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Subject	Date Asked
Does She Really Love me?	6/11/2010
Q: hey, i am a lesbian and i have strong feelings towards a girl in my school. we have been dating for ... A: its awesome that you are so in tune with yourself that your sexuality is already such a part of you. ...
so sad	6/10/2010
Q: Ok let me give you a little background. i am a 27yr old lesbian and have been dealing with my ex for ... A: Cristina, wow, this is really messed up situation. My advice to you is to gather up some paper or ...
broken hearted	6/8/2010
Q: I met a woman 4 years ago and fell in love. I am 44 now and she is 29. she has never been with males ... A: Cyndi, I don't have any magical words for you about this because you must take this into reality. ...
A moment with a straight girl	6/8/2010
Q: I have been very close friends with a girl I work with. I have a partner of 10 years and knows I ... A: Lori,this is a sticky situation. You need to try and talk to your friend and tell her exactly what ...
for help	6/5/2010
Q: Sir i m straight girl,i stay away from my home for study.When i came outside choose hostel,but i ... A: first crushes are so hard because its so intense. My view in this is nothing worth putting your life ...
butch wanting to have a baby	6/1/2010
Q: I am a butch wanting to have a baby..lately my motherly instincts have been coming around and ... A: Jamie, that's great! Being a parent is a huge responsbility and it means you can't give the child ...
11 years with partner ~ No Respect	5/30/2010
Q: I am truly hoping you can help me with my marital issues. I have been in a relationship with a woman ... A: Christine, I think you really need to sit down and reacess your relationship with your partner. You ...
Being a lesbian woman.	5/27/2010
Q: I'm hoping I don't run out of room. First, I met my girlfriend when she was still married to a man. ... A: Angela, wow this is tough on you both. If you love this woman I think she's worth waiting for. Its ...
Confused love issues	5/26/2010
Q: Karla I'm really confused, I'm getting to know a lot of different guys, but somehow when it is ... A: Destiny, remember the first thing about advice isn't that its about you, its about what the person ...
To stay or leave???	5/26/2010
Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 6 years. We have lived together for about ... A: Jade, first and foremost, a child should never bear the responsibility of if you stay or go. You got ...
help	5/25/2010
Q: Im dating this girl who is very into me and likes me. Shes great to have when i need her ... A: Andrea, it sounds like to me that you two need to sit down and talk about where this is headed. As a ...
Sexuality	5/15/2010
Q: I was wondering if you might be able to help me. I met and fell in love with a friend I made whilst ... A: Wow, this will take a lot os soul searching on your part. Is this girl really worth all the negative ...
confused!	5/13/2010
Q: i am currently dating a girl. I have always had boyfriends before. Im 32 but always known im ... A: Alice, the most important thing for you to do is make sure you are happy. If you are not getting, ...
My girlfriend and I are ready to have a baby	5/10/2010
Q: My girlfriend and I are ready to have a baby. We live in tulsa, ok and it is really hard to find a ... A: Amy, Not sure what to tell you here. I would keep looking if you two are serious about having a ...
confused!	5/10/2010
Q: I have only recently "come out". Im 32 and my mother is not that keen on my sexuality but coming ... A: Claire, You seem more concerned about losing your job then in losing your girlfriend...you may need ...
Helping my daughters come to terms with having a lesbian Mum	5/6/2010
Q: Are there any good resources available for teenage daughters of a Mum who has realised she's gay and ... A: B, the first one that comes to mind is Ellen's book called Love, Ellen. You can go on Amazon.com for ...
Girl	5/6/2010
Q: I like this girl a lot and she told me i`m just a good friend to her. But she is constantly teasing ... A: Marissa, Well there isn't much you can do if she only wants to be friends really, however just ...
Helping my daughters come to terms with having a lesbian Mum	5/5/2010
Q: Are there any good resources available for teenage daughters of a Mum who has realised she's gay and ... A: B, there are tons online resources and books for children with gay parents. There are also alot of ...
