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| Subject | Date Asked |
| planet hell-- please knock | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: CAUTION: As a general rule, my writings tend to be lengthy, so be warned all readers! heh. So I'm ... A: I am sorry that you are experiencing these changes at a young age. Hopefully the new year will bring ... | |
| taxes | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I have taken off this entire year for the exception of three months from work. My girlfriend has ... A: This is really cute. I laughed when I read this because I have NEVER gotten this type of question. I ... | |
| Follow up Question | 12/24/2009 |
| Q: I asked you a question yesterday and, Im the one that was confussed and needed advice. You said that ... A: Well when you never done something before you HAVE to take it slow. When I say take it slow dont ... | |
| Need Advice and Confussed | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: Im 25 years old, and a college student. This is a two part question and Im sorry to make it so long. ... A: Everyone does things differently but I wouldn't advise that you ever admit to a instructor a crush ... | |
| married and sexually attracted to women | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 and married with two children. My husband is a wonderful person and I do not have any ... A: Im not sure I understand what you are saying. What are you searching for? Keep in mind that you in ... | |
| married and sexually attracted to women | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 and married with two children. My husband is a wonderful person and I do not have any ... A: I have no room to judge. I all can do is offer you advice and hope that you consider it. What you ... | |
| confused.. | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a 25 year old female who has always been in relationships with men but always appreciated ... A: All I can tell you do is to be careful about how you go about this. Its going to be hard to do ... | |
| My first love | 12/13/2009 |
| Q: Ook so i fell in love with the most wonderful women in the world. The only problem is that she ... A: I dont understand how she can love you but be in love with her ex. That is not a good combination ... | |
| Why? | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old. I'm working as an interior designer. At work, I have this co-worker who is very ... A: When you say Ewww! do you mean yuck? Because that is how I interpret it. Either way your reactions ... | |
| Life is so funny | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: Kay I am now so tired and confused, and I just want to talk to someone who may understand my ... A: I am not sure if you are asking me a question or just venting. Its never a good thing when we like ... | |
| Running out of time and completely confused | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and a Junior in college right now. When I was in high school I came out to most of ... A: Maybe you can try to approach this differently. When it comes to wheter or not your gay or straight, ... | |
| am i a lesbian? | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: HEY! my names is christine and im 18 years old.soo ive been having these feelings for a few months ... A: I am sure this is just a phase for you. Usually if you were Gay you would have these feelings to be ... | |
| how to convince and get her back | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm from a more not openminded country.there's a few opposing and criticism about lesbian here. but ... A: Wow, This is an very unfortunate situation. Its great that you found someone to love and feel you ... | |
| confused | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: I have found myself in a very difficult/confusing situation recently and would like to ask for your ... A: I really think this woman going on the "highs" of never meeting you. As long as you were many miles ... | |
| confused | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: I have found myself in a very difficult/confusing situation recently and would like to ask for your ... A: First off, I'm sorry that things were going so great in the beginning but now things are going sour. ... | |
| my dear wife is now identifying as a gay woman | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: I once found myself looking into the eyes of someone, knowing and seeing what true love was, because ... A: I don't think anyone's heart can compete for another heart. People try all day but it never works or ... | |
| ayuda | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I wanted to know your opinion: I am a 46 years old man living in Venezuela, married with two ... A: Wow, You have a lot going on so it seems. Be careful... So are you saying that this young lady ... | |
| ;s | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: im 18 turning 19 this year and i've never done this before. basically.. just to give you some ... A: Im in your tute? I dont know what that means but there is nothing wrong with requesting her/letting ... | |
| ;s | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: im 18 turning 19 this year and i've never done this before. basically.. just to give you some ... A: There is nothing wrong with requesting her friend on facebook. It happens all the time and shouldnt ... | |
| seeking | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I am a 26-year-old educated Christian female, happily married to a man and we are currently ... A: What you are experiencing is normal. The only problem is that you LIKE this woman and she is in your ... | |
| Coming out | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: Well, I'm almost 19 and have accepted the fact I was a lesbian almost 2 years ago now. I've told my ... A: You are right, There is no going back once you do make the decision to come out which is you have ... | |
| question to my initial question you answered to ... thank you btw | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: Kay, recently I had posted a question regard my being gay and being in love with my roommate who is ... A: This is not something that I can answer because there is not enough information here. Importantly, ... | |
| in love and confused | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: Kay, i met this awesome woman on NYE party 08 in London which was really great as I finally ... A: Well at this point, all you can do is let it work itself out. Just hope that your working permit ... | |
| to be or not to be | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I just recently moved in with each other and it's as though things have gone down ... A: It appearst that your gf has major TRUST issues and no matter how much you convince her, she will ... | |
| in love and confused | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: Kay, i met this awesome woman on NYE party 08 in London which was really great as I finally ... A: Well it appears that you really like her but you have some barriers. The first one is that you two ... | |
