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Question I met a man on a dating website about 3 months ago, and he lives about 1.5 hours from me. We started out the usual way, sending emails back and forth, then exchanging phone numbers and calling/texting. I had some cosmetic surgery scheduled out of town during this time period, but we met for a date just before my surgery, the chemistry was awesome and the date was fantastic. He called me and kept in contact via phone throughout my recovery, and is in regular, daily contact by phone, text and email since then. Our communication has gotten more intense, much more intimate, but the the thing is, I have been home nearly two months now and we have not seen one another in person since that first time. He has expressed that he really wants to see me, and has also discussed going away on a mini vacation later this summer. He has been super tied up with work, a daughter graduating, some stuff with his young son, and I have been occupied with my recovery, my job, my kids. It seems like the timing is just off, he swears it's only temporary, but on the other hand, a man will make time for what matters to him most, and I don't seem to be making the cut. I really like this man, he says he likes me, I'd like to spend some time with him because I could see myself in a serious relationship with him, but it's not happening right now, and I am afraid to let myself get too attached emotionally because we haven't been physically together except one time. How much more time should I throw at this before I cut bait, in your opinion?
Answer as you said, where there's a will there's a way--the guy, for whatever reason, isn't that interested--stop wasting all this time communicating, be less "available", meet/date others, lower expectations to zero, see what happens/doesn't, either way no big deal...
