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Question My boyfriend and I had been going out for seven months. We were on LDR for summer break from college. i would have seen him in three weeks. yesterday was when we called things off. The things was I didn't see it coming. I called him to talk about the situation taht we had about how the relationship hasn't been as great as it was. I hardly got a phone call from him for a couple of days and felt ignored from him so yesterday we had the talk. The thing I wanted us to do was to get better as a couple. I didn't want it to end. I know that it will end eventually since we both will eventually might go to different grad school. Right now, i'm confused and hurt since it was my first relationship.
He brought up about how we should take a break and see where we were when we go back to school, but i interpret that the same as breaking up becuase i think he didn't want to hurt me. then he eventually brought up the whole situation that he might be go back home after he graduate in December and thing will end. I feel that he had all these problems before but never talk to me about it and i feel like yesterday was his loop hole to end things with me. He talked about remaining as friend after this, I don't know what to do and i would like some help.
Answer You're right, whenever someone calls for a "break" it usually means "break-up." He doesn't sound like he wants this relationship anymore.
So there isn't much you can do unless he is willing to work with you to make things in your relationship better. If he was willing, I think the first thing you'd have to work on with him is communication. If he had these problems with the relationship before, and never said anything about it to you, he definitely has communication issues and for whatever reason was afraid to tell you how he felt.
I never think that a "break" is a good solution. First see if you can work on things. If he says he doesn't want to work on things and still wants the break, then you might as well kiss the relationship goodbye, because he's not going to want to come back to it.