| Being in love with my straight friend who happens to be my roommate | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: Iam nearly 39, and have been romatically involved with women since I was 14. I find men attractive ... A: I am not sure that I follow you. What is it that you hope to accomplish and why do you thnk she has ... | |
| i think my women is into a relationship with my friend girl | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: A: Im sorry its really hard to read this because of the grammatical errors. If your girlfriend has been ... | |
| Out-of-date teacher crush | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem regarding a teacher crush. I've been out of high school for 4 years now (I'm 23), ... A: Don't beat your self up about this. It appears that you know what needs to take place in order for ... | |
| crush on a good friend | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old female. I am writing to you today because I am in a bit of a fickle. The first ... A: There is book/guide to this. Im sorry that my answers doesnt really help but you have to keep in ... | |
| crush on a good friend | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old female. I am writing to you today because I am in a bit of a fickle. The first ... A: Well it appears that you just made out because you two were drunk. Its really hard to stamp ... | |
| Lesbian in the military | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: Kay, I would like some advice about how to find a girl when I am unable to put myself out there too ... A: Congratulations on your decision to serve its military. While I don't always agree with its ways, I ... | |
| troubles in paradise | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 19 year old female and I've known since i was in the 5th grade that I liked girls. I just ... A: I cant tell you how to get over her being married. That is something that you are going to have to ... | |
| needing an answer | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: we recently been fighting alot, most of it is about the kids we both have 2 kids each from our ... A: Thats hard because sleeping with men while being gay isn't in the play book. You are going to have ... | |
| just confused...if its general feeling or special feeling that can turn to a deep realtionship.... | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: its me again cjay who is secretly in love with Arabian girl.my only question what if someone tells ... A: Well, its possible to have a friend that cares about, only as a friends. However your friend took it ... | |
| HOCD | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: I've had homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder for a year now. I have had my ups and downs. I ... A: Being uncomfortable with oral can come from many different things. You probably just don't like it. ... | |
| Whether My Wife is Bisexual | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 19 years. While I was dating my future wife, I asked her is she ever had sex ... A: I didn't know that she was driving to this woman's house. Thats not normal behavior for something ... | |
| HOCD | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I've had homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder for a year now. I have had my ups and downs. I ... A: I totally understand where you are coming from but if you put too much thought into this, you are ... | |
| Whether My Wife is Bisexual | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 19 years. While I was dating my future wife, I asked her is she ever had sex ... A: Hmmm, A part of me wants to say that your wife is NOT a lesbian because she has been married to you ... | |
| Should I leave | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I am 23 and I have been with my girl for just over two years. We have our ups and down like ... A: I am sorry that you and your girlfriend our having issues and abuse is never a good one. Sometimes ... | |
| HOCD | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: I've had homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder for a year now. I have had my ups and downs. I ... A: I never heard of HOCD but your clearly not gay. You can't use your masturbation methods to describe ... | |
| WHAT IS GOING ON | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: There is this woman I work with and am attracted to her.She and I talk to each other on the phone ... A: Yeah that last sentence may be true but keep in mind that we are all different. I want to believe ... | |
| i think i might be a lesbian | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: this is really hard for me to talk about but i think i might be a lesbian. i guess i first suspected ... A: At this point, If you are feeling like you need to be with a female, I would suggest you try dating ... | |
| i think i might be a lesbian | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: this is really hard for me to talk about but i think i might be a lesbian. i guess i first suspected ... A: I am sorry but this is something that I can not answer. I really don't know what to say. It appears ... | |
| Got crush on stranger! | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I saw a lady (in a public place) and I was not able to STOP staring at her. I see her frequently and ... A: Making friends with a stranger is kind of hard. It would be different if you knew where she shops or ... | |
| Break-up | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I was with my ex-girlfriend for 3 yrs. We had our ups and downs, she cheated alot and always would ... A: Thats the thing. Its great to be able and talk and connect to see what went wrong but she isn't ... | |
| Break-up | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I was with my ex-girlfriend for 3 yrs. We had our ups and downs, she cheated alot and always would ... A: At this point, and based on the things that you already writte, you should just try to move on with ... | |
| Got crush on stranger! | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I saw a lady (in a public place) and I was not able to STOP staring at her. I see her frequently and ... A: I understand that you like this woman but itit doesn't seem that you have a chance. For starters, ... | |
| i think i might be a lesbian | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: this is really hard for me to talk about but i think i might be a lesbian. i guess i first suspected ... A: I think you need to first accept the possibility of you being a lesbian. YOu said that you don't ... | |
| Dumped | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I was in a 13year relationship with my best friend. Over the last year or so I knew something was ... A: Sorry that you were dumped (as you wrote in subject area). That must hurt. My gf also cheated on me ... | |
| Lesbien wife | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: when I first met my wife she confided in me that she masturbated looking at Playboy and lesbien ... A: Dont consider your self a fool. There are alot of heterosexual woman that get around by lesbian sex. ... | |
