Expert: Michelle & Frank - 10/13/2009

Question
I have been in an LDR for the last six months. I met my boyfriend on the internet, took us 3 weeks to discover we have alot in common and the fact that we are inlove. 3 weeks later we met and spent 2 days together and its been 4 months now and we havent met since. I love this man so much and its driving me insane that we cant do the simplest things together. We chat for hours every single day, talk on the phone and web chat every weekend but sometimes it gets so hard that i cant eat or get any sleep or end up crying myself to sleep. I just miss him so much but dont want to tell him i am having a hard time because i dont want him to worry about me..this situation is hard enough on us. I love him and will wqit for him forever if i have to but how do i cope with the loneliness?

Answer
Well it sounds like you both are getting lots of time to communication.  And that is great.

But what you don't have is time to do things for yourself, outside of the relationship.  You spend your free time thinking about him and worrying.  But you have to remember that you need to take a step back from that and focus your energy on other things as well.  It will be really good for your relationship.  

So if you find yourself missing him so much, find something to do; distract yourself.  Pop in a good movie, read a book, go out shopping, call up a good friend, listen to music.

It's okay to take a break from missing your boyfriend, it doesn't mean you love him any less.