AboutNorthstar Expertise I can answer question about how to stay close to your significant other, despite the distance. I am currently in a long distance relationship, so I've experienced many problems first hand. Whether a person is having a hard time saying good-bye after a visit, dealing with time differences, bothersome siblings, or an overwhelming schedule; I have tips and ideas that will help people work through their problems and keep a level head. I understand that being in a LDR comes with a whole host of unique problems and situations that don't occur in relationships where both parties have easy access to each other. I also understand how easy it is to start playing mind games with yourself, and worrying over the past, present and future. I can answer questions about how to resolve conflict/trust issues, how to stay connected, and keep the spark burning.
Experience I am in a long distance relationship, so I know first hand how difficult and frustrating this arrangement can be. My advice will be two-fold, on the one hand I will be able to provide my insight, and on the other hand, my significant other will be able to provide his point of as well. This means I will better be able to see ANY situation from both a male and female perspective.
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Question now i am telling u the clear sitution i talk her clerly she told me everything that she dont want marry me because she leave in big city and i am from a very small city there have nothing and she told from the date she told me about that boy after i use to ask her question daily thtsty her love decrese for me but now we make all things clear and now she love me like before but she cant marry me because of city reson and my condition is also not good in money i want that if i marry her then i will give her all happiness for that i need 1 or 2 year but her home condtion is not well she want to marry early.i ask her u love that boy then she told no i dont love him i love u only but he is good boy and leving also same city.then i told her ok i love you truly and if u feel that you cant adjuest in my city than dont marry me.where u like there you marry and if you need my help then i will help you.now we are togther.she told that boy before 2,3 days that i am agree for marry and she told her father that she will not marry me she use to say this because 2,3 days before we was fight badly but now everything ok now she telling me that now god will do what he wants because she is in very bad condition and totly confused.i told her dont marry me but how i accept it i cant marry her because this all reason and i cant leave her because i love her truley.she also have same condition.i am thinking that which day she will marry with someone else then how i feel and what i do.we are totly confused and in bad codition.now we use to talk each other daily and every time we use to chat like before she told me that now u realise that i love you only for this feelings i was waiting and you are my true love.whenever she talk me about that boy then i feel very bad that boy father will meet her after 10,15 days now pls help me what i do.
Answer There are three possible solutions:
1. You move to her city and live there
2. She moves to your city and lives with you there
3. You both move to another city
The fact is, a marriage cannot work unless you know where you are BOTH going to live. It sounds as though she isn't willing to move to be with you because she doesn't like your small city. It also sounds as though you CAN'T go live in her city because of financial difficulties. If she isn't willing to put forth the offort to make this work, then she doesn't really love you.
You have to talk to her and figure out a solution. If she isn't willing to move to where you are, then she SHOULD be all right with waiting a few years to get married. I don't understand what the other boy's father has to do with this, but he can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do.
