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| Subject | Date Asked |
| I'm not sure if my lesbian friend likes me or not!! | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl in the beginning of the school year. She is a lesbian, and she doesn't look or act ... A: Well it sounds like the real question here is how do YOU feel about her? You say at first that you ... | |
| Confused | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: For the past two years I have been questioning my sexuality. It has been really hard for me to grasp ... A: Well I cannot speak for all lesbians here, but some lesbians may just get any pleasure at all out of ... | |
| school | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: I am 14, and bisexual. I've recently been experimenting with my best friend, who is also bisexual. I ... A: This is a hard situation to be in especially at your age when high school can already be tough ... | |
| help | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: i a 35 yr old women with 4 boys all my relationships have ended badly. with guys cheating on me or ... A: This is perhaps more common than you know. When we think we know who we are and what we want, and ... | |
| want my lesbian ex lover back desparately | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: my story: I was found out to be a lesbian by this lady (X) who are 8 year old younger than me & is ... A: To be honest, it sounds as though your ex has moved on, or at least as though she wants to. I ... | |
| Confused. | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Lauren. I'm fairly young and I'm with my third girlfriend. I came out as a Lesbian a few years ago, ... A: Although I could offer some input on this issue, due to your situation, I feel as though I'd be ... | |
| Relationship | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: about 4 years ago i met this girl and immediately feel in love. We have been friends and stayed real ... A: Well, it doesn't sound as though you are completely over this first girl. You say that you feel like ... | |
| Is a woman a lesbian if she only has been with one woman? | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: Well my question is that I'm a Bisexual I know that im attracted to both sex but ikm currently in a ... A: Perhaps she is bisexual as well. Perhaps she is bisexual, but is having difficulty admitting that ... | |
| How do I come out? | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: my main problem right now is being able to come out. I'm only 14 years old, but i've been ... A: Well the good thing here is that no matter what, you have confidence that for the most part your ... | |
| acceptance | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: So, if I want to be completely honest with myself, I have to say that I have known for a long time ... A: What you are going through is perhaps more common than you know. I went through the same thing, and ... | |
| space | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship for five months. As a couple we both decided to live ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your situation; I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you. It sounds ... | |
| Is my girlfriend cheating | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my GF for 8 years. She is my first and only. We broke up for 2 ... A: Well I cannot tell you whether or not your girlfriend is cheating with certainty either way. ... | |
| confused | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I have found myself in a very difficult/confusing situation recently and would like to ask for your ... A: In order for us to talk in private about this situation, you are going to have to adjust the public ... | |
| breakup | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: how do i know that my ex- girlfriend want me back after i broke with her at a football game, the ... A: It is hard to know how she is really feeling without really talking to her about it all. Truth is, ... | |
| falling for her | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: ok well im a lesbian right? well i've been talking to this girl and word around town shes a ... A: This is a tough situation to be in. Chances are that if she was homophobic before, then she may be ... | |
| breakup | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: how do i know that my ex- girlfriend want me back after i broke with her at a football game, the ... A: It sounds as though your ex has moved on. She probably still cares about you, but not in such a way ... | |
| confused | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: I have found myself in a very difficult/confusing situation recently and would like to ask for your ... A: When people grow comfortable with someone from a distance, and don't really know that person on a ... | |
| Wondering if a co-worker likes me more than just a friend. | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I work with a co-worker that I have deep feelings for but am afraid to let her know as I am not sure ... A: If your co-worker does not even know that you are a lesbian, she may not even be aware of her ... | |
| Confused About My Sexuality | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I have accepted that I am not straight. I was convinced I was bi about two years ago, when I was ... A: I apologize for the delayed answer, I had an emergency. What you are going through is completely ... | |
| New at this. | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Hey, My question is that.. i had feelings for this girl like crazy and we had are fun times admitted ... A: Well many of us have been in this exact same position- trying to tell if a woman is bisexual/lesbian ... | |
| Really Confused... | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: Ok here is my problem. I am in love with my best friend, and I have known it for years. We would be ... A: I apologize for the delay on your answer, and on others. I had an emergency to take care of. It ... | |
| Need advice | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: So, I wrote to another expert on this site about this particular thing a while back but that person ... A: I apologize for such the long delay to answer your question; I had an emergency to take care of. ... | |
| my friends not ok with it | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: Okay so I have this friend (my best friend) who just doesn't really like that I'm a lesbian, and she ... A: People tend to fear things that they don't know about and can't understand. Your best friend ... | |
| I'm not sure if my wife is bi-curious/sexual | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I are both in our mid 30's and we have two wonderful young children. We've been together ... A: It sounds like you have a general idea of what you need to do, which is talk to her, but you should ... | |
