| Subject | Date Asked |
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| more questions | 9/30/2008 |
Q: I’ve numbered my questions to make it easier for u to answer them in order 1.So what I feel about ...
A: 1. no, Zoe, it just sounds like there are things you either admire or notice about them. 2. No, I ...
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| hey again | 9/26/2008 |
Q: hey its me zoe again. i believe u were on vacation for a while so i asked Lena a few questions. ...
A: I think what Lena meant by her explanation of the fear of intimacy was that it is just normal to be ...
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| hey again | 9/25/2008 |
Q: hey its me zoe again. i believe u were on vacation for a while so i asked Lena a few questions. ...
A: I would say she is absolutely right on in all of her answers, and that you should take a lot of it ...
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| Sex with a girl | 9/24/2008 |
Q: Okay so me and my gf want to have sex but the thing is I have never had sex with a girl. She has and ...
A: it is good that you are planning to be careful if you decide to have sex. I must admit it sounds to ...
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| Is it possible? | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I am a lesbian teen who feels unhappy being deviated from the mainstream. Is there any way of which ...
A: I can only tell you that if there was, I never found it. I looked. I tried. I prayed. I married ...
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| Should I? | 9/18/2008 |
Q: I am a 16 years old lesbian, who has fallen in love with a girl for almost 4 years. We used to be ...
A: I have several friendships that I cut off abruptly, and yes, coldly, when I realized my feelings had ...
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| sexually confuse | 9/18/2008 |
Q: sorry for posting my question in the wrong section, but you seem to have a better understand of my ...
A: please don't apologize to me...I feel so bad for you. I was you, Sandra. I know all too well what ...
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| update | 9/17/2008 |
Q: I think this is more of an update than a question. I have gained a lot of insight from the ...
A: Yes, I do enjoy them...it is that part of me that wonders, "I wonder how that ended up?" And yes, I ...
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| Dating | 9/11/2008 |
Q: Well here's my story, I asked a girl out on a date and she said yes, but I have no idea of how we ...
A: I think that is the shortest "story" anyone ever sent me! :) You don't mention your ages, so ...
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| was she hitting on me? | 9/10/2008 |
Q: so, this happened almost a year ago and i'm still confused about it. i was at a block party on my ...
A: Hi Anne, I would say that it is an older woman who may or may not have feelings for the same gender, ...
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| the girl | 9/9/2008 |
Q: I have been hanging with this girl and I fell for her ( I really liked her a lot) I struggled with ...
A: I would wait a little bit and see where things go. Especially if she is still dealing with where ...
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| Weird Signals and I'm Confused | 9/7/2008 |
Q: I asked this question awhile ago, but I'd like another opinion. Also there's been more stuff happen ...
A: the best thing you can do right now with this girl is to ask if the two of you can sit down and ...
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| hello again (last question) | 9/7/2008 |
Q: hey its me zoe again Thank you so much for all ur help Michelle. I know i was annoying but ...
A: you haven't been annoying at all... Nope, it just means that yes, you would like to be friends with ...
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| sexually confuse | 9/6/2008 |
Q: sorry for posting my question in the wrong section, but you seem to have a better understand of my ...
A: I'm sorry you are going through this because I know how tough it can be. I'm going to start with ...
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| curiousity killed this cat! | 9/6/2008 |
Q: Obviously, I have a question for you concerning being lesbian. Actually, I am bisexual. I have been ...
A: I would say the best thing you could do at this point is to wait. You displayed a lot of courage in ...
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| lesbian? | 9/5/2008 |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: I'm not sure I can answer so many questions all in one letter, but I will try to hit the main points ...
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| lesbian? | 9/4/2008 |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: I would say that yes, those are fantasies...they are "scenarios" that you play out in your ...
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| lesbian? | 9/3/2008 |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: no, I don't think it is all weird, not even a little. I think it is pretty normal and natural, and ...
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| please help | 9/3/2008 |
Q: I have a little crisis and wondering if you could please help!! I'm a female and have developped ...
A: I think the best thing you can do is, like I said, ask her to go to dinner again, or to a movie. ...
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| Very lonely and confused | 9/3/2008 |
Q: and honestly don't really know where to start. I'm 18 and live in a small town where this whole ...
A: Nana, you are in a very difficult place right now. But there are some ways you can make it better. ...
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| please help | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I have a little crisis and wondering if you could please help!! I'm a female and have developped ...
A: sometimes it takes a little time to figure out if we are "bi" "gay" or "lesbian." Personally, I ...
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| A Christian Lesbian -- an Oxymoron? | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I want to be a lesbian, but I can't reconcile lesbianism with being a Christian. Doesn't the Bible ...
A: A Christian Lesbian -- an Oxymoron? Nope, I AM a lesbian Christian...or a Christian who happens to ...
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| Dealing with feelings | 9/1/2008 |
Q: You seem to be pretty good at remembering people, so I hope you’ll remember me. I’ve written you ...
A: good to hear from you again. Let's start with the friend...yes, it is VERY possible that she was ...
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| is she flirting? | 8/31/2008 |
Q: ive known a woman at work for couple years, she's married although im pretty sure its not a happy ...
A: there is nothing wrong with wanting to help her deal with abuse and self esteem issues, but to be ...
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| lesbian? | 8/31/2008 |
Q: hey michelle i'm a 16 year old girl and when i masturbate i tend to think about both men and women. ...
A: I am happy to help try and figure all this out with you. First of all, it will help if you ...
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| coming out | 8/30/2008 |
Q: for a 3 years now i have had feelings for women and i am 16 i have been in a relationship with a ...
A: Alice, this is such a huge question with so many factors involved in the decision to come out. So ...
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| homosex | 8/29/2008 |
Q: is sex between two males can cause AIDS OR STD
A: Sex between two males can expose both people to AIDS or STD's just like sex between two straight ...
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| idk | 8/29/2008 |
Q: hey, Um well I'm Amanda I have writen to you before and you always have the best advice. Here's a ...
A: Yes, it is definitely okay to be scared to change. It is okay to be scared period. Here's the ...
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| idk | 8/28/2008 |
Q: hey, Um well I'm Amanda I have writen to you before and you always have the best advice. Here's a ...
A: I remember you very well, and am really happy to hear from you again. I know that it is very hard ...
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| wife....lesbian | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I'll try to be brief. My wife asked me to check why the computer is sooo slow and I came across web ...
A: you are very welcome. The fact that the erotica sites were story sites makes a lot of sense, ...
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| is she flirting? | 8/26/2008 |
Q: ive known a woman at work for couple years, she's married although im pretty sure its not a happy ...
A: It sounds like there is a definite possibility there that she is flirting...usually our gut has a ...
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| wife....lesbian | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I'll try to be brief. My wife asked me to check why the computer is sooo slow and I came across web ...
A: I think that it is really good that the two of you are going to go in for counseling, that is a ...
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| Not sure what to think | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I feel quite nervous asking all this, so sorry, in advance, if I end up waffling. I'm 23. I met this ...
A: I often say that 95% of what I do here is act as a sounding board. I think it is less about any ...
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| Help! | 8/25/2008 |
Q: ..I have been in a 4 year relationship (pretty much long distance the whole time) and recently ...
A: ..I am so sorry. So sorry. I am forever amazed at how there are people out there who will use ...
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| My transitional love | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure if you remember me. Just to jog your memory, I am as much in awe of Rilke as you are, I ...
A: yes, I do remember you very well. I've wondered how it was going for you, and it sounds like you ...
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| Jealousy | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. She feels that she is not as beautiful as she sees ...
A: This is a tough one...insecurities like these don't go away easily. And no, dating someone who is ...
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| Worried myself sick | 8/23/2008 |
Q: I have never been attracted to a women I can honestly say that and I like the feeling I get with a ...
A: I think I can reassure you. I don't think you are a lesbian, and NO, watching, enjoying, being ...
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| My First Lesbian Relationship:My Girl Does't Think My Feelings For Her Are Real | 8/23/2008 |
Q: I've always known that I was attracted to women, but I wasn't real with myself about my sexuality ...
A: .. The best (and riskiest) way to flirt with someone, the best (and riskiest) way to show them ...
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| first time out | 8/22/2008 |
Q: I was reading your answer to lacy the 25 year old, and thought of a question of my own. I to am 25 ...