The works!	5/4/2010
Q: I'm 41 and have always lived a hetrosexual life however, not enjoyably and basically singe for the ... A: Jo, I can see why you don't want to go back to men.. My advice to you is to take things slow, invite ...
hard to accept	4/25/2010
Q: I am 17, I am a lesbian, and find hard to accept it. I know I should not feel bad about it. I ... A: Serena, So you would rather conform to being conditioned into being a heterosexual rather than live ...
hard to accept	4/23/2010
Q: I am 17, I am a lesbian, and find hard to accept it. I know I should not feel bad about it. I ... A: Serena, the question should be why do you feel bad about being a lesbian? Have you been told it was ...
sexual relationship	4/23/2010
Q: my girlfriend is infatuated with butts and likes me to show her mine once in awhile,she really wants ... A: marci, Butts and the anal area are two different things however it isn't about that it is about ...
she needs time to think	4/21/2010
Q: Ok so here is a littl background. I spent 3 months talking to this girl overseas for hours a day, we ... A: Sarah, wow okay, there are so many different things you could pick out of this that happened. I ...
is she interested	4/21/2010
Q: Okay, i met this girl not long ago and am having troubles with my boyfriend. I met her on a job ... A: Amber, I would love to help you with this but with what you've given me I can't really offer the ...
undefined relationship	4/21/2010
Q: i am bisexual but am more interested in girls than guys. during my first year of university, i ... A: Amber, seems to me that you and Taylor need to have a conversation about where this is going. In my ...
alone	4/20/2010
Q: i have no idea what to do.i am bisexual and im only 14yrs old. i feel alone because no one seems to ... A: Nayomi, you are so coming into yourself at fourteen, you above all others know yourself. Feeling ...
help, im a little scared	4/19/2010
Q: okay so latley my girlfriend has been talking about having children. i love kids and would want one ... A: Shayla, let's see I think I can answer this one. As a lesbain mom I have not had any issues with my ...
please can you help me?	4/17/2010
Q: My name is Kim, I'm 16 years old, a girl, and i think I'm a lesbian. i know I've liked girls since i ... A: Kimmi, Hmmm, well a predicament you seem to be in. I personally don't think this girl should put ...
I'm More Femme Then Not And I'm Starting To See A Butch	4/16/2010
Q: I'm bi and really prefer women. Every woman I've ever been in a relationship has been in the middle ... A: Amanda, I would say approach it as you would any other type of situation. You can't help who you ...
Straight woman considering lesbian relationship	4/9/2010
Q: I am a straight woman, 43 yrs old and have been single for several years. I recently re-connected ... A: Wanda, Regardless if you have fantasised about a physical relationship with a girl or not does not ...
help	4/8/2010
Q: I have been in a lesbian relationship for about 7 months now. In the beginning there were a lot of ... A: Well Jill, If you have been in a relationship with her for 2 years and has given you no reason to ...
Coming out to the children & ex husbands	4/7/2010
Q: It's time to think about telling the children and the ex husbands... maybe... but it scares us. ... A: Cher, My advice to you is you just need to tell them if that is what you feel you need to do or it ...
Does this mean she likes me,or it's just me???	3/14/2010
Q: ok,so i know this girl (let's call her Tess)and she showed me some 'signs' and she's being messing ... A: Melanie, this is one instance where you need to be out spoken. Find Tess and just ask her whats up ...
Confusion about relationship	3/13/2010
Q: Hey! I know you get these sort of questions a lot but I don't really have anyone to ask so here ... A: Ash, I would try to get more one on one time so you can get a clear vibe about what's going on ...
Coming Out	3/13/2010
Q: The fact of whether she is or is not a lesbian really isn't an issue for us - we love her regardless ... A: Dana, You are so very welcome. I hope everything works out for your neice and her mother. It is ...
Religous parents... Again.	3/12/2010
Q: I asked a question before involving my girlfriends parents and got a great response. But now things ... A: Hayley, Ok, it seems pretty inevidable that not only will her parents find out but obviously they ...