| Relationships | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I need serious help!! I am a lesbian and I am in love with a married women, Her partner and her have ... A: The first paragraph you wrote said alot. She is happily married for 8 years. That doesn't seem ... | |
| RE: Married in name only | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: Married this kind man, divorced after 18 years, remarried 7 years later due to our small children. ... A: So are you saying you are still with the same man for all these years? I understand what you mean by ... | |
| So what now.... | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I wrote you guys at the end of last year about a bi-curious female that I worked with that I ... A: First you have to figure out why you are nervous. If you guys are friends and hanging out why be ... | |
| Labels! | 8/11/2007 |
| Q: I love seeing her and I always want to put a smile on her face. And I do really truly care for ... A: Well, don't worry alot of people go through that. At the end of the day, its all about being real ... | |
| AM I a Lesbian ? | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: I'm a women of 30 years old and having a relationship with another female friend of mine. We have ... A: A relationship with no sex for 5 years... Anyway, You are suffering from, what most of us go ... | |
| Confused | 8/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm melissa i'm 16 and going to be a senior in September, but I'm still very confused about ... A: You can't mix love with strictly frindship... Its hard but usually it will all go away once you find ... | |
| DESPRATE 4 ADVICE! | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: I havent had the greatest past with men,at the age of 15 i became pregnant(1st time having sex.)The ... A: Sorry for your past troubles. So, you say that you can't find true happiness. Are you happy with ... | |
| a question | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: why do parents always tell you that they will love you no matter what, regardless of what choices or ... A: Well, like alot of people parents love to be very acceptable as long as its not their own child. Its ... | |
| confused?!?! | 7/29/2007 |
| Q: I am a 18 year old lesbian who has strong feelings for another woman, who is slightly older. I love ... A: THis is tough because sometimes you could never tell. I think you would have to spend ALOT of time ... | |
| AM I A LESBIAN?.... | 7/27/2007 |
| Q: hey Kay, my name is Kali and i sometimes wonder if i'm a lesbian. I'm 15 and years old and i am ... A: I'm sorry but you are too young for me to go into great details. So don't get mad if my answer is ... | |
| I'm very confused... | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: I'm 25 and for the last few years I have thought that I was a lesbian I've never been with a female ... A: well maybe your problems are your insecurities followed by anxiety. It doesn't mean that you are a ... | |
| I'm very confused... | 7/22/2007 |
| Q: I'm 25 and for the last few years I have thought that I was a lesbian I've never been with a female ... A: For starters, I think you need some self esteem boosting and thats it. You will never succeed in any ... | |
| Now what? | 7/14/2007 |
| Q: About six months ago, after years of questioning and wondering, i came to terms with the fact that i ... A: Sorry that you are so closed in. Alot of colleges usually have a large lgbt community. However I do ... | |
| I am confused | 7/4/2007 |
| Q: Hey, I'm nearly 16, and I am confused. Am I bi? Straight? Or lesbian? I know that I am the only ... A: Yes, you are a bit young and that can be a problem becuase your mind will constant change until you ... | |
| Book suggestions | 6/26/2007 |
| Q: I have a gay friend who is about to spend six boring weeks in bed, recovering from a leg operation. ... A: THis is the first question of 1000 that I have had like this. I am sorry but I have never read of ... | |
| confused | 6/26/2007 |
| Q: I have a few questions. I'm fourteen, and I have been wondering if I am bi or lesbian or straight ... A: Well I don't think you should talk to your neighbor for advice. If you know her then you can but if ... | |
| hi | 6/25/2007 |
| Q: My friends don't dress girly and my brother is gay. How do i convince them that i'm not gay. A: I wouldn't try to convince them just tell them and leave it like that. ITs not good but some parents ... | |
| daughter | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: . my 15 yr old daughter thinks she may be bi-sexual.. I have NO problem with that but would like the ... A: Well its great that your daughter was honest with you and told you how she felt and its great you ... | |
| I'm not sure.. | 6/16/2007 |
| Q: I'm not quite sure if I'm a lesbian or just Bi. I'm 17 and I've been with boys but I was never ... A: Yes of course you are normal. You are at an age where your mind and hormones are racing a mile a ... | |
| Advice | 6/10/2007 |
| Q: Last year i volunteered at a camp that ive been going to for a long time and i met this girl. she ... A: Hmm, Well based on what you are telling me she could just be really nice. Some people touch others ... | |
| need advice | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: Okay, one of my best friends is a lesbian. She and I have so much fun together. It's like we are ... A: Hmm, I think you have a lot going on. ITs hard to tell if you truly like this girl. It's very easy ... | |
| I think Im Gay | 5/20/2007 |
| Q: From about 8th grade I've liked one or another of my female teachers. I'm only just coming to terms ... A: Alot of us has had crushes on our teachers...its normal. And yes you are right coming out is ... | |
| impatient/unrequited? | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: Hey there. I met this amazing woman about a year ago. After a little 'hard to get' she asked me ... A: Hmm, Well it appears that she is running some kind of game. One minute she is not waiting for this ... | |
| This is new to me... | 5/12/2007 |
| Q: Well, the biggest thing I can say right now is that I'm confused. Basically, I've never considered ... A: Well this is very normal. It can be a combination of you being lonely and jealous at the same time. ... | |
| impatient/unrequited? | 5/12/2007 |
| Q: Hey there. I met this amazing woman about a year ago. After a little 'hard to get' she asked me ... A: Waiting for someone for 10 years? Is she locked up? Sounds like a waste of her good time...I think ... | |
| daughter | 5/7/2007 |
| Q: This girl has tried everything to alienate her from me she gives us no time alone together. They ... A: What an unfortunate situation. I don't think I ever had a question like this. Remember that you are ... | |
| Can a lesbian be in love with a guy? | 4/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm 16 years old. Even though I'm young, I've always been mature for my age and have known for over ... A: Well in my world anything is possible. Yes I have seen it before. You can love a man if you are a ... | |
