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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Long Distance Relationship | 1/16/2012 | Michelle & Frank |
| Q: So my best friend and I started a relationship in October of last year. He is now my boyfriend, a ... A: I was in your shoes just a few years ago. Frank and I were both in school and couldn't be together ... | ||
| Long distance relationship | 12/31/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I am currently in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year ... A: a few years?...you're willing to go through this that long?..the only way to get relief is to not ... | ||
| Distance Killing Us | 12/6/2011 | Azure |
| Q: Hey, I'm currently involved in a relationship that has been ongoing for 2 years and 2 months. We ... A: distance, especially during college years, destroys many relationships..usually 1 person is trying ... | ||
| Fallen into Routine | 12/5/2011 | Azure |
| Q: Before I ask for advice, I feel that I should give you a short background, so that you would have a ... A: this sounds more like a bad habit than a good relationship; your values, interests, ambitions, ... | ||
| Relationship Anxiety | 11/4/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. I’m 18 and he’s 22. I’m not really sure what my ... A: hard to have a healthy relationship seeing someone 4 times a year--it's really more a fantasy; real ... | ||
| relationship problems | 10/12/2011 | Azure |
| Q: my boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, and have been together for 4 years. About 7 months ago he ... A: in most relationships, one person is the weaker/needier--unfortunately, in this case it's you; the ... | ||
| Emotional affair, mostly long distance | 9/7/2011 | Azure |
| Q: For the past couple of years I've been cultivating a mostly online relationship with a woman from ... A: "work" can have alot of definitions..considering your limitations and goals, this IS working about ... | ||
| long distance relationship with a soldier | 8/30/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I have been communicating with a soldier named Ray for some time now, we are very much in love, but ... A: you've become addicted to a fantasy...healthy relationships aren't conducted on a computer, they ... | ||
| Long distance Relationships | 8/22/2011 | Azure |
| Q: ..he is just perfect, romantic, special, and so sweet every thing he does is amazing and I love him ... A: unless you/he have a concrete plan to be together within 6 months, you are not only wasting your ... | ||
| Waiting in LDR | 8/20/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I lived in another country for 3 years. I met my boyfriend a year before I returned to the United ... A: unless there is a concrete plan to be together within a few months, this will only get worse; tere's ... | ||
| cool off period | 8/17/2011 | Azure |
| Q: im in a long distance relationship for almost 2 yrs.. i may say we were doing okay and trying to ... A: he's out living a REAL life, while you're sitting there wasting yours in fantasyland; healthy ... | ||
| long distance realtionship concerns | 7/28/2011 | Azure |
| Q: So I recently started dating a friend of mine that I went of high school with. In High school I had ... A: tough situation..my suggestion would be to continue seeing her while you can, but leave open the ... | ||
| LDR, Never Met, Someone New | 7/12/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I met this great guy online 2 years ago, but we live in different states. Both 23 y/o, and we ... A: what you currently have been wasting precious time on is more a fantasy than a relationship; all you ... | ||
| LONG distance relationship | 7/11/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I recently moved to Japan for a 1 year job. The months leading up to the job, my girl and I fell ... A: you're not just "anyone"..you sound afraid of her--her she is showing you ZERO care/consideration, ... | ||
| Not sure what to do... | 6/16/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I just came back from a group vacation to the Caribbean island of Jamaica! We were there for 10 days ... A: trying to make a fun ten days into some big thing at 4000 miles, is foolish; not to mention, you've ... | ||
| Long Distance Relationship | 6/9/2011 | Michelle & Frank |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 7 months now, I'm from Australia and he's from Canada. ... A: Although you've been together for over 2 years, you're both also young - so you're both going to be ... | ||
| will long distance relationship affect our love | 6/7/2011 | Azure |
| Q: . this is jenna! i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have been ... A: separation can be very difficult..no one can predict the future, but it will help if you both ... | ||
| will long distance relationship affect out love | 6/5/2011 | Michelle & Frank |
| Q: . this is jenna! i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have been ... A: Long distance relationships can and do work but they aren't for everyone and they aren't easy. You ... | ||
| LDR time to move on? | 5/18/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I met my boyfriend over a year ago and we live 200 miles apart. Neither of us wanted a relationship ... A: he's basically told you it's this or nothing, and the future offers no means of improvement; i'd at ... | ||
| long distance crazyness | 5/12/2011 | Azure |
| Q: i'm madly in love with this woman, she stays 370 miles from me but tries to come and stay with me on ... A: the needier person always has the harder time of it... i wouldn't get too bogged down with the ... | ||