Good Hearted Cheater	3/11/2010
Q: Well let me start off by saying that yes, I am a full blown Lesbian, have been for as long as I can ... A: Antoinette, Maybe you should just stay single for awhile to give your heart time to heal from all ...
Still in love with my ex	3/11/2010
Q: Ok well me and my ex georgina broke up about 4 months ago, we had been going out for a year and a ... A: Zoe, I am sorry you are dealing with this as it has got to be hard on both of you. Since it is ...
My friend	3/11/2010
Q: There is this girl in my school named nicolle. I really like her and she and I have been friends for ... A: Kathy, Love, like and horny within the same paragraph is a lot for a girl your age. Keep it simple ...
Coming Out	3/10/2010
Q: The fact of whether she is or is not a lesbian really isn't an issue for us - we love her regardless ... A: Dana, Wow, you seem like a great Aunt to be reaching out for her like this. It is obvious your ...
Feeling Comfortable being Intimate	3/10/2010
Q: I'm 22 years old and I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and half now. I'm head over ... A: I hope you are ready you hear this, from my experience you are having issues for a reason. Its the ...
confused	3/8/2010
Q: I am a 23 year old. I have had boyfriends in the past with little attachment. I have become very ... A: Jess, The only thing I can tell you is just give it time to let her see you are for real and that it ...
Coming out	3/8/2010
Q: I am 23 yrs old and have known for some time that i am a lesbian but have not come out to my family ... A: Debbie, My advice to you is to tell your mom first. Since you two have become so close she may ...
I Have hocd (homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder)	3/7/2010
Q: I'm certain I am not a lesbian but I have intrusive unwatned thoughts that make me anxious. I ... A: Rani, Ok, just to put your mind at a bit of ease, it is normal for a female to find the female body ...
Confusion	3/5/2010
Q: im a 17 year old girl and lately i havent been sure about my sexual orinetation, because i thought i ... A: Josi, It is possible to be attracted to the person and what she is on the inside rather than the ...
Advice?	3/3/2010
Q: My story is quite a long one so I promise i will try to shorten it as much as i can... I have always ... A: Toni, Not sure what you are really wanting to know other than accepting your friend. You need to ...
Having difficult time dealing with effects of first time lesbian relationship	3/2/2010
Q: I am a 28 year old woman. I have always been an independent "loner" type and have dated only a ... A: Michelle, Don't live your life for how your parents feel you should live it. You know who you are ...
Her religious parents..	3/2/2010
Q: When coming out my parents were only semi hard on me. My dad was a little upset and we had our ... A: Hayley, honesty is the best policy. They will figure it out soon enough if you don't tell them and ...
Confused	3/1/2010
Q: I'm 18 years old and have finally come to terms with the fact that I'm not attracted to men. I've ... A: wow let's see what we need to do here. I'd totally check out some lesbian dating sites to get your ...
frustrated with my dad	2/28/2010
Q: sorry for the length of this, I'm a rambler :) I'm 16 and really confused and a bunch of other ... A: Ivy, First I will address the issue that you are hurting yourself. That alone is not good for you ...
Why do I feel this way?	2/27/2010
Q: I ended a 3 year relationship about 3 months ago and even though she told me she was devasted and ... A: Lorraine, this is a hard one but I'd step back and remember the reasons you decided to call it off. ...
i need help	2/17/2010
Q: so im a lesibein and im inlove with my strait best friend and she nos what do i do? A: it sounds like you too need to have a serious talk. Put it all out on the table for her. Let her ...
How to proceed?	2/16/2010
Q: ) I've known I'm bisexual for a couple of years now but I've not told any of my group of friends at ... A: I have no experience being bisexual but I can say I came out as a lesbain close to your age. You ...
Confusing signs	2/14/2010
Q: After coming out to myself and a few friends in 2008-09, I met this amazing girl in a gay club over ... A: I believe you need to step back from the situation and ask yourself how you can help a friend. If ...
