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Hi Matthew
I dont really have any problems, and that is my problem! At 58, I have a good job, a nice home, loving wife, and two great adult kids. My health has also improved and I am losing weight and working out. Mental health is good too. Since I drive for a living all over the city, I dont care to drive in my own car much-I would rather walk to the mall. I used to play golf and slow pitch but was never very good so I  stopped. I have one close friend but he is always busy, which is fine by me. My 'problem' is that I seem to be quite content to spend my free time just reading, just chillaxin with my wife, and doing as little as possible. I wish we had grandkids, but that may or may not happen. I have no hobbies except reading and watching sports on TV. Maybe I am over thinking this, or feel guilty. Most of my associates are have  busy lives and are not as calm and settled as me. I had a pretty rough childhood, we were poor, and moved a lot. Maybe that's part of it. Anyway, thank you so much for any thoughts or coaching!

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Bud,

As a coach, I feel most people do way too much.  Many people shorten their lives by over booking themselves.

As a fellow person with a rough childhood, poor and moved a lot, I value my down time a lot!  When you are "on" so much as a kid, you can settle into needing that downtime as an adult.  

What I would recommend is to find something that feeds your soul in your community.  Don't do too much with it, just give back.

You already did a wonderful job being a great father, maybe you just need something else to work on.

Feel free to ask more questions, I am here to help.  

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Matthew Halloran

Expertise

I am able to answer questions such as "could I use life coaching or therapy, and what is the difference?" "How can I improve my parenting skills?" "How can I implement consequences with my kids (step-family) and improve my children's overall behavior?" "How do I choose a coach?" "How do I parent my GLBT children?" "How do I come out to your family?" How do I parent adult children with severe and persistent mental illnesses?" "How do I set goals and actually achieve them?" "How can I start my own small business?" "How do I apply for government contracts?" "Who can I find to hold me accountable?" "What is the history of life coaching?""How do I become a life coach?" "How do I market myself?"

Experience

I was a family teacher at Girls and Boystown for five years helping over 100 kids and families manage and live more successfully as a family. I worked in home support for adults with severe and persistent mental illness and worked closely with their families. I focused on life coaching in my masters degree in mental health counseling and I have a graduate certificate in life coaching from one of two universities in the nation that can grant that certificate. I founded a Professional Coaching, Training and Consulting Company called Basha Services.

Organizations
AGLIBIC (Association for GLBT clients in counseling), PFLAG (Parents, Friends and Families of Lesbians and Gays), American Counseling Association, and Bellevue University Alumni Association.

Publications
Journal Of Financial Planning, RIA Biz, Dow Jones Advisor.

Education/Credentials
I have my BS in Professional and Applied Ethics and my Masters Degree in Human Services with a focus on Mental Health Counseling and Life Coaching.

Awards and Honors
Graduated with my Masters Degree with a 4.0 GPA. Navy achievement medal, three letters of commendation (Navy), Persian Gulf War Veteran and Enlisted Surface Warfare Specialist (Navy).

Past/Present Clients
I currently coach clients on starting business, personal goal attainment and marketing their new business. I have exited the therapy field to pursure coaching as a full time profession.

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