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Question Hi Azure, How do handle my 16 year old son's LDR? Help! He went to summer camp for 3 weeks and came back in love with a girl he met that lives 4 hours away.
Since being back he has changed his entire demeanor and interests. She came to visit this past weekend and all they did was flirt, hug, kiss..etc We tried to get to know her, but she only seemed interested in him.
He lied about driving over to she her a few weeks ago and we have pretty much reached our limit of this with him. I love him and respect him, but it seems he is headed for a heartbreak down the road.
They bypassed any dating scene and seem to have gone right into an exclusive relationship which scres me as the local girls may not be interested in him if he is taken by someone he only sees on occasion.
I try and be respectfull, but my patience is running thin especially since he informed us he was going to spend his birthday with her so they can go to teen dance clubs. They will be ice skating in hell before we allow that.
I'm hurt, confused and scared.
A loving parent
Answer teen crushes are understandable, but until he's 18, and while he's still living with you, you make the rules..if he's lied, he should be punished, and it should be made clear what the rules are, and the consequences if they are broken..certainly the computer/car, etc, can be taken away...time to be loving, but firm, else you'll wind up a grandmother in a few months...
