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Question QUESTION: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months now, and we have
been in love for a few months. He recently moved 6 hours away, and its been
hard adjusting to the LDR life. I completely trust him, and I know he wouldn't
hurt me for anything; however, he has a close female friend who has actually
told him she wanted to sleep with him recently. He told her he wouldn't do
that, and she hasn't spoken about it since; but they have been hanging out as
much as they used to and he's acting like nothing happened. Would it be
unreasonable to ask him to tone down on the friendship with her a little?
They've been good friends for a while and he said that she's been there for
him when no one else was, so he doesn't feel that what she said was cause
enough to stop hanging out with her as much. He and I are best friends, but
this has caused a strain in our relationship and our friendship lately, and I'm
not sure where I should go from here. Any advice on how I should handle
this would be really great.
ANSWER: how often do you see him? is there a concrete plan where you'll be close enough to date normally?
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QUESTION: He just moved about two weeks ago, and it will be about a month more
before he'll be back to where I can see him. Prior to our disagreement, he
was making plans for me to move down with him.
Answer your distress is understandable; in deference to him, i'm assuming he was fortright/honest in telling you, and i assume you believe he has no romantic interest in her; you didn't say if he empathized with your feelings--if not, he SHOULD have; you also didn't say what their relationship consists of as far as amount of time together, what they do, if you're included; once you provide more details, i can finish the answer..
