She may be reacting to your own uncertainty. No one wants to get seriously involved with someone who ...
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| My wife is probably gay | 5/31/2009 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for nearly 25 years, we have 4 wonderful children and I believe that ...
A: You sound like a wonderful, loving, caring man. Any woman would be lucky to have you for a partner. ...
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| She Knew All Along | 5/30/2009 |
Q: I have been communicating with this female for about a year. I have bought her gifts and we spend a ...
A: Of course she knows you like her, it is staring her right in the face with every action you take. ...
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| She Knew All Along | 5/22/2009 |
Q: I have been communicating with this female for about a year. I have bought her gifts and we spend a ...
A: Well, here’s the thing -- Because other people besides you and me read this column. And because some ...
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| Lesbian friend wants to keep me in the closet. | 5/21/2009 |
Q: I'm getting out of a six year relationship including a brief marriage to a man and I am now in my ...
A: It sounds like you’ve had a lot going on and all within the recent past. Showing care and respect ...
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| confused | 5/19/2009 |
Q: We became friends and on a drunken night out we got together etc and continued from there...we have ...
A: No need to put undue pressure on yourself. When the time is right, you'll know. You'll also ...
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| My gf cheated!! | 5/18/2009 |
Q: My gf is in the Army, she has been deployed to Afghanistan for over 6 months now, we have been ...
A: Recovering from infidelity is painful and it takes time. What you cannot do is allow her ...
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| Is a woman at work interested in me? | 5/14/2009 |
Q: I'm 34 years old and out. I began working at a new job about 9 months ago. The first moment I laid ...
A: I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before the two of you are talking up a storm. Jokingly, a ...
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| Desperate for help. | 5/13/2009 |
Q: I'm 24 years old,I've been straight all my life,up until a year ago,when i met a woman(30 years ...
A: You tell me the problem is, "not about you labeling yourself." Labeling or not, it most certainly ...
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| Does my mother suspect I'm hiding something with my girlfriend? | 5/12/2009 |
Q: I'm in a relationship right now, so far everything seems fine between us from what I see. Although ...
A: While you sit, wondering if your mother suspects; gather as much information as possible in the ...
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| coaching or therapy | 5/11/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend and I will celebrate our second anniversary together in early July, but since last ...
A: We can't help who we're drawn to or who we fall in love with, we can however, make a conscious ...
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| confused/stay or go? | 5/9/2009 |
Q: I recently came out(about a year ago). I was totally in love with someone who was my friend and ...
A: My question to you is: Do you love the person you are with? If not, why stay? You have to deal with ...
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| My lesbian relationship | 5/8/2009 |
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for two years now and this has been a difficult two years for our ...
A: Few people are capable of achieving relationship bliss by jumping into a new relationship, while ...
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| Confused | 5/2/2009 |
Q: I've read many of the questions and answers about the "am I a lesbian?" theme and I think I fall ...
A: Having read previous responses, you seem to have become aware that no two cases are alike. Also, ...
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| how do I tell my deeply religious kids that I'm gay? | 4/30/2009 |
Q: I have been losing sleep over my predicament--I was hoping you could help. I am 38, was married for ...
A: The intersection between religion and homosexuality presents a dilemma that is becoming increasingly ...
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| Online dating... Does the girl like me? | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I'm 21 years old and met a girl online she is also 21 and on our 1st date we really seemed to hit ...
A: The first question I want to address is: “How often should I call her without coming off as too ...
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| no idea | 4/10/2009 |
Q: I have met a straight women for a year now, she has been divorce twice and right now she has a ...
A: This woman must really be something. She’s got her mom, sister, kid; tiptoeing around her to try and ...
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| questioning | 4/8/2009 |
Q: So, I have always considered myself to be straight, but this year i went to college and ended up on ...
A: In my humble opinion, people spend entirely too much time and energy worrying about the what ifs and ...