| Friends. | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: Im 18 years old, and I started going to this new school about a year ago. Since I started going ... A: Well, it really doesn't have anything to do with being comfy in your own sexuality...its just a ... | |
| How to cope with a crush | 3/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been reading all your questions and I am seeing the same answer coming through over and over ... A: Reading my questions...hope you got something from them. Yeah i typically give the same answers for ... | |
| how to tell friends and family | 3/24/2007 |
| Q: I knew their was something wrong with me since i was like 7. As years progressed I've come to the ... A: Well it appears that maybe now is NOT the time to tell your mother about your sexuality, especially ... | |
| The Second Time Around | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: Recently, I decided to take another chance on a woman, a very special woman with whom I was ... A: Awww, this sounds like a GREAT relay. I actually smiled reading this and I have NEVER done that ... | |
| how to tell friends and family | 3/21/2007 |
| Q: I knew their was something wrong with me since i was like 7. As years progressed I've come to the ... A: Just know that coming out doesn't have to be something immediate and it takes time so if you are not ... | |
| confused | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: i am 15 and i within the next month will be 16. i about 2 years ago started questioning my ... A: Point blank...you are young. I know you probally dont want to hear that but its very true. You are ... | |
| questioning it all | 3/17/2007 |
| Q: I hope that you are doing well. I stumbled on this site a little while ago and decided to throw this ... A: To be honest I really don't know what to say. I can't help recalling the mental illnesses you listed ... | |
| Help... | 3/6/2007 |
| Q: my name is Kristy... and I have a question... I just told my best friend that I am a lesbian... ... A: Well, there is no way of telling if someone is gay...I mean there are signals but you can't just ... | |
| Straight girl- lesbian fantasies | 2/20/2007 |
| Q: I am 23 years old. I regularly fantasize about lesbian sex with strangers. Sometimes I even look at ... A: Normal? Now and days anything is normal... Alot of straight females have these fantasies and for the ... | |
| Family | 2/20/2007 |
| Q: I just think I'm going to still see her, she lives on the other side of the country while going to ... A: Hey, you took the words right out of my mouth. I always get those questions about coming out and you ... | |
| Family | 2/16/2007 |
| Q: A few months ago I met this girl who I ended up falling for the only problem is I've never been with ... A: Oh that sucks, Its hard trying to please parents and satisfy your personal life...every thought ... | |
| am i gay? or bi? | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: umm this will a very rambling long question, and it might not make sence. Just warning you in ... A: Hey don't feel bad there are TONS of people in your situation that are confused. I think with ... | |
| Moving In? | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: First of all I wanted to say thank you for you answer to my first question. It helped me alot. The ... A: Hey, since you deleted the my first response, I have no idea of your situation. But to answer your ... | |
| Is There Anything I Can/Should Do? | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: A while ago I posted a question and although I received some much needed advice the situation still ... A: I will do my best to answer your question. Ok, so let me get this straight. BTW, I am reading and ... | |
| Does she feel the same way? | 12/21/2006 |
| Q: I am 15 years old right now. I have a huge crush on this girl who's 17 and I've known her for around ... A: I can tell you anything but there is no true way of telling when someone likes you. Yes we all like ... | |
| girlfriend | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: hey Kay me again. i keep coming back to you only cause your awsome. with your help i have discovered ... A: Erica, you keep coming back to me because im awesome....lol. Well since you erase our previous ... | |
| Could this be real? | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: My story begins about a month ago when I met this woman (she is a lesbian). I have always ... A: Being molested at any age can have a great impact on anyone. While there is no proof that ... | |
| Married but want another Woman | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: I am 40 years old been married for 7 yrs but with the same man for 11 years. the sex is good but not ... A: .. Since you clicked on this email not to be private (meaning anyone can see this so you may want ... | |
| horrible visit to the | 11/30/2006 |
| Q: Today I went to the oby/gyn and I was extremely wet afterwards. I don't know if that is normal and ... A: well its perfectly normal for you to get aroused when seeing the doctor. HOwever they do use ... | |
| Crush on best friend who I think is straight | 11/9/2006 |
| Q: I've known my friend for just a few years now but I've never met anyone like her. I love talking to ... A: I get similiar emails like this. You are right in being hesitant and telling her how you feel. You ... | |
| wut wrong wit me? | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: I dont know where to start so i guess i'll tell u about me first. i'm 17 years old. and i'm kinda in ... A: Yeah, i get a lot of stories like yours. People think that being gay is a choice. If i had a choice ... | |
| when will I know? | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: I've been suspecting i'm bi for quite some time now (2-3 years i think) but i haven't had a single ... A: Some peopoe need to experience to sex to know while others don't. I dont think one needs to have sex ... | |
| help | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: i have never been in a lesbian relationship before until now. she is older than me (im 19 and she is ... A: You will have to communicate. If she likes you she will understand. We all been at our first steps ... | |
| lesbian discrimination | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: I am doing a research project on discrimination against lesbians. Could you please send me some ... A: I think you would be better off doing some research on the internet because your question is VERY ... | |
| stimulating the clitorus | 10/27/2006 |
| Q: My names is lisa i live in arabia i am a middle aged woman in her 30's i am here today to talk about ... A: Arabia..that is FAR FAR away. Well, of course every women is different so their reactions will be ... | |
| I need help!!! | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: I need some advice. I am a happily married woman, and totaly in love with my husband, but I need ... A: So you are saying that you need something more...does that mean you are not getting enough from your ... | |
| married...but need to come out | 10/25/2006 |
| Q: i was in a relationship about 7 yrs ago that lasted 3 yrs. it was a lesbian relationship and i was ... A: Yeah, alot of people go through that. I even went through that. You have to live and learn (speaking ... | |
