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Question QUESTION: "Hello, I'm 20, my long distance girl of 3 months is 19 and is not sure if she wants to take a break from the relationship. I'm in Japan, she's in US.
When I told her "if that's what you want, then let's take a break", she replied "I don't know what I want .. maybe I'm just tired." She has also suggested we pick up the relationship and start over when I go back home in about 4 months. I've told her "I have zero intention to beg you to stay. We will always have what we shared together. Just do what makes you happy"
So now we are at this stand-still.
I've told her i will call from time to time to see how she was doing. Today was the 1st time I called and she seemed a little cold, excusing herself out of the conversation saying "I'm going to go take a nap" when I apologized for not being there for her for the past 2 weeks when it was especially hard on her. Perhaps my fault for trying to talk about mushy, relationship stuff with her when her feelings about me are mixed as it is.
So my course of action now is to not contact her for a while. I believe that she will contact me when she is ready and me calling her at a regular interval or me doing anything in general won't change her mind.
I know this relationship is almost over but I just wanted to hear your take on this. Should I keep some kind of a time deadline and say like "next sunday at this time, let's schedule a skype conversation so we can sit down and talk about where we are at so we can decide if we want this break or not?"
thank you so much
P.S
one thing I'm worried about is the fact that she is even contemplating this break is because I did not call her enough for the past 2 weeks. She does not have international calling, so I was the one always initiating but after she didn't pick up a couple times and she started declining skype conversations, I took it personally and stopped trying although it was just her crazy exam schedule. So I don't know if not calling her even more will help this situation at all. Does the NC concept apply differently to LDR because if I don't call, I see no reason why she will miss me when she couldn't even see me anyways.
ANSWER: how many times have you seen each other?..what does the future hold as to being close enough to see each other weekly?
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QUESTION: we saw each other casually for 2 months back at home. We haven't seen each other since late December though. In the future, we will be attending the same university so weekly we might see each other everyday ... if this relationship were to work out
ANSWER: what's home?...why are u separated now? when exactly will you back in close proximity?
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QUESTION: home is NC, USA. we are separated due to my study-abroad exchange program in Tokyo. We will be back in proximity in Mid August
Answer seeing each other casually for a couple of months, followed by a long separation, isn't exactly the basis for alot of expectation, especially as she seems pretty indifferent; at this point, let it lie for a couple of weeks--when you do make contact, keep the conversation light, no controversial topics; if there's any hope at all here, it won't show until you're actually around...