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| I'm in love with my straight friend | 4/5/2009 |
Q: I live in Honduras, people here have a very close mind..so they do not look at gay relationships. ...
A: Progress - not perfection - is what its about. I realize you may be impatient and that your picture ...
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| dating a mom & coming out to my mom | 3/28/2009 |
Q: I just got out of a serious relationship/affair with a partnered woman that lasted about 9 ...
A: As I stated in my previous response: "It is unfair to get involved with another person till you have ...
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| how do I talk to a girl I when I'm shy | 3/26/2009 |
Q: I like this girl at my school but I am too shy to talk to her, like I can't even go up to her to ...
A: Immature or not, is a matter of opinion. What defines immature is up to the person doing the ...
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| I'm in love with my straight friend | 3/23/2009 |
Q: I live in Honduras, people here have a very close mind..so they do not look at gay relationships. ...
A: Tell her! Go ahead and tell her you like her as more than a friend. Seriously. She sounds like she’s ...
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| friends not accepting new relationship | 3/14/2009 |
Q: Awhile back I just recently moved from Minnesota all the way to New York to be with a woman I met ...
A: Whenever the topic of limits involving friends comes up, I often share with people, that for those ...
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| Potential Date | 3/12/2009 |
Q: Ok so this is my first time asking this question on one of these things so please if I'm doing this ...
A: The only person who would know if she is a lesbian or not, is she, herself. So you have to take her ...
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| Falling For The Straight Friend | 3/10/2009 |
Q: Okay, so I've been down this road, and I'm sure almost every lesbian has at least once...falling for ...
A: In this age of disposable cyber-friends and blind dates, we tend to meet more people, more often and ...
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| Coming out | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I am not sure how to start this email but I will give it try and hope it makes sense. Iam 30 ...
A: Occasionally, I read articles like Newsweek’s, ‘Gay Families Coming Out’ and I hear stories about ...
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| Help..i love this girl but shes too far away | 3/1/2009 |
Q: well...ive been into girls for a long time, a different girl turned me into a bi...or lesbian im not ...
A: To your first remark - nobody "turns" you gay or bi or anything you are not and don't want to be. In ...
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| will she come back to me | 2/25/2009 |
Q: we broke up about two weeks ago there has been no contact since but i contacted her to get together ...
A: If I could see into the future, I might be able to let you know whether your girlfriend will be ...
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| how do I fix this? | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. At the beginning we were great, we were intimate, ...
A: "Backing off a little," sounds like an excellent idea. Communication is key, in any relationship. ...
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| I have a crush on my friend and she doesnt know | 2/20/2009 |
Q: I'm 19 and I move from Boston, Ma, to Honduras (central america). People here are very close minded, ...
A: A new-found crush can be so titillating. Yet if any of us knew what awaits us in its wake, ...
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| Is it time to let go of my relationshp? | 2/19/2009 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for 2yrs & 8mo, and have live together for all except 6mo of that ...
A: Why are you leaving it up to her to make all the decisions? I'll pause here... and allow you a few ...
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| just broke up with my first girlfriend and i want her back!!! | 2/11/2009 |
Q: My first girlfriend of four months just broke up with me stating that she felt there was something ...
A: Though it is natural to want to stop the pain of a breakup by convincing the other person to take us ...
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| Am I a lesbian or am I asexual? | 2/10/2009 |
Q: I know this sounds like a weird thing to ask, but I have been a bit confused about my sexual ...
A: No one can answer for you the question of whether you are a lesbian or not. You must answer this for ...
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| I told my straight friend I loved her | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I have been best friends with this girl for the past three years. We worked closely together, lived ...
A: This is one of those instances where once the toothpaste is out of the container, there's no forcing ...
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| girlfriend and Marijuana | 2/8/2009 |
Q: My partner Isabella and I have been together for 3 years. We have talked about having a future ...
A: One therapist I know refuses to see patients who are active in their addictions. She says they ...