| Confusion | 10/24/2006 |
| Q: Well I am 19 and this past semester I have found myself more attracted to girls than ever before. I ... A: Hey Jamie, why does your brother ask if you are gay? Well i guess because of no activity. Well for ... | |
| Am I a Lesbian? | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: I'm 17 years old female, never had sex neither with a boy nor with a girl, I like to touch my own ... A: I hope you realize that its hard (atleast for me) to judge a book by its cover. I simply just ... | |
| help am i bi or gay??? | 10/15/2006 |
| Q: ok so i am 15 nearly 16 and have known i like girls for a while, but recently i am confused as to if ... A: See, its harding the Am i gay or lesbian question because only YOU have that answer. Yes a person ... | |
| I having troubles | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: Im 18 and known i was a lesbian for a while and i have went out with girls and i have had been in a ... A: Well the only thing you need to understand that sex is something that is shared. If you have to feel ... | |
| Love | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: I am in love with someone who I was with for a year? She just recently broke my heart because of ... A: She says your safe? what does that mean? Like our relationship is ok, so you don't have to ... | |
| Involved with an older woman | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: I’m hoping that you will offer some advice on a rather emotional and difficult situation I have ... A: I will do my best to answer your questions. Even though I have a degree in psychology I dont use it ... | |
| Moving from friends to | 9/23/2006 |
| Q: I am a 16 year old junior in high school who has never had any sort of relationship with a male or ... A: Hey, dont worry about kissing or dating. You are still very young. Most kids your age dont have the ... | |
| I want to know what you think? | 9/22/2006 |
| Q: My name is Allyn. I'm 25. I'm a chemist. I have never slept with a man, and I've never wanted to. ... A: Allyn, My interest in psycology were always there...which is why i have the degree. I dont like to ... | |
| Is she curious or is it normal? | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating the same girl for 3 years, i love her very much and our relationship is very ... A: This really is not serious. Its very normal for straight girls to get turned on by lesbian porn. You ... | |
| i think im gay and need to no | 9/9/2006 |
| Q: hey im kerry, im 19 and for about 3 years have had feelings that im gay. At school and now i have ... A: Well, there are people that strongly believe that they are gay and have not EVER slept with the ... | |
| Am I bi or just going through a series of phases? | 8/17/2006 |
| Q: I am a 16 year-old girl and I have been confused about my sexuality since 4th grade. I have always ... A: Hey, YOu didnt left much for me to go by. So i will have to be general with my answer. Anyway, so ... | |
| I don't think so but...... | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: I've always considered myself a heterosexual woman. I've only been with guys and have never had an ... A: there is nothing wrong with your interests of girl on girl porn. Just about every straight girl i ... | |
| coming out | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: I'm 17 and definitely attracted to girls but possibly bi, I'm not really sure and have decided that ... A: Yes, you got it categorizing is lame..and not important Well, of course everyone has their ... | |
| Bi Sexual rejection | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: It't the rejection or obvious signs of disapproval that makes me nervous when I am being watched. ... A: I understand your concern and you will learn on your own time, unfortunatly when you do you will ... | |
| Bi Sexual rejection | 8/2/2006 |
| Q: My first sexual experiences females in my family(older sis,cousin,aunt) all before I was 12 yrs old. ... A: WOW, sexual relations with family memebers. I had a cousin that loved to have his way with me when ... | |
| long distance | 7/31/2006 |
| Q: I met this girl on the internet and we have been talking for about 8 months. Ok well in the ... A: Well you are already having doubts so thats not a good sign. You have to know that giving advice to ... | |
| just a phase? | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: well about a year ago i started being attracted to girls at my college. i began to fantasise about ... A: there is not enough info here for a detailed answer but i will do my best. COnsidering you just left ... | |
| am i a lesbian | 7/12/2006 |
| Q: I like some boys too but i have more intrest in girls and older woman then men and boys. A: You are so young for me to offer detailed advice. But you are growing and you mind will tend to ... | |
| how to get back on track from a bad experience | 7/9/2006 |
| Q: I feel cursed or hexed or something bad as in most of my short life i just can't manage to break out ... A: Hey, i believe you sent me 2 duplicate emails. Well maybe you can't breakout of your desires for ... | |
| How Do I Make Her See? | 7/8/2006 |
| Q: My question is complex but will try to be short. My girlfriend and I have dated for a year, but she ... A: Red flag already, she is married and you two have been together for a yr. You are right this is very ... | |
| sexuality | 7/6/2006 |
| Q: I have had sex with females before I was married and I loved it. I just can't picture myself in a ... A: Even with what you said above, i can't say that you are gay. OF COURSE, if i was being stereotypical ... | |
| sexuality | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: I am married and I have a child. Ever since I was a little girl I have fantasized about women, I ... A: NO you are not gay because you haven't slept with a female yet... Alot of women have these fantasies ... | |
| confused | 6/30/2006 |
| Q: I have been going out with a man for four years now, and we are still in love. I have always ... A: Have you ever wondered why you go back between the 2? Do you have an idea of what sex suits you ... | |
| Confused about my friend | 6/29/2006 |
| Q: ... I am a 32 year old female, with two kids in a currently rocky heterosexual relationship. ... A: Its normal for hetero females to develop feelings for the same sex, especially when they are having ... | |
| What should I do | 6/28/2006 |
| Q: OK...first i am a 35yo Male who has been wanting to become a woman for the past 15 years. My problem ... A: well, this is very common for alot of men that try to hide their sexuality. I think this is ... | |
| Question about Sexual Orientation | 6/26/2006 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and am very confused about my sexual orientation. From the time that I was 14, I ... A: I have a sis that liked Lesbian porn but she is as straight as a line (as far as i know). Everyone ... | |
| a girl... | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: I've been out totally since I was 20 and I'm now 26. I've even been "married" to a woman for 2 ... A: Now, how can i help you when you told me absolutely nothing abou this girl? lol. Like do you work ... | |