| Possible break up? | 5/4/2011 | Azure |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for well over a year now and we live approximately 5 hours ... A: with her attitude, and no solution for the distance issue, i'm afraid you're chasing a dream...time ... | ||
| Long Distance Relationship | 4/25/2011 | Azure |
| Q: my name is Kira and I've been in a long distance relationship (LDR). I've tried to find people with ... A: but you're still trying to compare someone you haven't even met with people you see; if you think ... | ||
| Long Distance Relationship | 4/23/2011 | Azure |
| Q: my name is Kira and I've been in a long distance relationship (LDR). I've tried to find people with ... A: but keep in mind, this is someone you haven't even met; people can be alot different in person, and ... | ||
| long distance abroad | 4/18/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with my high school boyfriend for 2 years now since I ... A: anything is fair that 2 people agree on, but i don't believe in living in a committed relationship ... | ||
| Contemplating a break: Am in a long distance, I want to settle down but she doesn't | 4/8/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I met the love of my life while studying abroad almost two years ago. It was truly love at first ... A: this is a tough one--you can't really urge her to see it your way, else you run the risk of her ... | ||
| Confused in a long distance relationship | 3/30/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I am 25 years old and I am in a long distance relationship. He is in the United States and I am in ... A: unfortunately for you, you are the needier, more involved one; not good; stop initiating contact, ... | ||
| Long distance.. and if a break is permanent or temporary | 3/27/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me over a text message about 5 days ago. We have been on other ... A: if you have any self-esteem, you don't wait around while he lives his life; essentially, you've been ... | ||
| Long Distance Emotions | 3/23/2011 | Azure |
| Q: so me&my boyfriend met through an online game many years ago But we had just gotten together and ... A: wake up call--healthy relatonships need REAL TIME TOGETHER, seeing each other, doing things; you ... | ||
| first boyfriend- long distance? | 3/16/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I'm Alicia I am 16 years old, a sophomore, live in the San Fransisco Bay Area and I've never had a ... A: hey there alicia...you sound pretty mature for 16..pursuing a relationship? depends what that means; ... | ||
| Long Distance Relationship WorkOut | 3/15/2011 | Michael Mordinson |
| Q: Me and my fiancee, we were in a strong love relationship from past 5 years but unfortunately she had ... A: There is an old and very good saying: Let the bird fly away and it returns that it really wants to ... | ||
| Long distance, freshmen in college | 3/15/2011 | Azure |
| Q: and thank you for taking my question! This fall, I will be a freshmen in college. Which means, ... A: college changes everything, and the relationship will be severely tested, with the odds of it ... | ||
| Crossroads in a relationship | 3/15/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years now. The entire time he's been a member of the ... A: i think your request is more than fair--you're asking for a certain level of commitment that the ... | ||
| my girlfriend and i | 3/4/2011 | Michael Mordinson |
| Q: i knew her 3yrs ago,she's my sis frnd i ask her out on phone after wevebeen friend for 1yr and she ... A: the most valuable thing that we have is our TIME! therefore i would recommend you to ask yourself if ... | ||
| long distance | 3/4/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My relationship with my boyfriend had been a quite complicated one. We have been friends from school ... A: wake up call---you're hanging on to a dream, and essentially wasting precious time, while he's out ... | ||
| Not being open enough in a relationship | 3/3/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we share a lot of trust and emotional ... A: it's ok to ASK for what you want, but you're still at her mercy as to her ability/interest/desire to ... | ||
| Not being open enough in a relationship | 3/3/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we share a lot of trust and emotional ... A: not sure what politely persuade means..you can tell her that the more feelings shared, the greater ... | ||
| Not being open enough in a relationship | 3/3/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we share a lot of trust and emotional ... A: there aren't any specific rules on such matters, it's what you both agree on; she's telling you what ... | ||
| Long Distance College Relationship | 2/25/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I am currently a freshman in college. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend ... A: listen to your family...in the long run, it's riskier to attempt to stay with 1 person all the way ... | ||
| Long distance fidelity | 2/8/2011 | Azure |
| Q: My relationship with my boyfriend is quite complicated. My boyfriend and I met about 4 and half ... A: you're not in love, you're in "addiction"..you've already wasted 3 years of your life in a ... | ||
| HElP to get HIm BACK | 2/3/2011 | Azure |
| Q: my bf of 3 yrs (on and off) broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We only started a LDR 7 months ago when he ... A: guys lie all the time..he can't handle the "obligation"?..nonsense..that means he doesn't want the ... | ||
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