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| Just how much time heals all wounds? | 2/7/2009 |
Q: I've been dating a married woman for 2 years. Her husband knows. I've met him. I'm her first. She ...
A: Initiate a plan for no contact under any circumstances, immediately -period! Do whatever it takes. ...
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| Keep going or end realtionship? | 1/31/2009 |
Q: My partner and I have been together 2 and half years. This spring we will ce;celebrate our 3rd ...
A: Try and stay in touch with 'yourself' throughout this process. You're putting all your energy into ...
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| Should I speak up? | 1/30/2009 |
Q: Apologies for the length of this before I start. I'm in a LDR and have been for approx 5 years, I do ...
A: Your relationship with your girlfriend and with this other woman have to be placed in separate ...
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| Broken Heart! | 1/29/2009 |
Q: .. I do have a question but I think it's important to give a quick background. I am 21 and my ex is ...
A: You may be exactly correct when you say she is just "scared and confused." It certainly sounds like ...
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| Do I tell her? | 1/28/2009 |
Q: hey, I was just wondering about something. First I'd like to let you know that I'm a teenager. ...
A: You don't refer to any specific examples of how (for instance) "she flirts back" so I will have to ...
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| moving on.. | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I could really use some advice. Here is my problem. My now ex gf and I have known each other for 6 ...
A: As painful as it seems, "moving on" is precisely what you must do at this time. Supportive friends ...
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| how to make it work? | 1/18/2009 |
Q: alright, well i got out of a relationship awhile ago. it was the hardest one i've ever been in and ...
A: When we have been through difficult circumstances, part of us hesitates upon embarking on another ...
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| Hard choice | 1/17/2009 |
Q: Torres, I have a bit of a situation that I would be grateful for your insight and input in. I have ...
A: Absolutely, telling them 'both' what your intentions are, would be best. If you have nothing to ...
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| Can't tell how my bff feels? | 1/14/2009 |
Q: I have been best friends with a girl for over two years. We seem to have an unusually close bond ...
A: Your friend's behavior sounds like that of dozens of women I've heard from. Women simultaneously ...
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| i fell for a straight girl...i think | 1/8/2009 |
Q: This past summer I realized that I had feelings for someone that has been in my life for about 12 ...
A: As I read your story, I'm reminded of another letter from someone who's foundation for always being ...
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| an ex that wont let go | 1/6/2009 |
Q: About two months ago I got out of this relationship that lasted for four years. When we broke up it ...
A: Clearly, your ex is not respecting your boundaries. I suggest you let her know immediately that if ...
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| I'm in love with my straight best friend- what can I do?? | 1/2/2009 |
Q: Here is the situation: I am in love with a girl that has been my best friend for the last 1 and a ...
A: I would be cautious and remain focused on the fact that she has cheated twice on someone she was in ...
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| My Lesbian/Bi Wife | 12/23/2008 |
Q: first off thank god for this site...I have sent so many emails to sites only to find that they ...
A: Your wife is very lucky. You are a very understanding guy. For me, kissing another person (of any ...
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| My Lesbian/Bi Wife | 12/22/2008 |
Q: first off thank god for this site...I have sent so many emails to sites only to find that they ...
A: I'm sorry that you had to find out about her possible lesbianism in such an abrupt way. She might be ...
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| how can i be more confident? | 12/21/2008 |
Q: I'm a 14 years old girl. I like girls, I've like them since i was really young. I'm boyish i dress ...
A: It would be great if we could all waive a magic wand that would instantly render us more confident. ...
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| i need help... | 12/11/2008 |
Q: Ok... I have an issue. Well I'm a lesbian and I'm newly single... and now I've developed a crush... ...
A: Given the fact that you say, if (you) ever... made her uncomfortable around you, "it would kill ...
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| married for 15 years and now decides she is a lesbian | 12/8/2008 |
Q: My friend has been married over 15 yars and has 5 children with the same husband. A month ago she ...