| I'm scared... | 6/13/2006 |
| Q: I'm 14 and I'm really worried that I might be lesbian. I've fancied boys laods but recently I've ... A: Natalie, just because you get turned on by two females, does not make you a gay...we all get turned ... | |
| Am i lesbian, bi, curious or what else is there...? | 6/12/2006 |
| Q: for years ever since i was in elementary school ive looked at girls the same way i view boys maybe ... A: well you can very easily fit into the bixsexual category if you wanted to but you haven't sleep with ... | |
| starting a lesbian relationship | 6/6/2006 |
| Q: I started dating this guy about 2 years ago, we broke up for about three months and got back ... A: LOL, your mother hates your boyfriend? thats funny.... Well, for startes you have to do something ... | |
| What should i do?? | 6/6/2006 |
| Q: I have this friend and she told me she has kissed a girl before but she's not bi or gay. But ... A: Well if this si something that you dont plan on making a lasing thing, why bother? Since you both ... | |
| am i gay? | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: i have feelings for a friend we get along and seem to have alot in common, from children to movies; ... A: Woah, it appears that you two have too much in common...your kids are friends? How did this happen? ... | |
| coming out | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: I am almost 19 years old and lesbian. I have never had a boyfriend and I think that it is starting ... A: Hey ELyse I know exactyly how you feel. I went through the same situation. I have a very large ... | |
| Is honesty the best policy?? | 5/2/2006 |
| Q: I am a lesbian, and am out to my friends and my cousin, who is also a lesbian. I have only been out ... A: It appears that you are going through what alot of young adults go through. There are many support ... | |
| i don't know who i am | 4/20/2006 |
| Q: I have no idea where i belong. I 'm just a stereotypical teenager who has no gender identity. I am ... A: Hey don't feel bad, there are others like you. Its all a part of growing up. You are faced with alot ... | |
| Lovers and friends?? | 4/19/2006 |
| Q: I feel that i am looseing my best friend or that i aleady have.....Me and my best friend was curious ... A: Well i really dont know what to say because this is what happens when friends sleep with each other. ... | |
| I found the right girl! Now what? | 4/15/2006 |
| Q: I dated my first girlfriend in jr high. Four years later I'm back with her, and I found out that all ... A: well all you can do is make the best of the situation. If she is away in school just try to keep in ... | |
| My lover | 4/14/2006 |
| Q: My name is Rachel. I'm in 8th grade, and my friend, Rachel (lol, people call us "R squared".) and ... A: how are you? Well i can't really tell if there is a chace of anyting because your friend can not ... | |
| My Friend loves me, I think I love her | 4/9/2006 |
| Q: I am 20 years old and am confused about my orientation. 8 or 9 years ago I met Caitlin, about two or ... A: How are you... I really don't know what to say. This is interesting. You have a boyfriend and I ... | |
| stay or go? | 3/27/2006 |
| Q: Im just going to dive into this,as I really dont know where to start. Ive been going out with my gf ... A: Hey she's married...ouch sounds like trouble already. I understand that you love her but you haven't ... | |
| dating bigger women | 3/11/2006 |
| Q: i really hope you can help me out on this one... Every woman I've ever dated happened to be very ... A: Anyway, my girlfriend is overweight also. And in the beginning I thought things would be awkward, ... | |
| misleading relationship | 3/8/2006 |
| Q: I'm seventeen and I've recently come out. My feelings have been mixed, but since I came out in ... A: I think you answered your own questions. You can dabble around but I wouldn't get that serious since ... | |
| Sexual Orientation | 2/27/2006 |
| Q: What determines a person's sexual preference? A: I think its different for each individual. Some have traumas like rape and abuse that can clearly ... | |
| Daughter Masturbating | 2/27/2006 |
| Q: This isn't a question about being gay but I read your profile and thought you might be able to help. ... A: Your daughter seems to be getting off quite alot. That seems like a lot but i cant judge her ... | |
| Divorced | 2/25/2006 |
| Q: I have been reading all the feed back you have been geting and i think your site is wonderful. I am ... A: I am glad that you are finally living your life. Know that you are not alone. ALot of men and women ... | |
| crush on a friend | 2/10/2006 |
| Q: I am 21 yrs old and have never been an a relationship of any kind nor I have messed around with ... A: Hey Beth,I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through emotionally. First time same sex ... | |
| im a lesbian | 2/8/2006 |
| Q: im a lesbian and i wonder if u know any sites where i can find videos of lesbians making out (free ... A: The only place that i heard of is Porn Boulevard...i dont know the website but if you go to google ... | |
| am i a lesbian? | 1/26/2006 |
| Q: im a transexual and my bf doesnt no that and im afraid if i tell him he'll break up with me. what am ... A: Travis. Sorry, to say but there is not much that i can help you with. You are in a really bad ... | |
| why do some women need more pressure on their clit than other? | 1/25/2006 |
| Q: My clit is not sensative like my girlfriends. I can take my tongue and lick her so ... A: I think alot of women need more pressure on their clit than others because they get so excited they ... | |
| Married and Bi and wanting to explore | 12/26/2005 |
| Q: You asked ... "... he knows that you are bi and he really expects you to be loyal to him ... A: Well this is different than wanting to be with another man because you want a woman...this is so ... | |
| Married and Bi and wanting to explore | 12/22/2005 |
| Q: I'm 29, married and am bi. I have been with my husband for 11 years (married for 4). I had ... A: Honestly i really don't know what to day because i dont want my advice to influence this already ... | |
| bisexual | 12/19/2005 |
| Q: My name is Doris im 54 and like to know more about being bi sexual.How do i go about asking a other ... A: Of course you dont want to just go up to people and say "hey are you bi-curious?. That may be a ... | |
| How to let her know... | 12/5/2005 |
| Q: Ok, my hsuband and I have what we consider a "couple friendship" with another straight couple. The ... A: wow, you have chicks touching your under the table...go you. well, with any action there will be a ... | |
| Bi-sexual | 11/28/2005 |
| Q: I've always known that I'm bisexual since I was 17. I kissed 2 girls in high school. I was married ... A: sorry but this girl in my world is full of shit. She is clearly going back and fourth with you. It ... | |
| Bi-sexual | 11/27/2005 |
| Q: I've always known that I'm bisexual since I was 17. I kissed 2 girls in high school. I was married ... A: Sorry to hear about your divorce, however im sure its best this way.... Gee what happened to the ... | |