A: Let's start with the "If you are not super model pretty do you have to fall into the stud category?" ...
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| Talking to a bicurious female for the first time | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I am 26. I have been an active lesbian for the last 3 years. I am not out or anything like that ...
A: It sounds like there must be some interest there, or she wouldn't have said she was going to talk to ...
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| am i so insecure? | 8/20/2008 |
Q: ..so i have been in my relationshi[ for over a year. My girlfriend is trustworthy and I have grown ...
A: You are already doing the best thing you can do...you are taking an honest look at yourself and ...
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| how to tell her | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I have been crushing on this girl for a while now. We hung out all of last semester almost ...
A: I think one of the best ways is to first see if you can create the right opportunity. You could try ...
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| AM I A LESBIAN | 8/13/2008 |
Q: OK MY NAME IS KYLEE I KINDA CONSIDER MY A BI SEXUAL.... BUT NOBODY KNOWS OTHER THAN PPL I KNO OFF ...
A: The good news is, Kylee, you don't have to "pick one" or decide right now, "Am I a lesbian" or "am I ...
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| idk what to do | 8/8/2008 |
Q: hey, Well, my name is Amanda and I'm 14. I am going to be entering my freshman year in high school ...
A: ..yes, it would be good to be in therapy, and I am surprised that any doctor (though this one sounds ...
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| So confused | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am 20 years old and am about to be a junior in college. This last past year, i've been examining ...
A: ..I'm sorry I couldn't answer sooner, I was out sick for the last week. I would say that if you ...
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| idk what to do | 8/6/2008 |
Q: hey, Well, my name is Amanda and I'm 14. I am going to be entering my freshman year in high school ...
A: Your letter raises so many issues, I am afraid I will miss answering something important. First of ...
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| My Daughter's Rejection of Me | 8/5/2008 |
Q: My evangelical daughter has totally rejected me and removed my 4 grandchildren from my life. I ...
A: It is a really tough one...each person reacts so different. My son rejected me for a time, but he ...
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| Living in denial | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I first off want to thank you for what you do here on this website. I’ve read a good number of your ...
A: one kind of side thing that comes through to me as I read your letter is that, girl, you can write! ...
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| My gf are best with her ex | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I date this girl for a month now. She is totally in love with me, since she often tell me how when ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. I am one who always likes to take people at their word--until they show ...
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| Lena's answer | 7/30/2008 |
Q: First off l'm really happy that you could take my e-mail. Your compassionate caring and to the ...
A: good to hear from you again. I'm afraid I didn't find Lena's answer any where, so it's good you ...
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| Living in denial | 7/29/2008 |
Q: I first off want to thank you for what you do here on this website. I’ve read a good number of your ...
A: ..and for the words of encouragement. Here is the good news, Ann...you are dealing with YOU. And ...
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| I'm in love with my best friend, and she is the most confusing person in the world! | 7/29/2008 |
Q: I feel so alone as there is no one that I can openly talk to about how I'm feeling. I have known my ...
A: and you are very welcome...I'm glad if I can be a sounding board for you. I find that often it is ...
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| I'm in love with my best friend, and she is the most confusing person in the world! | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I feel so alone as there is no one that I can openly talk to about how I'm feeling. I have known my ...
A: .. This is really a tough one. It sounds like this friend is going to always have a problem truly ...
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| Flirting with a married woman | 7/22/2008 |
Q: So it's safe for me to flirt because lam not married. Plus l didn't start the flirting. Then one ...
A: My gut feeling on this one (not clinical) is that she realized she crossed a line, could very easily ...
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| Is Age Really A Factor? | 7/21/2008 |
Q: I've been out for about 4 years now but I dont have a ton of dating experience. For the past 3 ...
A: So much depends on life experience, not just chronological age. In general the younger the two of ...
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| hey | 7/21/2008 |
Q: Where are you right now??? I just need you hear in my mind. Sorry I don' know if I mess up Mic ...
A: Kim, I'm right here...haven't moved, haven't left, and won't. Yes you can feel, yes, you can need. ...
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| In love with a straight woman | 7/20/2008 |
Q: Tammy and I have been friends for 3 years. Over a year ago, she told me that she had feelings for me ...
A: I'm so sorry you are going through this...both of you. No, I don't get the feeling that Tammy is ...
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| Lesbian Relationships/Dating | 7/19/2008 |
Q: I love this website I have asked questions here before. My new question is this, well I will start ...
A: Sherrie, I will start with this... You are so, so, so, so normal! Yes, everything you are going ...
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| Flirting with a married woman | 7/18/2008 |
Q: So it's safe for me to flirt because lam not married. Plus l didn't start the flirting. Then one ...
A: I would say that you risk a lot by engaging in even flirtations with this woman. You say you have ...
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| Lesbian crush on married, straight supervisor | 7/17/2008 |
Q: Michelle: I am sure you've heard it all before, just as I have as well. However, for the 1st time ...
A: I think your gut instincts are pretty right on...and she probably is the same way you are...she ...
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| Questioning my sexuality...and hers | 7/15/2008 |
Q: So I just had my first year in college, freedom to make mistakes and find myself and all that. With ...
A: You are both in a tough spot because you are so afraid of the possibility that either of you might ...
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| Family or the love of my life? | 7/14/2008 |
Q: mm..Where to begin? I've recently turned 19 and I found the woman of my dreams on-line. That's not ...
A: I don't think it necessarily has to be either your family or your girlfriend...not yet. I would ...
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| gay straight, and coming out to parents | 7/14/2008 |
Q: I have always thought of my self as Bi, The first time I had sex with a woman I had this feeling ...
A: That's a pretty tough one to answer, K. It can be so many things. It can be that you are not ...
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| We are Expecting! | 7/8/2008 |
Q: Okay, me and my girlfriend are expecting...I am pregnant and we want to make sure that if any thing ...
A: ! Congratulations to you both!! First, the best resource in the whole country that you can get ...
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| sick of it all | 7/8/2008 |
Q: I am soooo ired of defending "the lifestyle". I am in the closet. Everyone i know hates ...
A: It's a tough one. People get pretty set in their ways. Here is the thing I always try to remember, ...
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| Married and Curious | 7/6/2008 |
Q: married for 14 years.. I have a lesbian best friend, for the past few months we have gotten closer. ...
A: and I am hoping I can help...though I will say it may not quite be the answer you are looking for. ...
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| gay straight, and coming out to parents | 7/5/2008 |
Q: I have always thought of my self as Bi, The first time I had sex with a woman I had this feeling ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. I like to remind people at this point that I am expressing my personal ...
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| My Contemplation and Reflection | 7/4/2008 |
Q: I have become a reticent and secrete virtual observer of your conversations and advice to other ...
A: Sogdiana, for your beautifully written letter and observations, and reflections. I'm not surprised ...
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| straight girl crush on un happy married woman | 7/3/2008 |
Q: I've had lots of married straight girl crushes before. some turned into relationships some didn't! ...
A: .. It does sound like there is definitely something there. And it sounds like she has people who ...
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| Confused about my Sexuality. | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I have always thought of myself as Bi-sexual. I first knew I wasn’t completely straight when I ...
A: Here's the thing Kim. You don't have to decide if you are straight, gay, or bi right now. In fact, ...
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| still in love with my friend | 6/29/2008 |
Q: It’s been a few months since my last question. You were very helpful by confirming some of my ...
A: It is good to hear from you again! It sounds like some of what I said is starting to make more ...
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| Workplace crush while in the closet | 6/28/2008 |
Q: I am a 27 year old woman living in the midwest. I have known that I was a lesbian since I was 17, ...
A: It's a tough one, especially if you are interested in someone at work. Without her even meaning to ...
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| hi | 6/24/2008 |
Q: hi i am shayanna i am 12 i am scared if i am a lesbian i like girls what should i do i i am crying ...
A: and no, please don't ever worry that you have wasted my time by asking questions or for help ...
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| Confused, am I bi am I gay? | 6/22/2008 |
Q: I have known that I am not straight for sure since I was 14 years old, I am now 22. Last night for ...
A: I can relate to a lot of your experiences, and feelings...and I think a lot of people can. Our ...
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| Straight woman lesbian GF leaves her for another Lesbian | 6/17/2008 |
Q: I am straight woman been with a Lesbian for 5 years. Due to communication problems and ...
A: I hate to say it, but I think she has given you an answer. If you made it clear that you aren't ...
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| wife? | 6/15/2008 |
Q: were not legally married but last year we exchanged rings and vows and called it a marriage, we had ...
A: I am so sorry to hear that she moved out...it has to be really hard for you right now, and I am ...
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| My girlfriend and her gay friends | 6/14/2008 |
Q: My gf was a dancer in college. They toured a lot so partied in hotel rooms quite a bit. She has ...
A: Believe it or not, yes. I do think it is pretty normal for a gay guy and a girl who is a close ...
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| Could I be bi? | 6/13/2008 |
Q: In the past I have watched lesbian porn and it turned me on, however in real life I have never had ...
A: The best way is to simply be okay with being bi, straight, gay, whatever you are...to reach a point ...
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| Friends... or more? | 6/12/2008 |
Q: You might not remember me, I wrote you about 6 months ago, asking your opinion on whether or not I ...
A: I DO remember you, and it sounds like you have come quite a ways in this journey. I think I might ...
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| Scared.. | 6/10/2008 |
Q: Okay well i feel very weird in the first place having to even ASK anyone about this but here's my ...
A: Hopefully I can put your mind at ease a little bit... Let's start with one of the things you say ...
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| Our relationship and lesbian marriage | 6/8/2008 |
Q: I am in the first lesbian relationship in my life. I never thought I would be here. I am a 5 year ...
A: .. Let's start with the legal issues first. If you get married in Canada or California, it might ...
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| Grieving Heart | 6/6/2008 |
Q: Of recent, my partner passed away suddenly at 45 years of age. I was devastated, and I still love ...
A: ..first of all let me tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I can't even imagine going through ...
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| my girlie | 6/4/2008 |
Q: I am not an out lesbian but, I know that I'm at least bisexual. I've known this girl Summer for a ...
A: That's a really tough one, Scarlett...because you really can't help her...she can only help herself. ...
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| convincing | 5/31/2008 |
Q: I'm 14 years old and know I'm a lesbian. I came out a few months ago and my friends accepted me. ...
A: and thanks for writing. You don't really need to "convince" mom, she is in a "wait and see" mode. ...
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| Confused about my sexuality | 5/30/2008 |
Q: I also wanted to say a big thank you for all your time and real concern for everyone that has asked ...
A: I do remember you writing to me, and am glad you wanted to write again. Love and sex and ...
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| being home | 5/29/2008 |
Q: I am home from college and I am finding it hard to hide my orientation!!! I real feminist/lesbian ...
A: It's really hard going home sometimes...when you have started knowing what it feels like to be more ...
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| WHY IS SHE SO MAD? | 5/28/2008 |
Q: ..but its been about 6 moths with out the back and forth contact. Well we broke up because she had a ...
A: I think it is always going to be hard for her, even if she was the one who caused the breakup. You ...
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| Her Again... | 5/27/2008 |
Q: Hey Michelle... I don't know if you remember me but I've written you before, a couple of months ...
A: and yes, I do remember you. I'm glad you wrote again. And yes, oh yes, it is exhausting to be ...
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| i no im gay but... | 5/23/2008 |
Q: im only thirteen but i no im a lesbian....i use to love guys and go out with guys but wen i was ...
A: Good to hear from you again, and don't ever worry about writing "too long" of a letter. ...
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| lesbian relationship | 5/18/2008 |
Q: my friend has only been with her partner for a few months but have recently got married and are ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. I will start by saying that it may be your perception that she has ...
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| coming out | 5/12/2008 |
Q: This is quite difficult for me to verbalize, but let's give it a shot. I am 42, the mother of 2 and ...
A: ..thanks for writing. I would love to say that there is an easy way, or a fool proof way of telling ...
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| RELIGION, GIRLFRIEND & SEX | 5/11/2008 |
Q: HEY OK I'M 14 AND I HAVE TWO QUESTIONS 1. I HAVE BEEN BROUGHT UP IN A RELIGIOUS HOUSE HOLD AND ...
A: Let's see. Let's start with question number one about what the Bible says about being gay. I was ...
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| too many gfs? | 5/11/2008 |
Q: I've just come out in the last year and I met someone and got into a heavy relationship. We have ...
A: First of all, yes, it is normal. Normal for you, and normal for lots of people...and as long as you ...
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| i am really confused right now!! i need some help! | 5/10/2008 |
Q: . just call me janica, turning 22 this year. and i am writing to you because of this problem ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. Let me start off by saying, our world is used to straight people...that ...
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| A girlfriend who cant get over her ex | 5/8/2008 |
Q: I have been seeing a woman over a month and she is wonderful we really click like I could never ...
A: I usually advise taking people at their word for a little while. Not forever, but for a little ...
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| Friendly or Flirting | 5/1/2008 |
Q: I am a 31 year old, married, mother of 6. At a few recent appointments I have had a doctor hug me ...
A: This is a pretty tough one because so much depends on the individual. I would call the behavior ...
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| Telling my bf I want to be with women only | 4/19/2008 |
Q: I have been in a heterosexual relationship for seven years (I am 21 yrs old). This relationship is ...
A: First of all, how do you call yourself a lesbian when you have been in a het relationship for seven ...
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| So Freaking CONFUSED?!?!?! | 4/19/2008 |
Q: Okay. here I go. I am fifteen and a half. I will be getting my temps soon. and I think that I’m ...
A: First of all, don't apologize at all for a long letter...it's usually much easier to deal with more ...
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| does this mean i am gay ? | 4/16/2008 |
Q: O ?
A: No, not at all. What stimulates us visually and even in terms of fantasy often has little to do ...
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| Stuck in the road of life | 4/13/2008 |
Q: I already asked one of your peers this question, but I was interested in what you had to say. I met ...
A: ..thanks for writing. I have a tendency to tell people to follow their gut, and you are going to be ...
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| fearless, but pained | 4/8/2008 |
Q: *breathes deep* Ok, so, I'm passionately in love with someone, and it's tearing me apart. Sounds ...
A: This is one of those tough situtaion where no matter what you know or believe, it is still going to ...
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| i WAS her 1st | 4/2/2008 |
Q: Well me and this girl we're dating but she wasn't gay she was bi. After about 4 months of us dating ...
A: .. I would guess that she is fairly young, late teens early twenties?? And my guess going by what ...
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| My First Breakup | 4/1/2008 |
Q: I came out when I was eighteen and about six months after that I fell in love with a woman ten years ...
A: You are so very welcome, Britt. I'm glad that it helps. I think a lot of times it is as much that ...
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| My First Breakup | 3/30/2008 |
Q: I came out when I was eighteen and about six months after that I fell in love with a woman ten years ...
A: I am so sorry you are going through this...and I do appreciate you writing to me. Let's start with ...
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| iono if im gay or not | 3/26/2008 |
Q: i've been having intrusive thoughts for couple of months now. the stuff in my mind doesn't give me ...
A: Not at all, Dan. Oral sex is not something that every person enjoys--either giving or receiving. ...
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| Significantly affected by my ex-girlfriend | 3/24/2008 |
Q: First, I want to thank you for your time and for this service. I think that what you and the other ...
A: What you are describing about your ex sounds excruciatingly painful, but also very, very normal. ...
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| Lesbians or not? | 3/24/2008 |
Q: My sister-in-law who has never been married has me puzzled. She did at one time in her life have a ...
A: I'm not 100% sure what you are asking...is it normal for lesbians who are sixty to hold hands (be in ...
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| am i a lezbian | 3/23/2008 |
Q: well i am 13 and i have dreams about girls licking and puting their fingers up me i sometimes see ...
A: Erin, there are a couple of things I hope I can get across to you this morning, in a way that you ...
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| bisexual | 3/23/2008 |
Q: I am a Man, i have a girlfriend and we are together for almost 3 years. She is very beautiful and ...
A: It is more than possible to have a healthy relationship with a bisexual partner, it is quite ...
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| having sex!! | 3/23/2008 |
Q: Hi i know this is a really strange question but i am pretty sure i am a lesbian but i want to ...
A: the best advice I can give you is to not overthink it. You know what feels good to you, and for the ...
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| Straight woman lesbian GF leaves her for another Lesbian | 3/18/2008 |
Q: I am straight woman been with a Lesbian for 5 years. Due to communication problems and ...
A: ..this is a pretty tough one. For both of you, because I can empathize with both of you. I agree ...
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| frienship among lesbians love vs in love? | 3/18/2008 |
Q: for some reason I asked Vicky this question and I got an email saying she wasn't able to answer it. ...
A: I think you are absolutely right...it is really hard to know when or how to cross that friendship ...
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| nervous about coming out even more | 3/16/2008 |
Q: this probably sounds like a strange question however I am still inclined to write it...how do I get ...
A: this isn't a strange question at all, and believe it or not, it isn't that uncommon. I think there ...
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| Conflict with my lesbian friends | 3/9/2008 |
Q: I am a straight single female who happens to be very close friends with a lesbian couple that I will ...
A: I don't think what you are seeing with Mel and Terri is a "lesbian" thing...just a relationship ...
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| do i try to get her back? | 3/5/2008 |
Q: i've been with my girlfriend nearly 3 yrs now, I'm only 18, so yeah ppl may say your only young ...
A: I would say that your girlfriend is probably wanting to break up for more reasons than you moving in ...
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| I don't understand what's going on | 3/5/2008 |
Q: There's this girl who goes to my high school and I really like her and I think she likes me too but ...
A: It is pretty tough to figure out if someone is interested in you--it is tougher, I think, for us ...
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| just confused, i'm sure you get this a lot | 3/4/2008 |
Q: alright i'm not sure where to begin...okay i'm 17 and i'm really interested in this girl. i know i'm ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. You brought a big smile to my face this morning because yes, I do get a ...
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| crazy feelings | 3/3/2008 |
Q: my name is jess and im 18 years old i recently started college which is going well so far apart from ...
A: .. I think that you are having some pretty strong, common attractions. I think that for a LOT of ...
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| still new at this | 2/29/2008 |
Q: Can you please tell me, how can I tell the difference between someone who is shy and nervous around ...
A: .. That's a really good question. I think it is different for every person. There are people at my ...
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| help confused | 2/28/2008 |
Q: i have a g/f that lives in england and i live in the states. she has left her husband and 2 kids. ...
A: .. I think there are a lot of women who feel the way your g/f does. And I think they may even be ...
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| ex contacting me | 2/25/2008 |
Q: I am 37 and I had my first lesbian relationship for two years. She left me last July she had ...
A: This sounds excruciatingly painful, and I think at this point your gut is telling you some things ...
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| is it time or the end | 2/25/2008 |
Q: I wrote in before. About a quick and painful breack up. We did go on vacation together to visit my ...
A: Yes, I do remember your previous letter. First, let me start by apologizing for the delay in my ...
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| falling | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I recently found myself very attracted to this young lady. she is 30 and I'm 23. Anyway I thought ...
A: If I could come up with a formula to change the heart's desires, I would be richer than Oprah ...
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| Single mom of two - bisexual/lesban? | 2/18/2008 |
Q: I've been reading through so many Q&A postings online but I haven't yet stumbled upon a situation ...
A: First of all, your friends are probably going to fight over who gets the toaster oven (old Ellen ...
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| dont know if i should end my 4 yr relationship | 2/10/2008 |
Q: ive been in a serious 4 yr relationship but the last 6 months have been horrible. my lover dosent ...
A: I am so sorry you are going through this. I will never figure out why some people can't just step ...
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| question again | 2/8/2008 |
Q: Michelle, thank you so much for your clear answers. I'd like to follow it up though.. So transition ...
A: Oh absolutely and exactly! I actually do believe that most people are somewhere in between straight ...
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| what to do | 2/7/2008 |
Q: First of all, thank you for being here for us, always willing to listen and give. I’m not so sure I ...
A: you are very welcome, I am glad that sometimes me being a sounding board for people helps. I find ...
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| troubles with talking to my mum(age17) | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I recently near new year told my mum that i am a lesbian, but i am finding it very hard to talk to ...
A: I think that you'll find that it is more of a personality/relationship thing than it is being a ...
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| Sex | 2/4/2008 |
Q: My question is about my girlfriend who until we started dating last year had only ever been with ...
A: and I do understand why there is no definite question but instead kind of a "where am I?" or "where ...
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| Why is she acting this way | 2/2/2008 |
Q: Ok, Iv'e been working at this job about four months now and I notice that this manager seem to favor ...
A: Hard to say why she is acting like that or what all is going on from her side...you may never find ...
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| Approaching a friend | 2/1/2008 |
Q: Here's my question... I am 30, and am a student. I have a teacher who is 32. I have 6 (yes six) ...
A: I would say that since the term is ending, this will get easier either way. I would approach her a ...
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| Slightly confused. | 1/30/2008 |
Q: This question may be a little out of your expertise, but here it goes. I am a Christian myself and I ...
A: You don't say what your age is now, but it kind of sounds like you are in high school maybe? One of ...
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| Erm, help! | 1/29/2008 |
Q: Right, so heres the thing...I really like this girl (who is a good friend) but I'm completely ...
A: Can I start with the second problem first and come back to the friend? Yep, people can act ...
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| G/F | 1/28/2008 |
Q: Please provide some advice. I am miserable, and I cry for up to 8 hours a day. My g/f asked for a ...
A: ..it isn't punishment, I promise. I can't really say what is going on with your girlfriend, and ...
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| confusion on my sexuality | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I'm a 12 years old girl and I'm confused about my sexuality. I know a lot about sexuality than most ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. No, you should never ignore the questions, the questions are what help ...
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| Confusion I need some help | 1/27/2008 |
Q: I really hope that you can help me in my dilemma. I am 36 year old woman who has been having her ...
A: ..let's start with the part that is going to, hopefully, give you quite a bit of relief. You are SO ...
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| comming out a relationship ender | 1/27/2008 |
Q: After a 9 yr relationship I find myself without my partner, best friend, confidant and my sons other ...
A: I would say that it might be a good idea for now to plan on keeping it for what it is--time away, ...
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| comming out a relationship ender | 1/26/2008 |
Q: After a 9 yr relationship I find myself without my partner, best friend, confidant and my sons other ...
A: Oh Nelle. This is so painful. Someone told me once that breakups between two women are full of a ...
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| i no im gay but... | 1/25/2008 |
Q: im only thirteen but i no im a lesbian....i use to love guys and go out with guys but wen i was ...
A: Spencer...I'm hoping that you can really hear me when I write to you. Maybe if I can help you to ...
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| What do you think? | 1/23/2008 |
Q: my fantacies are only with males but when i see two girls having sex i get horny, i have no interest ...
A: I would say if you only fantasize and are attracted to males, then it is unlikely that you are a ...
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| only a lesbian for her? | 1/23/2008 |
Q: i've been wanting to share this with someone. i am 28 years old, a straight woman, ive never been ...
A: ..even given the possible cultural differences about workplace romance, I would still caution you ...
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| being in love with a older woman | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I am in my mid-twenties and i am deeply in love with an older woman. We are not in a actual ...
A: This is really a hard one because I do get what you are saying. I believe you when you say what you ...
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| do I stay for the long haul? | 1/22/2008 |
Q: OK not really sure if this is your area but I really would like some input. I started getting to ...
A: . What feels like taking second place to her ex is probably more a matter of the complications and ...
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| first time relationship | 1/21/2008 |
Q: Its my first time with another woman and Im scared.Im 20 years old and in my first lesbian ...
A: Abby, sex should never hurt you, it should never make you uncomfortable, or feel bad. You need to ...
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| Help. | 1/20/2008 |
Q: I've known i was gay for several years, probably since i was 10. I'm now 19 and finally had my first ...
A: ..don't apologize, you weren't too blunt at all. To tell you the truth, my advice is going to start ...
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| confused | 1/20/2008 |
Q: Ok so I have just recently come to terms with being a lesbian... at least I think I am a lesbian. I ...
A: ..it's okay to be confused...honest. I am not just saying that. I'm 48 and I still get confused a ...
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| only a lesbian for her? | 1/20/2008 |
Q: i've been wanting to share this with someone. i am 28 years old, a straight woman, ive never been ...
A: ..let's start just with you. Is it possible that you are "only a lesbian for her"? Sure. Or more ...
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| Curious. Not sure what to do. | 1/20/2008 |
Q: I am an early 30s female and I always *hoped* that I was straight. I've had crushes on women before ...
