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Question My bf and i have been together for more than year. We've been in a LDR for a yr now. The distance will end in august of 2009 =) and he will be back home forever! Here is the dilemma: Before being in this LDR my bf and i decided that we will get married and have a future.. That is why we both stepped up, We both know how hard med school is and that is why at the end we decided to stay together. Things are going great, i understand the fact that he is studying 24/7 and has such a busy schd. He calls me whenever he can, and we talk for hrs and hrs. Sometimes i will also slip by an email and txt :) I do not know why but i tend to get very jealous and lonely... like whenever i see him signed on yahoo for hrs i feel so broken. Yet i remind myself that he does have a life besides me, he can be talking to his family and friends. It also scares me that he might be talking to someone else. But knowing my bf he wouldn't do that, he is the type of guy who constantly tells me how much he loves me and misses me. Whenever we talk we are always talking about our future, how our babies room will be and what car i will get after getting married to him. He is a wonderful person and we love each other so much. Actions speak louder than words and i see that he does love me. I need help, i need to stop over thinking that he is doing something wrong when he is online. I need to be positive about myself and him. I trust him 110%, if i were even blind my trust in him will be the same. I feel like the main reason why i am like this is because of the fact he still has a myspace. We met on myspace and i deleted mine because guys kept bugging me, but he kept his. His profile is on public so i can see who comments him and stuff. My bf is a very good looking person, and by his nature he does like to flirt but i know that the end of the day he loves me. So why am i feeling so broken when i see him on yahoo? why do i keep thinking he is talking to other girls instead of me?
Answer I don't know about you, but I usually always have my instant messenger logged on, even if I'm not using it. Frank does the same usually. That's usually how we leave messages for each other. I may not be there when Frank writes the message, but when I open my laptop the first thing I'll see is his message.
So it is quite possible that he isn't even on his computer most of the time you see him logged onto his Yahoo messenger. He might just leave it on.
MySpace is another communication tool that is used to stay in touch with friends, family. Some make an account just to friend their favorite artists/bands, listen to their music, and show their support. So what you have to remember is that MySpace isn't a dating site.
I know what you mean by having creepy people message you on MySpace. Guys used to send me messages until I made my account private. It happens, but do you think your boyfriend would act on MySpace messages?
These are just some things to think about I guess. We can't be 100% certain about what his online activities are. And that is why you should talk to him about your concerns. You can have a indepth conversation or even be casual about it and message him when you see him on Yahoo. If he answers and is on, ask him if he was busy talking to someone else.
Don't be scared to bring up these things you're feeling. He is the one person who can give you reassurance, and when you keep silent about your worries, you make it so he can't make you feel better, and hence, you keep worrying.
From what you have said, it sounds like he loves you. He spends a lot of his spare time with you, which he has little of because of med school, and it doesn't sound like he'd waste it on some girl on MySpace.
I hope this has helped. Make sure you talk about it with him!