Looking for Mate	2/14/2010
Q: . First of all; I'm a 63year old retired AF woman. I live in Colorado Springs, Co and after a bad ... A: Hey Connie, this is a huge and expensive step. I'd try every other avenue before paying someone to ...
Looking for Mate	2/10/2010
Q: . First of all; I'm a 63year old retired AF woman. I live in Colorado Springs, Co and after a bad ... A: I think its awesome you are putting yourself out thing. Its so hard to do at any age. You are not ...
fantasies	1/24/2010
Q: !! Please don't kill me for asking this, but I have to know. So straight women/men often have ... A: Personally I never fantasize about any men and i am a lesbian. I am solely attracted to women but I ...
Taxes	1/23/2010
Q: I am 20 years old, soon to be 21 this year in April. I have been working since I was 16. My ... A: I am not a expert on taxes but I do not think you can claim anyone who is not a relative of yours as ...
my lesbian partner of 4 years is still married	1/22/2010
Q: This really bugs me, he visits 4 his son as well&no matter were we leave I don't feel at home + we ... A: Xtina, my suggest would be to talk to your partner about how you are feeling about the husband, the ...
sad and confused..	1/19/2010
Q: This is a long story so I will try and not say it all. I know you cant tie down sexuality sometimes, ... A: Hey Claire, coming out is a very hard thing to do at any age but at the same time its awesome. You ...
this girl...	1/18/2010
Q: i met this amazing girl. she was great, i think i was falling in love with her. she was and still is ... A: Toni, I think you need to talk to this amazing girl, let her know what you want out of what feelings ...
Heartbroken	1/15/2010
Q: My ex and I were together for 7 years. We have know each other for about 14 years. We have 2 ... A: Let me see this is a hard one. I have kids with a partner so I know where you are coming from, that ...
Lesbians in trouble!!!	1/15/2010
Q: My name is Cassandra and my girlfriend and Cassandra (same name)I of 2 years are going thorough some ... A: Hey Cassandras, communication is huge especially in lesbian relationships. I would try and sit down ...
baby on the way	1/13/2010
Q: Im going to try and make this as short as possible. My partner and i have been together, on and off, ... A: Hey Mama Nicci, I think you need to really talk to your partner about how involved you want to be in ...
confussed	1/13/2010
Q: Why are women so jealous I been with her for ten years and she still don't want me to have ... A: I think it is a personal insecurity that make our ladies feel like that. I would do everything to ...
bisexual or lesbian?	1/12/2010
Q: I'm 17 years old, and totally confused. I realized that I was bisexual in middle school. But now, I ... A: Wow, 17 is a rough age. Number one, you are still searching for your sexual identity which is normal ...
Fell in love with my best friend, who's apparently straight.	1/10/2010
Q: I'm Jenny from NY. I'm 20. I find myself in a very difficult situation. I've fallen madly in love ... A: Hey Jenny, religion is a barrier alright. But where there is love, there is hope. Talk to her about ...
no emotion	1/6/2010
Q: I LOVE my girlfriend. I let her know in many ways. I not only say it- I do it. I am increasingly ... A: Wow, this one really hits home. I am your girlfriend, there are many women out there that feels this ...
I dont know how to meet a woman!	1/4/2010
Q: I have always thought that I was interested in women and so did my friends and family. I never ... A: Okay, I would look up on the Internet where the lesbian bars are. They are great for some social ...
My parents and ex girlfriend	1/2/2010
Q: I need some help with this situation. My ex girlfriend and I have known each other since we were in ... A: Wow, touchy subject. I had to think alot on this one. First and foremost remember yourself in this ...
am I a Lesbian ??	12/31/2009
Q: Am I really a lesbian? Now I know for a fact that I am attracted to females. I've dated a few woman. ... A: Krystal, you said like most young ladies I know. They seem to go back and forth for alot of ...
running out of options	12/29/2009
Q: CAUTION: As a general rule, my writings tend to be lengthy, so be warned all readers! heh. So I'm ... A: Hey Leah, wow and you are just 20? That's a lifetime of stuff to have went through in two decades. ...
my gfs mom	12/22/2009
Q: My girlfriend is 18 and I'm 21. My girlfriend has me under a different name in her phone because her ... A: Well, I can remember 18. What a very hard time to been in, you think you are a adult but still have ...
