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Question Hi.
I'm 19 years old I'm seeing a guy i meet on holidays( we were both on holidays another state) its at a very early stage. he lives a state away from me.
while on holidays we meet up with each other 3 times that was last month. we talk and text each other most days!
but i feel like I'm the only one trying, its hard for me to talk to him on the phone because of the hours we both work(when I'm not working he is, when I'm working he is not) i want to know what the chances r of long distant relationship are of working considering! he doesn't have Internet at home for me to msn/skype or e-mail him.
I'm afraid that the fun we had together was just like a holiday fling and nothing more.
but I'm almost positive that if he lived in my state or vice versa we would be together.
Answer stop trying---it's up to HIM to show sufficient effort in taking the lead to keep this goin--lower expectations, as this could already be over...focus on your CURRENT life, and meeting/dating those NEARBY you can see, touch, observe, do things with.."ifs" don't count--the reality is he's not around much and you are but an afterthought to his present life--put him in the same place....
