AboutThe Interesting Woman Expertise I can answer all questions pertaining to starting, maintaining, and enhancing a long distance relationship. I specialize in long distance relationships that were started online -- Long distance online dating relationships have unique nuances and issues that make them completely different other relationships.
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Question my boyfriend and i have been together only 4 months and has now accepted a new job that takes him away from the city or country.......not only that he is away for long periods of time....2 weeks to up to 3 months......he just did his first tour and was gone for just over 2 weeks and his next tour is coming up in a week or so and i have just found it really hard as i still have to work during the day.....we are both stressed about the time we spend together and yet he has family and friends to see too.....i try to be understanding towards that.....but im so excited hes here but yet i cant get it out of my head about his next job thats coming up and the next one...it can be called at a moments notice....seems its a just a new relationship i want to spend as much time as i can and we seem to fight about silly things due to stress about his job......he loves the job and i am happy for him as its a great opportunity but i cant help feeling sad about him leaving........im not sure how to deal with the emotions im having and yet being happy with the little time we do have together.....any ideas?
Answer Kiwi,
There are two questions you need to ask yourself:
1. Is this the kind of relationship I want?
2. Is this the kind of life I want?
If the answer to both questions is yes, then relax -- you're living the dream. If you find either unsatisfying at this point in time, you need to do some thinking about what exactly your dream life and your dream relationship is like. The key to answering these questions is THINKING IN ABSTRACT, that is, don't fixate on the man you are with when answering these questions. Think in general, are you happy with your relationship and your life right now? Read these two articles and follow the instructions - you'll be fine:
