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Education/Credentials MA, Clinical Psychology, Trinity University, San Antonio, TX
I am a 26 years old female. For the past few weeks I have been feeling general malaise & sickness off and on - mostly
muscle aches, very mild fever, fatigue, very mild throat discomfort and very mild cold/flu.
I think this is because I have not been sleeping well for the past few weeks. Lately, I find my life and job very
unfulfilling, so much so that the only things I look forward to in life is to eat. (which is bad - I am slowly but
surely getting fatter).
There are many things going on in my life lately.
1)Career - I think I dont have passion for my job anymore. But the creepier question beneath is - should I change job?
And I dont really know what I want to do which can make money and be fun at the same time. I have already been working
in my present company (my first job) for almost 5 years now. Will it be a stupid decision to change career? Will it be
worth the pay cut? (My company pays quite well). But lately I start to feel like an underdog here. My junior has been
approved to go to an overseas training (which I have applied for but previously denied approval). Then I start to feel
left out as most of my colleagues are more IT savvy than I am. My company mostly does system implementation work. I
have an Electrical & Electronics Engineering Degree background. AT the moment, I cant forsee a bright future with this
company, the only reasons why I am staying is - the pay, and I am not sure whether outside jobs will be better (may be
I am having unrealistic expectations of a job - and switching to a lower paying job will be a foolish move?).
2)Being content with what I have VS losing weight
I am 60kg, 5 feet 2 tall. I went for a check up and discovered that my metabolism is on the low range of a normal
person.I have been actively working out 3-4 times a week (at least one hour session each time) for the past 4 years. I
mostly do high/mix impact cardio workouts(3-4 times per week), with some stretching/flexibility exercises(once / twice
a week) and resistance training (once a week/2 weeks). If it is not for my active lifestyle, I believe my metabolism
rate would even be lower.
I have been chubby all my life. Highest weight is 60kg, lowest weight was 50kg. The weight which I was able to maintain
(5 years ago) was 55-57kg.
Lately, due to work commitments, I have not been able to work out as much as I usually do, and in the near future, I
can forsee even more hectic working schedule.
I eat a normal amount like other people. But sometimes I wonder whether I should go all out to cut out 5 kg of fat?
Should I eat a super light dinner, skip all the sweet tea/coffee that I have after breakfast/lunches, etc? And I am
reluctant to do that because I love those food. But I am always in a lingering limbo - torn between being content with
the size and shape that I have, and whether to vigorously pursue my goal? If yes, that will mean that I will have to
significantly alter my eating habits for the rest of my life. The question will be - is it worth the effort? I honestly
dont know.
Nowadays I just exist through life, going through the motions, directionless and with a vague feeling of depression.
Nothing to look forward to. Can you please help me? I have been having this problem off and on for the past few
months/2 years. Thanks!
Regards,
Karen
Answer Well, some personal coaching would be really good for you (email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc for more information).
I'll give it a shot here. When lost and directionless, you need a map. Surely some changes are in order, as you seem to have lost your zest. What would bring that back? Well it's up to you to discover this. I would certainly start quietly investigating other jobs/companies. How is your social life and hobbies and interests? Do you need a new interest? These we must go out and find; they rarely come to us. I'd start with a medical checkup re: the symptoms you describe, but that's something for a doctor to look at . You could well be sick! There are so many things - like, do you get enough sleep? How about changing your exercise routine, like incorporating it into a sport, or something a nit more interesting and fun.
Those are just a few more ideas. You need to go after these things, and not take the passive role. Like jump start yourself, but first I'd get a checkup, so you can rule out a flu or something, I don't know, not being a doctor.
You can create your map ... I recommend you sign on for some coaching that's ongoing. I hope you will.
All the best,
Susan
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