A: .. IF, IF, IF, you have a relationship with this coworker that you can have a personal discussion ...
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| why won't she tell her dad about me? | 1/19/2008 |
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years. About a year and a half ago I moved from Pennsylvania to ...
A: ..thanks for writing. I guess I fall on both sides on this one. Mainly because I think it is ...
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| girls are so confusing. | 1/19/2008 |
Q: So, I really am starting to like my friend. I met her about four months ago, and honestly, I had no ...
A: Boy, that's a tough one! I guess something I would ask her is if she is really doing the boyfriend ...
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| sexual question | 1/18/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this girl that is 17 and we really like eachother and I am really sexually ...
A: I think that whether you were considering sex with a male or a female, you need to really educate ...
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| being this way | 1/18/2008 |
Q: So I was talking to my friend and she said that lesbians will burn in a fiery pit in hell. She also ...
A: It really is hard, Jodi. Especially when you have to worry about other people finding out...because ...
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| sexual question | 1/17/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this girl that is 17 and we really like eachother and I am really sexually ...
A: don't apologize at all for the questions...they are all excellent questions. You are right to be ...
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| sexual question | 1/16/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this girl that is 17 and we really like eachother and I am really sexually ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. Let's start with the "does it sound like I'm a lesbian or bi? I still ...
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| being a Christian lesbian | 1/13/2008 |
Q: I am 23 years and in college. I am only now discovering that I have very strong feelings for women ...
A: ..thanks for writing me. It's a process, actually. I guess one way to look at it is this. For 23 ...
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| Coming out to my children | 1/12/2008 |
Q: I have recently came out to my close family and friends. I have two small children ages 7 and 8. The ...
A: It's a big step, isn't it? And a bit scary. I agree with you completely that honesty is best, ...
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| i no im gay but... | 1/12/2008 |
Q: im only thirteen but i no im a lesbian....i use to love guys and go out with guys but wen i was ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. Let me tell you first, that you are why I am here doing this question ...
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| Complicated relationship | 1/11/2008 |
Q: All right, it's quite a long story but I will try to make it short. I have been straight so far and ...
A: I think it is absolutely right and good that the two of you are going to stay friends, and I agree ...
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| Long-distance girlfriend and family issues | 1/6/2008 |
Q: This question covers so many different categories, I'm really not sure where to put it or who to ...
A: Yep, this one is complicated, and hard, and lots of layers. Let's try one layer at a time. Long ...
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| Lesbian friend and her Mom | 1/5/2008 |
Q: I am a 20 years old female of Indian origin living in UK for past 10 uears. I am having a committed ...
A: I think before you do anything, you need to figure out who you really want to be with. Yes, you do ...
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| should I back off? | 1/5/2008 |
Q: Since writing to you last I am certain that we both feel the same way. We both jump at the chance ...
A: ..I understand that feeling you are describing...it is magical. I think that if you feel you are ...
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| Am i Bi | 1/4/2008 |
Q: ...i mean when you r 11 yrs old watching scrambled showtime porn hoping they have a lesbian sex ...
A: That's a tough one, Kt...hard to say for someone based on a paragraph from their life. You ...
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| girls are so confusing. | 1/4/2008 |
Q: So, I really am starting to like my friend. I met her about four months ago, and honestly, I had no ...
A: Yep, no doubt about it, girls (and women) are soooo confusing. I guess, Katie, you need to kind of ...
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| Complicated relationship | 1/3/2008 |
Q: All right, it's quite a long story but I will try to make it short. I have been straight so far and ...
A: This is a tough one. I always tend to think we are best to take people at their word, and not ...
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| Help: Girls' Crushes | 1/2/2008 |
Q: Sorry for another 'confused girl' question. I've always had crushes on girls and reading your ...
A: don't be sorry, it is what I am here for. I would say that if the relationship isn't serious with ...
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| Lesbian girlfriend married man | 12/29/2007 |
Q: I have been involved with my ex girlfriend for 6 years on and off. Our biggest problem with the ...
A: ..maybe we need a slightly different perspective on this situation than the one you've had. Years ...
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| masterbation | 12/27/2007 |
Q: I've masterbated for quite some time now but the thing is right after im done i feel completely ...
A: I hope I can help. I think you are describing a pretty normal reaction...as sexualized as our ...
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| confused about my sexuality | 12/24/2007 |
Q: I am only 12 years old and i am confused about my sexuality. I am a girl. I feel happier and more ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. The good news for you Shannon, is that you don't have to really figure ...
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| so confused | 12/22/2007 |
Q: This is kind of akward but here goes.. i'm 17, well, i actually turn 18 tomorrow, and i'm constantly ...
A: ..I'm glad it helped to talk to me, and to start kind of figuring stuff out. I'm sorry I didn't ...
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| Should I Should Or Should I...Shant...? | 12/22/2007 |
Q: I'm sixteen years old, and have realized not only that I'm a lesbian, but that it's okay with God. ...
A: that is a tough one...something that every person kind of has to decide for themselves. Every ...
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| so confused | 12/19/2007 |
Q: This is kind of akward but here goes.. i'm 17, well, i actually turn 18 tomorrow, and i'm constantly ...
A: It's tough sometimes, to differentiate between what we THINK will be exciting or arousing and what ...
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| Telling my mom n friends im a lesbian | 12/17/2007 |
Q: Well ever since 6th grade i would act like a tomboy n i kinda knew that i was a lesbian...i think ...
A: .. First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. It really is hard, especially when we ...
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| Follow up to: Do I help her more by leaving her alone? | 12/9/2007 |
Q: I am finally getting back to you regarding your wonderful response to me you provided in this ...
A: Wow, Marcia...it sounds like you have walked through hell since we last talked...wow. I'm sorry it ...
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| Is patience really a virtue? | 12/4/2007 |
Q: Buenos Dias Michellita y Denisita, Como estan? Bien? Que bueno! Well now, I had a fun weekend, how ...
A: MC, you are such a trip! Now that you gave me permission to let my partner read your emails, she ...
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| I know it is time! | 12/4/2007 |
Q: First I want to say Michelle I think you responses to your readers are amazing! O.k so here is my ...
A: Hey alexander...thanks for writing and thank you for the compliment. Most of what I do is kinda ...
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| ok | 11/24/2007 |
Q: please be patient with me. I may call in sick at 230am and why i fuckin tell you this i don't know. ...
A: No you didn't cause all of everyone's pain. that's just what they want you to believe, but it is ...
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| iono if im gay or not | 11/22/2007 |
Q: i've been having intrusive thoughts for couple of months now. the stuff in my mind doesn't give me ...
A: What you are describing is a very common, normal thing for a straight man. It is actually the FEAR ...
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| Alaska Same Sex rights | 11/22/2007 |
Q: Me and my girlfriend are wanting to get married. I'm not sure what any of the laws up here in Alaska ...
A: Here is what I found so far: STATUTE Same-sex marriages (a) A marriage entered into by persons of ...
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| PDA delemia | 11/21/2007 |
Q: I've sent you a couple of questions and heres one more. I'm dating an amazing girl, I love her ubers ...
A: ..this is a very tough one, because neither one of you is wrong, and neither one of you should have ...
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| sorry | 11/18/2007 |
Q: Sorry, I assumed the unthinkable with my last message. I get stupid. Must be I am drinking gotta ...
A: ..so far I haven't been able to get her to go. If she isn't better by Monday, I will probably konk ...
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| hmm | 11/14/2007 |
Q: if you get this erase it JUST TRUST ME IT ALL STUPID Looking there is still opening to write ...
A: That's because it all feels so backwards for you right now, even though you are moving forward in ...
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| How do I let my friend know I'm interested? | 11/14/2007 |
Q: (Thank you for getting back to me. I guess you never received my original question. Not sure what ...
A: I think you have both been sending some pretty good signals to each other...and it sounds like she ...
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| Saving My Relationship | 11/10/2007 |
Q: Just a brief backdrop: I am in my forties and have been in, what I consider, my first relationship ...
A: yes, there is hope. It sounds like we have two very loving people. In fact, with two virgos, we ...
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| adult children | 11/9/2007 |
Q: I need to know what to do when my my partners children alienate her for being with me. We both ...
