About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I have been in plenty of long distance relationships before and I know for a fact that they do take lots of hard work and dedication. I can help with making a relationship strong enough to last even through distance, breaking up long distance, not knowing what to do when things get hard, dealing with heart break, starting to like someone else even though you are in a relationship long distance, etc. If you need advice I`m here to help and if you just need someone to talk to then I`ll be glad to listen.
Experience I have been in long distance relationships before and some have worked and some
have not. I know plenty of people who are in the same type of relationships as these.
Question I still love him A LOT... and he just broke up with me yesterday after 2 weeks in LDR. We were in the relationship for 6 months already in the US, and then he had to go back to his country and me as well. At first, he said he wanted to try to keep the relationship and I said yes, because i love him. But yesterday, he said that he didn't love me anymore. I couldn't and never wanted to understand why and how. I asked him the reasons, and he said first because of the distance and second because he didn't want to fight with me anymore, he wants harmony. I don't get it! It's true that we fought a lot when we were in USA, and it's true that i argued with him 2 times after we were back to our own country. I asked him that he was sure about not loving me anymore, and he said yes. Then i asked if he had another girl and he said no. He wanted to stop the relationship, but keep the contact with me. I don't understand. Does he really stop loving me? What can I do now? I can still keep the contact but what about my love, I still want to love him. I was the first GF in his life, so he didn't really understand what was the problem between us. Last time, when we were still in USA, he also broke up with me, because we were in fights, but the next day he wanted to have a chance to think about it, because after that he felt really sad. So I don't know if this time would be same like last time. I've never been in the real relationship too, so actually I don't know what and why and how. I just want to know if he still love me even a little bit, and if I can make up with him. Please give me the answer soon.
Answer Hello
I am not him so I am not sure if he really did stop loving you or not. It is definitely possible that he lost those feelings for you over time. People cannot really control how they feel at times, and yes it is possible that he realized that he doesn't love you. Again, this may or may not be the case. Either way this is something only he can know, and until he tells you otherwise, it might be best to trust his word.
What you can do now is still keep in contact with him. All this arguing clearly led your relationship to a very bad step. Maybe talking to him as a friend and trying to make things good between you guys, without all this arguing will really be good for you guys.
Either way I think you can make up for all of this but you really need to try and stop arguing with him. Constant arguments after just 6 months of dating is really bad so you really need to show him that things can be great between you guys even as friends. I just think it's time that you guys stop arguing so much and for you both to try and figure out how to handle issues without constantly arguing about it. Anyway good luck with this!