| Confused and Lost | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: Okay I'm bisexual, and 17. The question I am asking is for advice, or an answer to something that ... A: It sounds as though this girl is definitely confused about her feelings with you and what to do ... | |
| confused | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: why do straight girls like guys? i think im jelous and just depressed about it and i dont know ... A: Well why are lesbians attracted to women? Why are gay men attracted to other men or straight men ... | |
| Confused,please answer soon | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: Ok, I literally can't believe I'm doing this. Like that I'm online even considering this but it's ... A: , This is a situation many lesbian/bi/or curious girls find themselves in. I cannot say what your ... | |
| I'm not sure what to do or who I am anymore | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: My name's Ane, I'm 20 years old. I've been trying to figure out if I am a lesbian or not. This past ... A: The question of whether or not one is lesbian or not, is one commonly asked on here. Feel free to ... | |
| She is always hot and cold with me; should I just make a move? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm sorry this is such a long question! My college coach, (I don't have her as a professor), seems ... A: Should you make a move based on what you have told me? No. To me there doesn't seem to be a ... | |
| fighting and more | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and things were messed up from the start. I ... A: Her not being out to her family and trying to lead a double life does make things that much more ... | |
| my sister | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I love my sister very much we have been best friends always. But she started dating my sons grandma ... A: Well this is definitely going to be a touchy situation to approach. While one could argue that it ... | |
| shes pushing me away what do i do? | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 8 months now.I admit there has been drama ... A: Well communication is key here, but the fact alone that she doesn't want to talk at all does make it ... | |
| In need for some closure | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey Lauren, My name is Arte, I'm 21,I'm from Greece and I came out almost a year ago. My question ... A: Well you are right that I will tell you that you are only 21, and that you are young. The only ... | |
| Curious about what straight women feel. | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: I identify as a lesbian even though I have only had relationships with men. I am no longer in a ... A: If you are only aroused by men through stimulation, and are not mentally nor emotionally stimulated ... | |
| crush or love? | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: I'm a girl and i am gay. i play some sports and i tend to like girls that are on my teams. i fell in ... A: Well for starters, do you know whether or not this new girl is straight like the last girl? In my ... | |
| Does she or does she not? | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: I had read some of the questions in here before I decided to write for help. That's very interesting ... A: Well your English sounds pretty good to me =). Given what you have mentioned, particularly the part ... | |
| fighting and more | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and things were messed up from the start. I ... A: Well most of your problem is going to be stemming from the fact that you were probably not truly ... | |
| shes pushing me away what do i do? | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 8 months now.I admit there has been drama ... A: As much as you understand how great she is for being there with you and for you during all your ... | |
| I dont understand?? | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend and i were together for about a year and a half. we dated about 6 months then moved ... A: For starters, your ex did not jump into a fast-moving relationship with a stranger-it was someone ... | |
| confused | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: so I'm finding this hard to write. I have no idea if I am gay or not, I definitely have leanings but ... A: The point in your life that you are going through right now, trying to find your sexual identity, is ... | |
| cofused???? | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: hey, im in a relationship with a girl i truly love, but i keep having dreams about me and my ex ... A: Well unless outside of dreaming you are having strong feelings for your ex, then don't worry about ... | |
| A blast from the past | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: Ι am facing an old love issue that had come up after 16 years... Now I am a 34 year old ... A: Well you took the first step by looking her up and attempting to make some sort of contact with her. ... | |
| Torn between husband and an ex-girlfriend | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: Ok so here goes, and i will try and keep this short!! I have been with my husband now for 11years, ... A: Well I can tell you that you are not the first person to be in this position, so I don't want you to ... | |
| bi girl won't date girls? | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: alright, so i met this girl that is new to my school and good friends with a friend of mine. we were ... A: Yes, I can see why you may be confused. I think the best thing to do in this situation is to talk to ... | |
| Please help me forget about my soul mate/Ex | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: I cannot forget about my Ex. She is my childhood friend, my soul mate through my teenage time. I've ... A: Well it sounds like you two have had quite a lot of history. Anytime people have that much history ... | |
| ? | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: Well Im 17...kinda new to the whole lesbian thing. I would consider myself a stud, but i dont feel ... A: As I mentioned before, it appears as though she is just looking for attention. You brought up her ... | |
| ? | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Well Im 17...kinda new to the whole lesbian thing. I would consider myself a stud, but i dont feel ... A: This is always a confusing situation to be in. However, what it comes down to is that this girl is ... | |
| very diff quest. | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: I wish to ask and know you can't answer. a lady that i had been writing on this site is gone. Her ... A: I wish I could help you out here, but I have no information regarding other expert volunteers, ... | |