A: Unfortunately, you are both in the reverse position of the usual person who writes to me. Usually ...
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| ok oops | 11/9/2007 |
Q: I was wrong. I can't do this. Today sucked. I spilled diesel all over me and let me tell you; it ...
A: No, you are rightfully screaming your lungs out! Your mom is a dipwad, to say the least. She is an ...
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| Should I tell her how I feel? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: My ex and I have had our fair share of ups and downs.Break ups.And Absolute disasters.Now we are ...
A: I don't think it is playing a game to simply keep playing the "cool card." If she has said she just ...
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| Do I help her more by leaving her alone? | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I am 36 and have dated women almost exclusively for most of my adult life but I have only ever truly ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me... "and I have begged her not to end up like so many women who end up ...
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| ok | 11/2/2007 |
Q: Hey, Did I write you last night? If I did I am sorry and don't remember what I wrote. Dumb as it ...
A: a note just saying hi! doesn't sound dumb at all...it is good to get! You do realize that it is a ...
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| Religious Conflicts | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I've been dating this girl for a year and eight months now. We both love each other very much but ...
A: So, I want to make sure that I have this clear and can give you my best answer. Are you the same ...
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| In love with a married woman | 10/28/2007 |
Q: I've been an out lesbian most of my life (I'm in my 40's). I recently found myself head over heels ...
A: I would probably start by saying that I believe that sexuality is a bit more fluid for women than ...
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| am i a lesbian? | 10/24/2007 |
Q: So I'm 20 years old. I've been straight all my life. I've had two long term relationships. I have a ...
A: The part about the rumors she was a lesbian because no makeup, hair up, always in jeans made me ...
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| follow-up | 10/23/2007 |
Q: when i think about our situation. and what you've said, it just made me cry 'coz even if we we're in ...
A: What I meant was that her family may be as much or more concerned that HER feelings towards you are ...
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| am i a lesbian? | 10/23/2007 |
Q: So I'm 20 years old. I've been straight all my life. I've had two long term relationships. I have a ...
A: Brooke, thanks for writing to me, this sounds so painful for you both... I say all the time that ...
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| My wife? | 10/19/2007 |
Q: I have been married for 25 years. The last 10 have not been good and we have slept in separate ...
A: Oh Rick...I am so sorry. I am sorry this is happening to you, I am sorry that you are in such pain. ...
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| lets test your memory | 10/17/2007 |
Q: I drove right past her house three times. 5hrs of driving and getting sick and I failed. Stalking ...
A: Gina isn't right, she never was. You don't scare me or make me mad. You didn't cause me to stop ...
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| Coming Out....Again | 10/15/2007 |
Q: Michelle~ Reading your profile, I could come up with many many questions to ask you that I think you ...
A: ..thanks for writing. It was interesting that you used the phrase, "come out...again". I think ...
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| Lesbian parents | 10/13/2007 |
Q: My partner and I have decided to have a child. She already has a 8 years old by a previous ...
A: it's good you are finding all this stuff out now, instead of after you have the baby. You would be ...
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| My best friend | 10/9/2007 |
Q: This is about my best friend teacher--who will potentially break my heart. Well, the power (if you ...
A: I would say that if you are both aware of the risks of the heart, and you have both decided to move ...
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| Best Friend or Maybe More?? | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I hope you can shed some light for me. I am in love with a friend of mine. However she is married ...
A: .. This one sounds just like the straight woman I fell in love with. The one that made me realize ...
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| My best friend | 10/4/2007 |
Q: I've considered myself straight pretty much all of my life. I am now middle aged, single parent. I ...
A: Kerry, it isn't sick of you to have fallen for someone who makes you feel good about yourself. It ...
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| My best friend | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I've considered myself straight pretty much all of my life. I am now middle aged, single parent. I ...
A: This is a very tough one. Very hard for you. It is hard for me to say whether this is a "games" ...
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| thanks | 9/29/2007 |
Q: hey, just wanted to say thanks again for talking with me. sharing with me and encouraging me. you ...
A: Seattle is beautiful, but gray. Portland is a lot like Seattle, a little less gray. Olympia would ...
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| answer | 9/29/2007 |
Q: i look for answers and only one comes what i feel for another is wrong and it always has been i am ...
A: No one on this board has ever said I couldn't maintain a running conversation, so as far as I ...
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| ok withdraw | 9/24/2007 |
Q: I want to erase what I said. i gave too much info. Now panic sets in so fast, hard. I want to ...
A: Kim, of COURSE you want to run, duck, hide. Of COURSE you cringe as you tell me all these things ...
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| don't red ok it ol | 9/23/2007 |
Q: Hey, I don't want to go to this therapy thing. I know I am going to feel like I failed cause I ...
A: Please remember that your emails, because you mark them "private" are seen only by you and me...so ...
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| mess up again | 9/21/2007 |
Q: I had to writ eone more time. I fucked up again. I miss gina I think. I cry at drop of hat my ...
A: Kim, it is the most natural thing in the world for you to miss Gina and want her back. No matter ...
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| Falling for an attached woman | 9/12/2007 |
Q: I find myself falling for a friend who's been in an unhappy relationship for the last 7 years. We ...
A: I would say that if they are splitting, I think you can be respectful of her current situation and ...
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| hey | 9/10/2007 |
Q: I love being crazy. i love feeling like my head is going to explode. I jsut have to make it throug ...
A: Actually Kim, human beings are the ones who say that we all pay for our imperfections. The Hebrew ...
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| hey | 9/7/2007 |
Q: Well, she did write me to say she wanted her rings back. so i left them for her. then she wrote ...
A: I LOVE THAT SONG!! I absolutely LOVE Pink!! Good song, great idea, and yes, you are alive still, ...
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| marriage and a baby | 9/4/2007 |
Q: my girl friend and i is thinking about marriage, how would we go about getting the legal ...
A: This is some of the information I found about Maryland's adoption law: Maryland Adoption Law ...
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| marriage and a baby | 9/2/2007 |
Q: my girl friend and i is thinking about marriage, how would we go about getting the legal ...
A: A lot of this depends on the state you live in. You need to check on the laws in your state ...
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| To many options | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I have a issue. I have been friends with a girl ( 20 years old, I am 25) for about 4 months, she is ...
A: ..wow, this is a tough one. I don't think I can tell you what to do, who to choose. I think it has ...
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| Falling for an attached woman | 8/28/2007 |
Q: I find myself falling for a friend who's been in an unhappy relationship for the last 7 years. We ...
A: I think that you do exactly what you are doing...you see each other at these events, you talk, you ...
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| Hey there | 8/28/2007 |
Q: Yea, I wrote. I was never sure if you supposed to keep writing on the same thing or continue. ...
A: I would say that it is definitely a possibility, and it is also just possible that this girlfriend ...
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| Falling for an attached woman | 8/27/2007 |
Q: I find myself falling for a friend who's been in an unhappy relationship for the last 7 years. We ...
A: .. Thanks for writing, and for opening up on what has to be a painful situation. It is hard, and ...
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| i want to like oral sex | 8/23/2007 |
Q: when i was 10 years old i let my friend eat me out and i loved it now I'm 15 and when someone eats ...
A: I'm sorry that my answer disappointed you, it wasn't meant to but I was pretty sure it would. ...
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| i want to like oral sex | 8/22/2007 |
Q: when i was 10 years old i let my friend eat me out and i loved it now I'm 15 and when someone eats ...
A: Shenieka, I am afraid you picked a pretty old-fashioned mom to ask this question...so I will give ...
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| Help! Im married and know i am a lebian, im too scared to leave | 8/15/2007 |
Q: I hope you can help me. I am 27 years old, i have known i am gay since i was 12 years old. I had my ...
A: ..I am so sorry for what you have gone through, what you are going through now. One of the saddest ...
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| I don't know if I am really a lesbian or what. | 7/27/2007 |
Q: I have been with men my whole life until I met a woman that I found very attractive. I am married ...
A: ..I am so sorry it has taken so long to respond, but we had two grandkids born within eight days of ...
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| follow up to prior | 7/27/2007 |
Q: I wrote once before re: a relationship that started right as or during, when I left my marriage with ...
A: I DO have a grandbaby...in fact I have TWO!! Which is why I didn't answer sooner...I'm sorry about ...
