Expert: Michelle & Frank - 2/22/2009

Question
QUESTION: do you think if i sent him msg tomorrow to call me it would be like im going after him?

ANSWER: I think that would be fine.  You could say, "I'm ready to have that talk you wanted to have." or something, so it doesn't sound like you're nagging.

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QUESTION: i will thanks..have you experienced or seen expirements for people in ldrs like my experience?  i mean when the guy calls once in the month and things like this..?

ANSWER: I have talked to people that might talk once a week or once every couple weeks.  Not once per month.  But I do know that there are others that only talk that often from the survey I have on my site.  Here are the results of that survey:  http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/347366/results

Again, if that is something you'd like to see change it's something you have to talk about with him and come to some agreement.  And just be cool and calm about it.

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QUESTION: well,this relation is since 8 months..most of the months has this  less talking  on phone problem..i have tried to solve it with him but couldnt find the right way..i dont know why..i was thinking of calling him too,but im always afraid to bother him..you know i just want him to talk to me,to tell me what bothers him,to share me his life..i have learnt from you many things and im so grateful to you..i still hope to find the right way in dealing with him..

Answer
If you have the control to limit your phone calls to once per day, then I don't think bothering him should be an issue.  Obviously don't send him a ton of messages if he doesn't answer and don't call back more than once if he doesn't answer the first time.  That would bother him.

See if he would be okay with you getting a phone card when you get to talk to him again.  Or see if he will call more.

Good luck.