Expert: Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) - 7/22/2009

Question
hi my name is Jackie and iv been dating this gut for a while.he lives in Egypt and i live in the USA California. we don't really talk about getting married and having kids but he does tell me that he wants to marry me then have kids. one day i asked him if we do get married how are we going to meet and everything. He told me that i should go to Egypt for a vacation then if like the way he lives when i am old enough that we will get married and i will go and live with him. but i don't know about this because i don't want to leave my family and friends. i also want to still go to school like college university and have my own carrier

please help me what should i do I'm really confused

Answer
Hello

From what you told me it seems like a very bad idea to go to another continent just to get married and have children. It sounds like you are not old enough to really make an informed decision. Not to mention that a vacation in Egypt would not tell you if this is a place you should live at or not. You would get a preview of the culture but if you were serious about marrying this guy then you would spend at least 6 months there to really get a feel for the culture. Not to mention that if he was serious about this then he would consider flying out to see you as well. I think it's best for you to stay and go to college and start your life. For all you know, the guy your supposed to be with, could be someone you meet in college or sometime afterwards. You've never even met this guy from Egypt so now is not the time to think about committing yourself to him and throwing away your potential career and college education. Anyway I wish you the best of luck with this!

Melissa