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| confused | 7/10/2007 |
Q: So where do I begin.....I have been with an amazing girl for around a year and a half. We are both ...
A: I know this has to be a pretty hard time for you both right now. You ask some hard questions--hard ...
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| I don't know if I'm gay/bi but am in love with my friend who I also don't know if she is gay/bi | 7/5/2007 |
Q: I feel like my heart is being torn in two. I am married with two young children but realise that ...
A: ..I think we have to go back to square one...you are married with two kids. If you have fallen out ...
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| Loving your best friend | 7/1/2007 |
Q: My best friend and I have been lovers. She has a girlfriend of over 3 years. I ended my 10 year ...
A: MC...I read your letter and wish I could come up with words that will alleviate the pain, give you ...
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| confused | 6/30/2007 |
Q: I have been in a lesbian relationship for the past 6 years and prior to that i was married with 2 ...
A: ..yes, I think, from the sounds of it that it would be far better for you to break it off completely ...
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| confused | 6/27/2007 |
Q: I have been in a lesbian relationship for the past 6 years and prior to that i was married with 2 ...
A: ..this sounds like a pretty painful situation. It sounds like one where she is trying to keep you ...
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| relationship | 6/22/2007 |
Q: I have come out of a hetrosexual relationship directly into a homosexual one. I have fought being ...
A: I don't know if anyone has packed so much pain, so many questions, and so much of life into so few ...
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| Crush at Work | 5/31/2007 |
Q: my question is about a coworker of mine. I find myself incredibly attracted to her, although I do ...
A: ..it sounds like you are going through an awful lot right now...and I think the first thing I should ...
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| Moony Q 1- why do I dislike them? (contnd) | 4/16/2007 |
Q: nope it's not a long answer, at least not to me, answers can't never be too long when I needed one, ...
A: I won't be able to paste it to the previous question, they give us very little format control, but ...
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| Moony Q 1- why do I dislike them? | 4/15/2007 |
Q: it's my first time writing to you, I am kinda confused over certain issues, and would be glad to get ...
A: ..in fact, I love your questions...both the ones about yourself, and the ones about this "bias." ...
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| In future....? | 4/14/2007 |
Q: Hey Michelle, i was just wondering, should i invite my ex and her friends to myspace? I mean should ...
A: ..I think being "casual" means that if you wanted a sweet, you should take it, if you weren't in the ...
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| In future....? | 4/12/2007 |
Q: Hey Michelle, i was just wondering, should i invite my ex and her friends to myspace? I mean should ...
A: Oh, I definitely think she has to avoid you and anything to do with you, friendly or otherwise. ...
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| Married with kids/ think I may be a lesbian | 3/9/2007 |
Q: Michelle, I am 22 years old with two children (a 2 yr. old and a 5 mo. old). I have been married ...
A: ..I HOPE I can help you, it sounds like an extremely painful situation. The first thing you need to ...
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| Allyn's journey | 2/13/2007 |
Q: I have spent a lot of time in therapy trying to figure out if I am really a lesbian. Like I said ...
A: It really is good to hear from you again, though I wish it were for better reasons. I'm sorry to ...
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| Allyn's fears | 1/16/2007 |
Q: Its me, Allyn. I wanted to tell you that I appreciate all of the advice you have given me in the ...
A: Hey Allyn!! I've wondered how you were doing! I am sorry it took me a couple days to answer...I am ...
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| troubled relationship | 12/5/2006 |
Q: I am in a relationship of almost 6 years with a wonderful woman. We live in a small city and due to ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me, I can see where this would be very painful for you. I think that I can ...
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| im scared and confused | 12/5/2006 |
Q: Well where do I begin? I am a 30yo that has been in married to a man for 11 years. We have 2 ...
A: you haven't confused me...it all sounds far too familiar because yes, I do know what it is like to ...
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| Understanding lesbian women | 11/30/2006 |
Q: well I just wanted to get some advice never really went this far but hopefully this will work! I ...
A: .. I'm not sure we can put time limits on the heart...so I'm not surprised that it is taking a long ...
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| Help! | 11/22/2006 |
Q: you've really helped me tremendously. But I can't seem to forget/drop it about this gay thing. I ...
A: ..it's fine, you can write as many times as you like--as many times as it takes to work through ...
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| Faithfullness | 11/22/2006 |
Q: I am a female dating a female. She has a Myspace and so do I. I am not sure if you are familiar but ...
A: ..I think it always depends on the two people in the relationship. For me personally, paranoid or ...
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| children | 11/21/2006 |
Q: I'm involved with an 27 year old female with a child and i'm only 20 years old.. her son is so ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. I should add the whole "kids and relationships" to my profile, because ...
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| Lesbian... | 11/15/2006 |
Q: I have a disturbing problem. By the way, I read where you think being gay is something your born ...
A: this whole "question pool" thing is a new one to me, so I hope that some other people have jumped in ...
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| My girlfriend came out to her parents | 11/13/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend is 21 and still supported by her parents. She has never dated a girl before me, and ...
A: My heart just ached as I read this. I'm sorry the two of you are going through this...and I hope ...
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| am I bi sexual | 11/12/2006 |
Q: I am married for the 2nd time and have had confusing feelings since i have been 12 years old , i am ...
A: .. It is very possible, even likely (if you have had these feelings since you were twelve) that you ...
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| Allyn's life | 11/11/2006 |
Q: Honestly I thought you disappeared there for a while. I have noticed myself really struggling with ...
A: Nope, I am right here...I went on vacation for a few days, but I try to get right back on. What ...
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| am i a lesbian?! | 11/11/2006 |
Q: Recently I have come out to my friends saying im bisexual and everyones totally cool with it. Ive ...
A: ..this is really an interesting question. There could be so much going on under the surface ...
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| Straight but love lesbians and bi-sexual women. | 11/10/2006 |
Q: I know I'm being a hypocrite hating gay men, but loving lesbians and bi-sexual women, but apart from ...
A: Just wanted to answer your comment on my profile. You didn't offend me in any way, I just try to be ...
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| Straight but love lesbians and bi-sexual women. | 11/10/2006 |
Q: I don't know if my query should go under fetishes or lesbian life, u be the judge. Is it ...
A: You know Wayne, I'm not sure if there IS a group out there...it seems like there is one for ...
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| What is going on with me? | 11/7/2006 |
Q: Ok, I am in a situation that I really dont know what to do. I am 28 years old and I have dated men ...
A: ..this question is so old, so I don't know if you still are hoping for input on it. I wasn't aware ...
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| chronic stress + confusion = mess | 11/6/2006 |
Q: Michelle! Your comments have helped clarify things, and you've asked questions that I really need ...
A: Good to hear from you again, Meghna. I agree one hundred percent that the emotional distress can be ...
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| chronic stress + confusion = mess | 11/5/2006 |
Q: Okay, I'll keep this as short as possible: I'm an adult in my early twenties, a university student. ...
A: First of all, never worry about "keeping it as short as possible"...I tend to think it is a good ...
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| does she like me?? | 11/1/2006 |
Q: Help! I've just been on a teaching course in Prague for a month, and i've fallen head over heels in ...
A: Wow, can I ever relate. When I fall for someone, it is always head over heals, gut-wrenching, all ...
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| girlfriend/ex-husband | 11/1/2006 |
Q: I dont know where to start this so lets see how this goes. July'05 my husband of 15 years left me ...
A: I read through your letter very carefully yesterday, but waited until this morning to write my ...
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| How To Save A Friendship | 10/24/2006 |
Q: My story is pretty long so i will try to keep it as short as possible. 18 months ago i started a new ...
A: Don't worry about it being too long a letter...sometimes the more information I have to work with, ...
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| Can pregnancy make one a lesbian? | 10/24/2006 |
Q: I know this may sound like a silly question- but here goes. I recently became a first time mom and ...
A: Pregnancy does a LOT of things to you physically and emotionally, not the least of which is to throw ...
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| Moving past IM & E-Mail | 10/23/2006 |
Q: I have been communicating with a single woman for almost a year since I met online through a ...
A: It sounds like a couple of different things could be going on here. It is possible that she is very ...
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| I am soo confussed | 10/21/2006 |
Q: i have a boyfriend, who i have been going out with for a year and a half. And i do find him really ...
A: .. I can understand why you are confused...this is a pretty tough question, for you AND for me. The ...