| Clitorus | 11/18/2005 |
| Q: What does it feel like to have your clitorus stimulated? As a male I am not sure. I heard rumours ... A: Gee, I really dont know. Every female is different I would say that it feels good. Personally i get ... | |
| Understanding my problems | 11/6/2005 |
| Q: I just don't know anymore. Since I came out everything has just been a mess with me. I mean my ... A: Just to respond to some of the things that you wrote... YOu dont have to have sex with a girl to ... | |
| ?? | 10/29/2005 |
| Q: Im very confused right now. I'm 16. I use to be a really big slut.. I use to always want to be ... A: you are all over the place here. I'm a little concerned about your age and you having sex. The ... | |
| unrequited lesbian love | 10/15/2005 |
| Q: my name is lauren and i am 15 and a lesbian. I am comletely accepting of my alternative lifestyle ... A: There is nothing you can do but move on. You have to get rid of these feelings...case closed. There ... | |
| Am I a lesbian | 10/8/2005 |
| Q: My name is Heather and I'm 16. I'm trying to figure out if I'm a lesbian or not. I'm pretty sure I ... A: In regards to sex andnot being interested in it...it can be because you are young. Alot of young ... | |
| I need help | 10/5/2005 |
| Q: I MET MY GIRLFRIEND 3 YEARS AGO AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER EVERY SINCE. WE HAVE HAD A GOOD ... A: All I can do is tell you is to do what I told you. Some people just cannot be helped and just need ... | |
| I need help | 10/2/2005 |
| Q: I MET MY GIRLFRIEND 3 YEARS AGO AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER EVERY SINCE. WE HAVE HAD A GOOD ... A: are these 2 girls just friends? And how much time does she spend with these two girls? Since you ... | |
| lesbian cheating with a man | 8/11/2005 |
| Q: i am bi. my gay girlfriend of four years has cheated on me with a man she works with. i know because ... A: Gee interesting. My gf did the same thing except she did it with a butchy girl. I was her first. She ... | |
| Homosexuality | 8/8/2005 |
| Q: With respect my intention is not to insult or defame anyone, just doesn't make logical sense in my ... A: I must say that you have very interesting questions. Personally I think no ones knows the answers. ... | |
| Meeting people | 7/27/2005 |
| Q: Hey, I'm Andie (btw that's a girl's name) You sure are a confident sounding person, hope you really ... A: How are you Yeah the "choice" part...gets on my nerve also. Who actually chooses this? Not me. I am ... | |
| Help a newbie to the lesbian lifestyle | 7/8/2005 |
| Q: I'm 32years old and I just started acting on my attraction for women. I met this beautiful girl in a ... A: Gee interesting story. You did a lot for someone that is just starting out. Congrats. This is going ... | |
| confused | 6/13/2005 |
| Q: hey, im a 14 year old girl and i was wondering if you could help me. I am attracted to guys, like ... A: I couldnt tell you what you are because I dont know your sexual activity. I hate to say this but it ... | |
| how stupid? | 6/1/2005 |
| Q: ------------------------- You don't know how relieving it is to know that someone else feels my ... A: Ok, why do you think that if you were a man u would wanna sleep with them? YOu have to make that ... | |
| how stupid? | 5/30/2005 |
| Q: I'm a 20 yr old female, physically that is. I live with my close-minded parents, so I live a secret ... A: I somewhat understand your pain. I pretty much went through the same thing as your self and often ... | |
| How do i meet someone/ not at a bar? | 5/25/2005 |
| Q: I am a bi-sexual female. I am almost 30. I am in a relationship with a man whom I love very much. ... A: Sarah it appears that you have alot of preferences going on, which is not neccessarily bad. However ... | |
| I've met someone that is super to me | 5/17/2005 |
| Q: I've met someone and I think she may be lesbian. I can't just come out and ask her. What do I do? ... A: well you didnt write much here for me to go by. How long have you known her? And gives you the idea ... | |
| What am I? | 4/12/2005 |
| Q: Well to start off, I'm 19 years old. I have had one serious relationship with a woman and I loved ... A: ..its the best. Sorry u guys broke up. Yeah thats how i was messing with men...but it was like ... | |
| Does she like me | 4/2/2005 |
| Q: I am a female and I have a female coworker. We had spent a few hours hanging out together recently. ... A: Wow...only read like the first couple of sentences...this co worker of yours in a trip...defanitely ... | |
| Very silly question......... | 3/29/2005 |
| Q: Hehe, *blushes* I will just come out with it. Am I gay? I like boys. I have had boy friends which ... A: I would say that you are young and still growing. I dont know you personally to say if you are gay ... | |
| unsure | 2/28/2005 |
| Q: OK...This is very wierd! I have a daughter that is 2 I left the dad a year ago and I met another ... A: How are you? Well, I wouldn't tell you to mess with a woman just because you has two failed relays. ... | |
| lesbian question | 2/22/2005 |
| Q: I am 16 years old and I'm not sure if I'm gay or not. Ok, actually...I think I'm straight since I've ... A: Well, dont feel like any of your questions are stupid. You are young and it is normal to go through ... | |
| scared of being a lesbian | 1/25/2005 |
| Q: ok my name is lisa marshall and i'm 13 i am scared of my freinds because i am a lesbian n non of my ... A: lets cancell the suicide. its not worth it or neccessary. If it helps, there are others out there ... | |
| My Book | 1/5/2005 |
| Q: lovely name) Sorry I really should have been more specific. I guess I meant not so much about being ... A: How are you. Thanks for the compliment. I have a twin and since our names are similiar my mother ... | |
| My Book | 1/4/2005 |
| Q: I am working on a book at the moment about a Lesbian couple and I was looking to get some outside ... A: How are you. Interesting that you mention because my girl and myself are both working on books. ... | |
| Lesbian question | 12/12/2004 |
| Q: am totally straght and everything but I have been wondering what It is like to make out with a ... A: Well first you have to do this for the right reasons. Discover why you want to do this. Its not ... | |
| VAGINAL TASTE | 12/7/2004 |
| Q: ...! Well let me thankyou again for replying back.Its really nice of you. I"d like to ... A: you are so confusing me with your questions. Yes, i am saying that no two girls can taste the same, ... | |
| VAGINAL TASTE | 12/6/2004 |
| Q: ..! Let me first thank you for replying back.Well getting back to our discussion.....I have had ... A: You keep saying Sir. I am no sir. I am a girl. No two people are the same. You can have two girls ... | |
| VAGINAL TASTE | 11/25/2004 |
| Q: ..! Am a 23 yr old guy.Am eager to know about female Vagina.I have had 4 girl friends uptil now.All ... A: how are you? To answer your first question. Some people just like the taste of the vagina...let it ... | |
| am i a female | 10/13/2004 |
| Q: Hey Im hsving dreams and fantisies of being in bed with another girl and i c myself as a girl as ... A: if you are having fantasies about a women why not just be the boy that you are and mess with them. ... | |
