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Expert: Azure Date: 6/20/2008 Subject: strain of the distance
Question Hello, me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship for about 2 1/2 months. We are both students and we live in different cities just a few hours apart. We've met quite a few times in person. The problem is that we've had a few arguments recently that i feel are driven by the distance. She has been feeling really lonely and i feel so useless. We meet a few times a month, talk everyday on msn, sms and so on. I know she's feeling lonely, the same as me. As i'm a student i can't afford to travel there too much because of the money, she knows. I plan to move to the same city over the summer next after i graduate, but i feel the strain is showing and i feel this relationship isn't going to last until then.
Is there anything i can do to try and help the relationship survive until then, or do i just have to hope?
Thanks,
Answer you might want to consider making it a more "open" arrangement where each person is free to meet/date others if they WANT to; especially during student years, not being able to enjoy such valuable experiences can lead to resentment, frustration, argument; if it's meant to be, there'll still be a connection waiting once you can be closer; the cypress and the oak grow not in each others' shadow..
