AboutNorthstar Expertise I can answer question about how to stay close to your significant other, despite the distance. I am currently in a long distance relationship, so I've experienced many problems first hand. Whether a person is having a hard time saying good-bye after a visit, dealing with time differences, bothersome siblings, or an overwhelming schedule; I have tips and ideas that will help people work through their problems and keep a level head. I understand that being in a LDR comes with a whole host of unique problems and situations that don't occur in relationships where both parties have easy access to each other. I also understand how easy it is to start playing mind games with yourself, and worrying over the past, present and future. I can answer questions about how to resolve conflict/trust issues, how to stay connected, and keep the spark burning.
Experience I am in a long distance relationship, so I know first hand how difficult and frustrating this arrangement can be. My advice will be two-fold, on the one hand I will be able to provide my insight, and on the other hand, my significant other will be able to provide his point of as well. This means I will better be able to see ANY situation from both a male and female perspective.
Education/Credentials I recently graduated from college with a BA in History
Question Hi, before I start I'm just going to say I'm fifteen and shes fifteen also, a little young to be in love I guess,so she lives in Idaho I live in Florida and I just I know that girls will say things that they don't mean even they might even say I love you and not mean it even boys like myself, but I only felt this way two times and shes my second time I feel this way. We have talked on the phone and over the Internet it seems to me I care a lot about her more than she does me I get kind of depressed that I know that there is a possibility that we may never meet but I don't want to think about that because the only thing I want in life is to meet her. I get this feeling like my hearts drowning and I get depressed and I just want to hug her that's all I really want to do is just to hug her and tell her I love her that's it, not like most people even kids my age want sex and stuff similar to that. She lost her phone so I'm not feeling so good and I don't think this is puppy love. I care for her a lot deeply I would take a bullet for her and I don't just say that I mean it, and... every night before I go to bed I well... its a little embarrassing but.. I hug my pillow and I try to imagine the best I can and after wards I pray to god that if we never meet I want god to kill me in my sleep but it never happens but I still know there's only a slight chance of me ever meeting her. I hope you can give me your advice on how I can solve this problem even if its something I already thought of in my mind it will be good coming from someone with knowledge about this. Thanks.
Answer Hello Thomas. I'm going to help you, but I'll warn you now: you probably won't like what I have to say... but that won't make my words any less true.
You are not in love with this girl- you are in love with a FANTASY. You are addicted to a person you have never actually met, and the basis for your emotions revolves around what you IMAGINE to be true... and not on truth itself. You need to break this addiction and reclaim your life.
If you are having suicidal thoughts then you need to get professional help. You should stop talking to her online, in fact- get away from the computer all together. You need to reconnect with the world and people around you. Join clubs, go out with friends, get a pet. Meet people NEAR you. You are very young and have a tremendous amount of time to meet a young lady you are compatible with.
Focus on your life, and on improving your self esteem. Talk to a trusted adult and tell them how you are feeling.