A: No one just suddenly “decides” she is a lesbian. Now that your friend is making a difficult life ...
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| I don't want to lose her. | 12/2/2008 |
Q: Sorry but this is going to be a long post. Three days ago I posted this message on a forum, just to ...
A: One cannot bring to a relationship what one does not have for oneself. It is imperative that a ...
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| Dating a woman with a 6 yr old boy | 12/1/2008 |
Q: I have been dating this woman for about 7 months now and I can say with certainty that it is a ...
A: Seven months is very early in a relationship. You did not say if you are living together or not. You ...
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| ex gf issues | 11/30/2008 |
Q: I am writing to you because I'm in a weird situation. I'm sorry for the length of it! I'm 16 and in ...
A: There is no easy way to decipher a person's true intentions, when truth fluctuates from day to day. ...
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| am I gay | 11/26/2008 |
Q: So, I have been married to a man for 12 years and we have three children together. Our relationship ...
A: The first thing to consider here is do you want to stay in your marriage? That decision should be ...
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| How can I tell if she is a Lesbian? How can I tell her I like her? | 11/25/2008 |
Q: Okay so there is this girl that I really like. And the thing is that I actually like her for her ...
A: I mostly got the idea that you are special to her too, from the exchange you had the day when you ...
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| How can I tell if she is a Lesbian? How can I tell her I like her? | 11/25/2008 |
Q: Okay so there is this girl that I really like. And the thing is that I actually like her for her ...
A: It is rare that I hear someone express that they like/love someone for what comes across as, all the ...
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| lisbian and gay | 11/24/2008 |
Q: For last 3 hours I am trying to find out what causes one being lesbian or gay but failed as it seems ...
A: The only legitimate response I can give to this question is that the answer depends on two factors. ...
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| Feelings | 11/23/2008 |
Q: Since high school I have felt that I am attracted to girls, and this past year my best friend ...
A: You asked her and she answered. She "does not feel the same way." It is great that she is supportive ...
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| Is it wrong.. | 10/19/2008 |
Q: Do you think it is wrong for me to want to tell my friends I'm a lesbian though I have never had any ...
A: How does a person come to decide that they would want to take part in a lesbian sexual encounter? I ...
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| getting over her | 10/16/2008 |
Q: I have been spening time with this girl but she is confused and is playing a little game of push and ...
A: Pay attention to the fact that she has said she is “confused” because that is key. You also have to ...
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| Open Relationship | 10/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 19, in college, and have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. I am very much in love with her ...
A: You are making the mature choice by making college a priority at this time. It is also commendable ...
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| Is my wife a lesbian after 14 years of marriage? | 10/1/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for 14 years. She has never been passionate about sex between us. ...
A: Telling you: "it was the best sex she ever had" is unacceptable in any context - but even more so, ...
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| Caring for someone I cant have | 9/30/2008 |
Q: Well, I just got of a three year relationship four months ago and i have developed very strong ...
A: Give it time. Both of you are healing from your respective past relationships. When you're ...
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| New girlfriend... am I being too needy? | 9/29/2008 |
Q: I'm a 19 year old lesbian college student and I've been dating another 19 year old girl who lives ...
A: I don't think it is a sign of dominance in a relationship, to initiate activities. One thing I ...
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| Are my lesbian fantasies going to ruin our relationship? | 9/28/2008 |
Q: I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We were close friends for 6 years before ...
A: Your question might be re-framed to read: Is my hope of being in a straight relationship, going to ...
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| married with child | 9/24/2008 |
Q: Okay, I don't even know what order to tell this in, so I'm just going to blurt things out. I'm ...
A: First, I hope you have taken a serious look at the weblink in my previous reply. I say that ...
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| confused about relationship | 9/24/2008 |
Q: I was wondering if u cud help me. i have just started college and have never been in a relationship ...
A: Finding someone that you have a real connection with and experiencing all those feelings can be ...