| lesbians and masculinity | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: Why do so many lesbians seem to need masculinity and maleness in their lives? It seems a ... A: This is actually a very commonly asked question. While I cannot answer anything in terms of any ... | |
| Should I let go? | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for barely a few months but she has been doing things behind my back. ... A: To be quite honest, your girlfriend is taking advantage of you. If even before you had gone overseas ... | |
| my girl friend is married... to another woman | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: im 19 and my girlfriend is 20. she and i have been together for a couple weeks and i really am ... A: Although it is by no means a justification of any kind, your girlfriend may have been scared to tell ... | |
| Feeling torn.... and dealing with a broken heart. | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: Lauren, I've read a little about you, and am impressed by your accomplishments and your passion in ... A: but are afraid to talk about. It is undoubtedly a confusing and difficult situation to be in when ... | |
| Is it wrong to not care? | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend and I are both 17 and seniors and we have been together since 7th grade on and off. ... A: I know it is hard to break away from someone you have been attached to for so long; in this case, ... | |
| I might be.. so what do i do next? | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: Most of my life I have felt attracted to men and I have considered myself straight. Since I was 16 I ... A: First off don't worry, you don't sound "desperate" and the confusion you are going through right now ... | |
| Exes and more exes... | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: I recently came out of a 2 year relationship that was so riddled with highs and lows. My ex-partner ... A: To answer your question directly- no, it is not normal. While it could be said that some same-sex ... | |
| My girlfriend | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating since Oct 31, 2008. She use to live in California and then she ... A: The truth is once someone gets cheated on in general, they tend to put walls up and have a tough ... | |
| STUCK | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I AM A 25YR OLD WOMAN WHOSE ONLY BEEN IN TWO RELATIONSHIPS. ONE ABUSIVE THE OTHER IMMATURE. NOW I ... A: It's going to be hard, but you are going to have to be honest with yourself in this situation. To ... | |
| Age | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: I am a 18 year old lesbian and my lover is soon to be 34. We have been dating for coming up on a ... A: As much as we may not to say that it can be an issue, the age difference can bring with it many ... | |
| Me and my friend. | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: Hey so am 19 and i think am in love with my best friend, who is a a straight girl. we met about a ... A: I've known several people to be in similar situations as you. However, in all honesty it has rarely ... | |
| confidence | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: i guess u could say i have always had lesbian tendencies but for the last 9 months i have been in my ... A: It is normal for anyone questioning their sexuality to go through a very strange and foreign period ... | |
| I dnt know how to do it | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: Im Jessica 17 years old and im a lesbian. I want to tell my parents but im so scared. When i was 13 ... A: Based on the way your parents reacted in the past, you can expect a similar reaction from them ... | |
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Lauren Lopez
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Expertise
I feel with great confidence that I would be able to answer any questions related lesbian relationships. In addition I feel that I would be able to address further questions related to the emotional/mental conflicts many lesbians face with the "coming-out" process and with accepting their sexuality. Questions in general that ask for advice circling lesbianism are questions that I feel prepared to answer and assist with in any way possible. Questions that require medical diagnosis, legal advice, or absolute professional counseling I would not be able to answer as I am not a licensed professional in those areas.
Experience
I myself am a lesbian who has gone through numerous amounts of life experiences pertaining to the lesbian life. I have dealt with a troubled "coming-out" process, I have held online debates about lesbianism and rights, and I have mentored friends and other lesbians through online message boards. Granted I am not a licensed professional in any related field, I feel as though my personal experiences as a lesbian and through small mentorships does provide me with adequate ability to potentially help other lesbians like myself. As far as writing in concerned, for purposes of this site, it has always been a passion of mine.
Organizations
I belong to NCLR (National Center for Lesbian Rights). I am also an honorary member for Kiwanis International, which is an unrelated organization but focus on helping to support our communities and youth.
Publications
Up until this point, there are no publication where my writing can be viewed. I am taking this first step with AllExperts in hopes that it will be a good start and even greater experience for me.
Education/Credentials
I am currently working towards a bachelors degree in an unrelated field-Business Administration with an emphasis on small business management and entrepreneurship. However, in my first years of college I studied psychology, in general, with great emphasis and curiousity. I studied human sexuality and focused on theories of homosexuality and same-sex rights. I steered away from psychology however when I relocated and began focusing on business with plans to open my own business someday. Psychology and human sexuality still remain a focus for me, but as more of a hobby now.
Awards and Honors
From Kiwanis International in Torrance, CA I was made an honorary member and awarded a scholarship "for being such an inspiration." My first years in college I was on the Dean's list and welcomed into the Honor Society. In addition I love to write, particularly poetry, and was once nominated for Poet of the Year.
Past/Present Clients
The only past "clients" I have had were friends of mine or strangers I mentored years ago via online message boards. Currently only friends of mine, or friends of friends are people I openly and willingly give advice and support to.
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