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| Help! | 10/20/2006 |
Q: I am 14 years old, and I am very confused. I have had many, many boy crushes and a few boyfriends. ...
A: Let's start with the basics in your overall questions. You ask something really importants..."Is ...
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| Married woman | 10/20/2006 |
Q: I am a lesbian and have a crush on my boos (woman). She is kinda butchy but is married with ...
A: ..thanks for writing to me. I always, always urge (strongly) CAUTION about people at ...
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| Allyn: a small victory | 10/19/2006 |
Q: from Allyn, I finally got that woman (Angie) to stop calling! Here is what I did in case you ever ...
A: Woohoo! Way to go Allyn! That is GREAT! I am so glad that you took care of Angie AND your ...
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| Confusion | 10/16/2006 |
Q: Mia has been there through everything. I had no idea that she ever thought about me that way. I do ...
A: One thing you need to understand, Sandra, is that yes, it would be putting the kids first to take a ...
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| Confusion | 10/16/2006 |
Q: Michele, a lot has happened to me within the past two weeks. I think that I have made a terrible ...
A: ..wow. Yes, it sounds like a lot HAS happened. I'm sure that the emotional roller coaster you are ...
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| am i bi? | 10/11/2006 |
Q: okay...i'm in the 9th grade. i've always found girls attractive and fantasize about them like 24/7. ...
A: I didn't think you were rambling at all...it just sounds like you literally "go back and forth"--so ...
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| Allyn: stress | 10/11/2006 |
Q: I have not planned a trip, and I have already taken some time off this year. It was a nice thought. ...
A: I think the plan for the Women's Music Festival is a GREAT one...my partner went years and years ...
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| new at the game | 10/10/2006 |
Q: i'm 41 yrs old. just CAME OUT 2 yrs ago. My 1st & only relationship was w/ my best friend of 2 yrs. ...
A: Wow, angel, I can actually relate to both of you (women) so well. 1st, I live in a very small, very ...
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| Allyn and Ms WRONG! | 10/9/2006 |
Q: I am truly embarrassed about my weekend. I know don't even want to type in my thoughts, alas once ...
A: Wow! What a day! My gosh, Allyn! You need a vacation! Preferably an Olivia cruise! (For one ...
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| Is she flirting with me? | 10/8/2006 |
Q: At work, my manager's boss - a woman, winks at me 5-6 times now for the last half year. She ...
A: First of all, it is understandable that some of this attention gets your blood pumping and might ...
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| in love with amarried woman | 10/7/2006 |
Q: she feels home with me and i with her she nows she wants to b and i allothat what do we do
A: I can't give you a good answer without a lot more information. There are so many factors to take ...
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| relationships, sex | 10/7/2006 |
Q: well i have a question on how to get my baby to open up to me??? we have been together on and off ...
A: I would say if it has been happening for about a year, is she with someone else? Is she married? ...
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| In love with an older woman | 10/6/2006 |
Q: I know it does make sense to hold off from doing anything too quickly and will certainly take your ...
A: I think you get along so well with the "older" ladies (gad, that's ME!) because you have a very ...
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| Allyn: live and learn | 10/5/2006 |
Q: I do work for a large fortune 500 company. I can almost guarantee that you have heard of it, ...
A: This woman at work sounds like she may be a good person to come out to when you are ready. It is ...
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| In love with an older woman | 10/5/2006 |
Q: I asked you for permission write a long question so please accept my appology, because I ended up ...
A: ..I see what you mean about it all being very complicated. In fact, I think you did an incredible ...
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| Allyn: live and learn | 10/4/2006 |
Q: Michelle Its me Allyn. I really messed up. I need an unbiased opinion. There is this guy at work ...
A: First of all, Allyn, please don't worry about being "clingy"--I don't see it that way at all. ...
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| Allyn's problem | 9/30/2006 |
Q: Well, I managed to make it to a gay/les club on a night when they serve actual, real, live people. ...
A: Sounds like a great first foray to me! Here are the positives I found: 1) You got to admit to ...
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| Lesbian daughter's relationship | 9/29/2006 |
Q: Good Morning Michelle, Thank you so very much for your response. I will tell you that I had already ...
A: and I had a feeling you would find the right words. Your daughter and her partner are very blessed ...
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| Lesbian daughter's relationship | 9/28/2006 |
Q: Michelle, I am a 47 year old mother of a lesbian daughter, 21. I love her more than anything and am ...
A: Terry, I hope that I am still in time, I am so sorry I didn't see this email earlier. I want to ...
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| could my wife (34 years) have lesbian tendencies | 9/28/2006 |
Q: My wife says things like "a woman would touch, stroke, rib me differently" "women like to be ...
A: I would say yes, more than likely you are reading more into it, or perhaps misreading it. It sounds ...
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| I'm very unsure about my best mate..as i am myself.... | 9/28/2006 |
Q: well she told me she loves him but doesnt do anything..if ya get my meanin..havent done over a year ...
A: I think "what next" depends on what YOU want...if a casual thing every now and then when she is in ...
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| I'm very unsure about my best mate..as i am myself.... | 9/25/2006 |
Q: yes she is married..i;m not, im single, i'm not gay i love men..she said she is open mined so am i ...
A: Hey Shell...like I say, this is a pretty tough one. If she is married, and if she is happy in her ...
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| I'm very unsure about my best mate..as i am myself.... | 9/23/2006 |
Q: i have know my mate for 4 years now and we play darts and meet up now and again i have likes her ...
A: Wow, what a dilemma! Let's see if I have this correctly: your best friend and you are extremely ...
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| Allyn's life | 9/20/2006 |
Q: I hope I'm not driving you crazy by asking you all of these questions. Thank you so much for being ...
A: ..no, no, you are NOT driving me crazy at all...remember, I have been where you are, so I understand ...
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| Allyn's first time being lesbian in public | 9/20/2006 |
Q: its me, Allyn. I rebelled against my current world today, barreling full force to break status quo ...
A: Allyn, I hope you don't get tired of hearing me say this, or think that I am just trying to mollify ...
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| Is she curious or is it normal? | 9/20/2006 |
Q: I have been dating the same girl for 3 years, i love her very much and our relationship is very ...
A: and being so vulnerable and open. I think it is great that you both are so open sexually and that ...
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| She's confused | 9/18/2006 |
Q: ..I'm really glad I got to talk with someone who shares the whole church scene lifestyle. I ...
A: I'm so glad it helped! And yes, believe me, I know how much it means to be able to connect with ...
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| I, Allyn, have a problem | 9/18/2006 |
Q: I suffered a great emotional let down today. I was rejected by a woman. I need to talk to you about ...
A: First of all, of course you are upset...I think I would be too. You had all your hopes up, and ...
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| She's confused | 9/17/2006 |
Q: Here's my problem...I was dating a girl for 4 YEARS... until 3 months ago, when I came out to my ...
A: .. What an awful position you are in! I'm sorry you are going through this, and I know that it has ...
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| another question from allyn | 9/9/2006 |
Q: We have talked before. I hope you remember me it has not been that long. I liked the advice you gave ...
A: YES, I do remember you! It's good to hear from you again. Good questions again, all... Let's ...
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| Should I continue pursuing her | 9/3/2006 |
Q: I met this girl in club a week ago. I really like her. We had crossed paths before a year ago, but ...
A: ..I just saw this question in the "question pool" and since you wrote it back in September, I wasn't ...
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| marriage | 9/1/2006 |
Q: Me and my gf plan on getting married and i wanted to know where to go. We live in pennsylvania and i ...
A: The only state in the country that has equal rights when it comes to same gender marriage is ...
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| need another point of view | 8/31/2006 |
Q: This is another question I've asked someone else before: I'm 25. I'm a chemist. I have never slept ...
A: Wow, do I know where you are coming from...you are exactly the kind of person I wanted to be there ...
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| am i gay or not???????? | 8/15/2006 |
Q: my name is Brittany and im turning 14 in feb19. I have had many boyfriends and I never was attracted ...
A: .thank you for writing to me. It sounds like this is really hard for you, and I am sorry that you ...
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| Respect | 8/11/2006 |
Q: My name is Veronica and I'm 14 years old. I've been out for almost a year now, and I live in a ...
A: Good morning Veronica. Thanks for writing to me. I would say if your letter is any indication, ...
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