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| how do i move on when i'm still in love with her | 9/22/2008 |
Q: i was recently in a very serious relationship with my g/f who i had been with for over 7 months. we ...
A: One of the most difficult responsibilities we have as adults, is that we are obligated to take the ...
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| married with child | 9/22/2008 |
Q: Okay, I don't even know what order to tell this in, so I'm just going to blurt things out. I'm ...
A: First let me just say that there are tons of women (literally tons) out there in your exact shoes. ...
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| Sexual attraction from straight women | 9/20/2008 |
Q: Ok...now there is place that i usually go to & have a few drinks with friends here & there..it's ...
A: She is not available. That is the one thing you have to know about her. Period. The more important ...
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| questioning | 9/20/2008 |
Q: hey lena i've been questioning my sexuality for two months and i've also had mild HOCD for the past ...
A: Looking up to someone is normal. We all have an inferiority complex to some degree. Don't beat ...
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| Sexual attraction from straight women | 9/19/2008 |
Q: Ok...now there is place that i usually go to & have a few drinks with friends here & there..it's ...
A: Before I say anything else, I feel the need to express my deep disapproval about the use of the word ...
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| Great gf vs not so good ex? | 9/16/2008 |
Q: It has been offically about year and a half ( but about a year with no contact). I am currently in a ...
A: Some people seem to trigger an attachment that others do not. This has a lot to do with what is ...
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| questioning | 9/15/2008 |
Q: hey lena i've been questioning my sexuality for two months and i've also had mild HOCD for the past ...
A: Since you mention the HOCD, I'll cater my response taking this into consideration. Hence, I'll ...
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| lesbian | 9/13/2008 |
Q: im a lesbian i kno this. i been with my girlfriend for 6 months. should i feel guilt and upset for ...
A: How you feel is, how you feel. You are entitled to your reality. Nonetheless, in relationships, we ...
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| I have no idea what I'm doing. | 9/13/2008 |
Q: I really don't know what my question is. I feel like I'm just stuck in my life. I feel like I don't ...
A: Those who do not live in or near a large metropolitan area, find it helpful to join on-line groups ...
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| 28 yr age span | 9/12/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend and I are 28 years apart. Her being 23 and me being the older one. We feel so ...
A: Enjoy every minute you spend together. No need to worry about any other time but the present. What ...
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| I have no idea what I'm doing. | 9/12/2008 |
Q: I really don't know what my question is. I feel like I'm just stuck in my life. I feel like I don't ...
A: Coming to terms with being a lesbian does not require having personal relationships with other ...
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| In love with a married woman. | 9/11/2008 |
Q: I am a 39 year old lesbian, who thought l was in a happy relationship, that was until one evening ...
A: The best success story I have ever heard, under these circumstances, was one where the gay partner ...
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| She says she's straight | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I feel quite nervous asking all this, so sorry, in advance, if I end up waffling. I'm 23. I met this ...
A: The feeling of a heart, breaking just aches all over doesn’t it? I can hear the desperation in your ...
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| Don't understand this relationship | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I started online dating a girl this past January. We live several states apart. She was getting out ...
A: Sadly, the world is full of this kind of deception and it is so easy for a trusting, sensitive ...
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| Selfish ways | 8/20/2008 |
Q: When I met my girlfriend, she was the most kind, considerate, caring person I had ever known. It's ...
A: What you and your girlfriend need most is to communicate. If your relationship is salvageable and ...
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| Interfearing house mate | 8/19/2008 |
Q: We were three friends. But then two of us started dating. my GF and out mutual friend/problem flat ...
A: What stands out to me, is that you say "you have a house." You also said that (at one point) the ...
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| Painful breakup | 8/18/2008 |
Q: Not sure that I should write this, but then again - I'm not sure of much at the moment. My ...
A: The first thing I want to say is 'you are not pathetic." I believe words have power and once you use ...
