AboutChris Harris Expertise I can help with general mental health questions including depression, crisis intervention, drug abuse, and relationship questions. I am not able to give advice about medications or legal advice.
Experience Out patient therapist, emergency room social worker, and drug and alcohol counselor
Education/Credentials masters degree in social work, State social work license
Expert: Chris Harris Date: 7/4/2008 Subject: ..help?
Question hello
firstly i dont no if ive posted this in the right place if not can you please point me in the right direction.
i am recovering from an eating disorder, i do hate myself and my body. But the thing that i dont understand is why do i "hate" sex. Ive got the most lovely boyfriend he supports me in everyway possible & i trust him. Its just when it comes down to being intimate i do it because i want to keep my boyfriend happy although hes told me loads of times he will wait forever. We've been together a while now and sometimes i do enjoy it but other times i feel like ive been violated and i just want him to get off me i want to cry and scream but i dont no why?. I have had this problem before my eating disorder etc i just dont no why i cant be normal. Can you please point me in the right direction?
Answer Dear Me,
I must confess this is not a question I can adequately answer for you. i do not work with eating disorders and have limited experience from which to draw upon. Sex and your eating disorder may be related but I do not have enough experience to give you much guidance. There are MD's and psychiatrists on this site who may have more knowledge and can help. My gut reaction is your aversion to sex and your distorted body image (self hatred) may stem from some type of early childhood trauma but this is only a guess. Please try to email one of the MD's on this site to see if they have any insights that may be helpful. Sorry for the lack of help with this question.
Chris