HELP!!!	12/17/2009
Q: Ohhkkayy, I have been with my girlfriend/fiance for a year and a half. "When" we have sex it is ... A: Well, with every relationship you need to fuel the fires to make it survive. I would text her often ...
confused..	12/14/2009
Q: I am a 25 year old female who has always been in relationships with men but always appreciated ... A: Wow, there's alot of excitement going on here. I would say go for it, if she wasn't in a ...
I NEED TO KNOW	12/13/2009
Q: I have developed feelings for my closest friend ...sometimes i feel that vibe from her and that she ... A: Okay, take a deep breath. Ya'll are friends and there are certain feelings people have for each ...
emotional destruction	11/29/2009
Q: About a year ago, I fell in love with a woman who had no prior experience - emotional or sexual - ... A: Alex, wow believe me I know what you are feeling. I was in a similar involvement a few years ago. It ...
Confused about how the other girl feels	11/25/2009
Q: i've gotten to know a group of people from a forum over the past six months. We share a lot in ... A: Hey Kay, I have no idea what age group you two are in, but friendship transcends all ages. Sounds ...
am i a lesbian	11/23/2009
Q: what does this mean A: Hey Sydney, wow 10 years old uh? That's a hard age. First off, don't be scared. We all had things ...
Lesbian	11/12/2009
Q: i have always been with men, but the past year for some reason i have fell for woman is that normal? ... A: I think everyone has their own normal, you are judging yourself on what you are worrying about ...
=]	10/30/2009
Q: A while ago a friend whos a girl told me she is inlove with me.. Its really annoying because i want ... A: Hey there, sounds like you have a great friend that you like to be around. No one can make you ...
Mixed Signals	10/27/2009
Q: So i just recently discovered i was bisexual. It all started with this girl. We hooked up and ... A: Find a way to resolve the feelings you too have going on without jeopardizing your friendship. If ...
confused	10/22/2009
Q: why do straight girls like guys? i think im jelous and just depressed about it and i dont know ... A: Believe it or not Andrea, a straight girl would ask you the same question about why you like girls. ...
So confused about where to go from here...	10/19/2009
Q: My name is Bianca. I'm 19 and a sophomore at ASU. I just recently discovered that I'm bisexual. I ... A: This is a tough subject for me, I have never been bisexual. The only advise I can give you is my ...
Being a Lesbian	10/14/2009
Q: So, I am 16 years young and I've known I've been into girls since 5th grade. I became bisexual when ... A: Cat, at 16 years old you have ever right to be confused. I would not try to be in a relationship at ...
Flirting or is it more than flirting..	10/13/2009
Q: My question is that I would like to know wherether she flirts with me or is just my imagination. ... A: Well Suzy, let's take this one step at a time. Flirting is a awesome thing when there are two people ...
how do i know if she likes me?	10/5/2009
Q: OK, so i've been crushing on this girl for the longest time...and well what i'm wondering is if she ... A: Well, I remember those days. I came out when I was 14-15 to all my circle of friends. But there was ...
how to come out	9/12/2009
Q: how do i come out or when should i tell my mom that i am a lesbian. i am scared that she is going to ... A: There is no perfect way to come out to your parents. There is only expressing your feelings to them ...

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I feel like I have knowledge in coming out in a rural town, relationships, two mom families, emotion ties to strict disapproving parents, self improvement, and knowledge of self.

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I have been out since I was 14, have two almost teenage sons, many ups and downs, lived through strict parents, and living in rural Alabama as a lesbian.

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