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| Don't understand this relationship | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I started online dating a girl this past January. We live several states apart. She was getting out ...
A: Bi-Polar or Borderline Personality Disorder can be possible explanations for very similar behavior ...
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| wat do i do? | 8/17/2008 |
Q: all right hi im 15 i just became a freshman. and i like this junior,and shes bi...i just found that ...
A: OK, so there’s a sure-shot way that you can get her to "notice you" like, right now! But she will ...
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| wat do i do? | 8/16/2008 |
Q: all right hi im 15 i just became a freshman. and i like this junior,and shes bi...i just found that ...
A: I think it is great that you like her and you have all the information you need to take the leap of ...
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| My girlfriend wants space and I can't handle all this | 8/16/2008 |
Q: My name's Isabelle and so.. I have been in a relationship with my now ex gf Tonilee for 5 months and ...
A: There are two people in this relationship and you each get a choice. Regardless of how things were ...
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| Relationship Question | 8/12/2008 |
Q: at the age of 46, I fell for a married friend. Both of us in long-term, abusive relationships. ...
A: When it comes to the question of time, everyone seems to approach the process differently. Some ...
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| Relationship Question | 8/9/2008 |
Q: at the age of 46, I fell for a married friend. Both of us in long-term, abusive relationships. ...
A: First, thank you for allowing me the opportunity to address the of subject GBLT domestic violence. ...
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| How to react? | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am very educated and pro equality. For that reason I do not differentiate between men and women ...
A: Men and women (or gay and straight, for that matter), are not that different from one another. ...
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| I've fallen for someone's partner. | 8/7/2008 |
Q: Lena.I have something in my heart that is going to explore.I've fallen for a gay woman who is 9 ...
A: Look - no matter how you slice it, the key component here that cannot be ignored is - She is in a ...
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| Lesbian girlfriend | 8/6/2008 |
Q: I met an incrediable women almost an year and a half ago. I can tell you the very moment I knew I ...
A: Here you are - waiting - for a year and a half no less. I realize that you say she is "amazing" and ...
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| I have a very unsupportive family and don't know what to do. | 8/4/2008 |
Q: I’m in a bit of a jam. I don’t know what I am. I’m either Bi, or a Lesbian. I know my mother hates ...
A: I hope you realize, that you do have options. Your sister is - no doubt, an annoyance - but telling ...
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| My Baby | 8/2/2008 |
Q: My daughter is a lesbian and all I want for her is happiness. I want be who she is. The problem I ...
A: You seem to keep trying to answer the question of: "How did this happen?" As if it were some sort of ...
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| i need her back | 7/31/2008 |
Q: hey how you doing i need help..me and my girl was perfect last week i mean we was so happy nothing ...
A: What happened? She has to answer that question herself. You cannot draw your own conclusions on ...
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| I've fallen for someone's partner. | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Lena.I have something in my heart that is going to explore.I've fallen for a gay woman who is 9 ...
A: You've made it very clear, both to me and to "Kay" that you are attracted to her. You have invited ...
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| In DEEP love with a girl | 7/29/2008 |
Q: I'm 17 years old and met a girl that i play football with and I knew that it was something about ...
A: Suicide is a - "permanent solution, to a temporary problem" - It is NEVER, the answer. I know of one ...
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| Jenny's back at it... | 7/27/2008 |
Q: l posted a couple of question on this site and Michele was very helpful.And lam sure you will be ...
A: So, I read your first couple of sentences and stopped and thought - no matter what else this letter ...
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| confused in Dating | 7/27/2008 |
Q: I met a girl online and we had our 1st date at her home even though I wanted to take her out. We ...
A: You say that you spent the first date at her home even though, you "wanted to go out." It sounds as ...
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| im confused | 7/27/2008 |
Q: My name is laura iv just turned 19, iv always wanted to become a man, loose my breasts but keep my ...
A: Yours is a difficult predicament to be in. While your partner understands your preference for women ...
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