| am i a female | 10/12/2004 |
| Q: Kay U'r wrong i would hate to have sex or any sexual relations with a man i think of it has ... A: Sorry my friend but i am not wrong. IT is you that is mistaken. When individuals have gender ... | |
| am i a female | 10/11/2004 |
| Q: I have now been unofficially diagnosed with gender identity disorder but i am now wondering about my ... A: Well you really need to see a doctor and a counselor to get diagnosed for others to take it ... | |
| am i a female | 10/8/2004 |
| Q: I am almost 15 years old in yr9 and am a young man physically yet occasionly feel that i am ... A: I can defanitely relate to what you are saying. I myself for a long time felt like i was trapped in ... | |
| i heard that its impossible... | 9/30/2004 |
| Q: i heard that its impossible being bi-sexual its either straight or gay... is it true? A: Juanita. Well there people that believe in both. I think its possible to be bisexual, however i feel ... | |
| Sex | 8/30/2004 |
| Q: My partner and I have only been together for six months, we moved in together right away about six ... A: Well it could be the medication that your gf is on, however i dont know the side effects. the age ... | |
| Curious | 8/23/2004 |
| Q: Good Morning I finally did it at about 1 a.m. today. It was okay, i was a little nervous at first ... A: what do you mean your bestfriend sitter? WEll, you did not tell me much info, except that you did ... | |
| Trying to Discern My Identity | 8/19/2004 |
| Q: I asked a question a couple days ago, which you can see below. I got several replies from you in my ... A: Thea I was reading over what the readers have written and you wrote : how u wrote last wk and have ... | |
| young lesbian mother trying to date... help! | 8/17/2004 |
| Q: i'm a 23 year old lesbian, and single mother of a 3 year old little boy. i know i'm not the first, ... A: How are you. Well first allow me to ask you this. DO you not want her spending too much time in your ... | |
| Trying to Discern My Identity | 8/13/2004 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old female. I have dated one person in my life, a male, and we had a serious ... A: I answered this question already. I wrote a very long response to you this morning. However, i see ... | |
| endless confusion | 7/31/2004 |
| Q: my god... the feelings are just to ambiguous... I know i want to be with a girl, but the town I live ... A: Well i am sorry that you have to go through that. There are alot of young adults that are going ... | |
| friendship or more | 7/20/2004 |
| Q: Well i have taken what you have said into consideration but í don't think it is just that because ... A: Relax No matter what you tell me. Everything is what it is. See, when i offer advice i do not take ... | |
| friendship or more | 7/19/2004 |
| Q: ------------------------- hi it's just me again. Well i didn't really try much on sat just sat ... A: Hey I was wondering what happened to yah. Still havent made a move yet? huh. Ok, i have to say ... | |
| Is she truly straight - In love with best friend | 6/15/2004 |
| Q: It really helps to have what I know to be true, and what I feel, validated. Your added insight into ... A: Wow, you sure have a way of with words. You should really write poetry. Anyway, let me ask you ... | |
| lust and friendship | 6/14/2004 |
| Q: . I'm a 21yo uni student and up until I was 17 I never thought of doing anything with another girl, ... A: Well, First off to answer the one question that i remembered...Yes it would be cheating if you ... | |
| genatil's size | 5/13/2004 |
| Q: please answer me quickly. i want to knaw whats the ordinary size for the mans genatil in age between ... A: Well there is never a average size. There is difference in ethnic backgrounds but importantly how ... | |
| dating | 5/5/2004 |
| Q: I'm an older woman, 54, and came out 8 years ago. Two years later I ended a nearly 30 year marriage ... A: I cant tell you how many letters i get from men and women that have ended marriages to be who they ... | |
| CONFUSED! | 4/29/2004 |
| Q: I'm not sure you can help me, but it's nice to be able to talk to someone about my situation. I'm a ... A: Yes, that can usually bring you down. Getting married and having children when you know deep down ... | |
| im a dirrty lesbian | 4/10/2004 |
| Q: hey! im lara,and im a lesbian i own a site called www.welivetogether.com and i love my site.But as i ... A: Well whether or not you can do it or not is up to you. No one can answer that question but your ... | |
| whats going on... | 4/3/2004 |
| Q: sorry for writting so much ><. Ive never expierienced something with a girl, so I dont know if Id ... A: well its good that you can talk these things over in your mind and know what you want and do not ... | |
| 28year daughter just told me she has feelings for a woman | 4/2/2004 |
| Q: I kind of see things as you do, about the situation. However I dont want to make light of her ... A: Guess what? You are exactly right. You could not have said it any better. Forget about any guy or ... | |
| 28year daughter just told me she has feelings for a woman | 4/1/2004 |
| Q: My 28 year old daughter just told me she has feelings for a woman. I'm OK with that. The thing with ... A: First off I would like to say sorry for taking so long to get back to you. I usually respond within ... | |
| whats going on... | 3/31/2004 |
| Q: Last year (when I was 15), I found out that this bisexual girl Tina [my name too] (16) had seen me ... A: Yes, You did write alot. I dont know if its because i just came out of a room where a whole bunch of ... | |
| lesbian first, then bisexual | 2/25/2004 |
| Q: I was wondering if you know of any groups of lesbians who have recently realized they are bisexual. ... A: I have to admit I get very confused at what you are trying to say to me. So, lets get one thing ... | |
| plz tell | 2/9/2004 |
| Q: 1. what about teens. they were also hurt by men.1. What things make a woman's mind to be a lesbian? ... A: Well, yes. I was hurt by a male in my teens. When i was 9 yrs old i was raped in this store and ... | |
| I know that I'm a lesbian... | 2/9/2004 |
| Q: I know that I'm a lesbian but' I have a hard time feeling comfortable with my sexuality. Two of my ... A: Wow interesting. Girl believe me you are not alone. Being Gay is not a choice. Its not like we just ... | |
| plz tell | 2/8/2004 |
| Q: 1. What things make a woman's mind to be a lesbian? 2. Does she not like male? 3. Does she get more ... A: Well personally its nothing in the mind. I feel like most women are born that way. Its not a choice ... | |
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I am 26-yrs. old with a B.A. in psychology. But more importantly, I know what it's like to grow up not understanding why you feel the way that you do. I slept with men in the past simply because I believed it was "the right thing to do". I would like to reach out to others like me - to help them accept themselves, and feel comfortable around their family and friends if they decide to come out of the closet.
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